Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Looks vs. Personality

Dannyrt34

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I've posted before about these two girls I'm dating. Deciding which one I'd like to be exclusive with as I'm a relationship kind of guy.

One girl is really cute/innocent looking. I usually like that look, but my god does she love to complain about everything. Every day she calls me when she gets off, complaining about work, everyone at work, life in general. She talks, NON STOP, I usually only say "yes" or something while she's blabbering on, to let her know I'm listening. Meanwhile, she can't see that I'm basically slapping myself in the face while on the phone with her, dieing to get off the dam phone. I consider this a bad personality.

The other girl, I consider on the hot side. She has more of a mean/b'tchy look to her. With a lip pearcing, wears jeans with crazy rips up the legs (It's really sexy actually). Usually I avoid these girls as they just look slutty. But to my surprise she's a sweetheart. Always thanking me for hanging out with her, and offers to pay when we go out. Flirts in a shy, innocent way.

Basically I learned a huge lesson from dating these two girls. The one about judging books by their covers. So far, I'm leaning towards the second girl. Both of these girls surprised the hell out of me of how their personalities do not match their looks at all.

But now I'm curious, how much does personality mean to of you? Do you like looks over personality or vice versa?

Thanks for reading.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Dedication

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Personally, i don't really think the way you do. I always think looks + personality but if you want to compare the 2 heres my opinion:

The first hb sux the second rox.

I had a friend who used to complain, now i don't hang out with him because of it. You become who you hang out with. Don't let other people drive you crazy its not healthy for you and them.
 

Dedication

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If ya don't like the choice, you can always throw the coin away.
 

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yeah some girls put up a nice and cute act and once they get you to be their boyfriend they just complain their mouth off.

anyways the second girl is hot AND has an awesome personality? I don't see what the dilemma is here unless there are some other things you are not telling us
 

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Well, the second girl I mentioned. Didn't really explain her too well. She's sexy, she still gives me that challenge that I love so much. She jokes around and teases but still has a shy side to her. When we kissed, she was SHOCKED. I mean, she leaned in to kiss me, then she gets out of my car in a hurry like she can't believe she just kissed me.

She has such a nice body, and it personally just turns me on just looking at her. Still not sure why such a beautiful girl acts as if she rarely ever dates. I think I'm going to stop talking to the first girl I mentioned. Perhaps I'll let her know that I like somebody else, and it's best that we're just friends.

I do really appreciate the feedback guys. Sometimes I like to hear an outsiders perspective on what I'm going through. Even when I have my own decision pretty much made up, I like to hear an outside point of view. I also enjoy writing what's going on in my life because I'm sure years down the road I'll search these posts and they will bring back old memories.

This girl that I'm talking about. We actually always seen each other for a long time, but never really talked. She works at this local restaurant where it's basically just burgers and chilly cheese dogs that they sell. I was always a frequent customer and we were always checking each other out when I went there, but never went any further than that. It wasn't until I ran into her at the bar when we took things a step further.

She even told me on our first date "I can't believe I'm out with that guy that always says hi to me and has a smile on his face every time he comes into the caboose" (The name of the place).

I just love being single and chasing these girls I never dreamed of being able to get. It's a great feeling when you're actually out on a date with a girl you had an eye on for literally years.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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re: OP

For me, if the personality matches her curvaceous body, then I’m in.
 

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The best part of a car is under the hood. You can replace the body, but the engine is what makes it go.
 

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for me personality is about 75% of why i'm attracted to a girl. if the initial physical attraction is there then i'll develop that big powerful attraction to her if her personality is good.

i like women that when you look at them you say "damn she's hot, but i can't put my finger on what exactly about her is hot" because they radiate beauty from within. does that make sense?
 

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Da Realist said:
The best part of a car is under the hood. You can replace the body, but the engine is what makes it go.
Thats funny i just replaced an engine yesterday :crackup:
 

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Studying the fact that all lies contain fragments
Personality only matters when your looks are lacking..
Personality only matters when your looks are lacking..
Personality only matters when your looks are lacking..
Personality only matters when your looks are lacking..

get it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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