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Looks really are more important than anything

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This will be some good reading material but I think people should read it, you don't have to agree with me:

When I was 160-165 lbs, I was very fit, very trimmed face, had the jawline, had muscular tones, etc...then over time i got to 240 lbs. WHen i was 165, girls were going up to me saying hi blah blah, to the point where I didn't have to touch them or initiate some kind of physical contact, i would just keep my hands to myself and they would initiate it. But back then, I would have been unstoppable if a thread like this existed but no, i had no confidence, i had low self esteem, i was scared to make moves, etc.... BUT they still talked to me. I would say or talk about the dumbest sh*T or show I had low self esteem, mumbling voice (because i was nervous), and they still continued to talk to me...

And now I am at 180 lbs as a result of the p90x program. When i was at 240, no girls gave me love but the ratio of attention from girls and the amount of weight I lost went up each pound i dropped. Now I have to work extra harder on my game (personality wise) since my looks werent as good as 165 lbs. My face now has a bit more baggage but not as much when I was at 240 lbs.

So i believe that girls look for looks. I am not gonna say what race I am, but I am neither white, hispanic, or black... So this puts me in a bind, i believe because of TV and hollywood, they glamourize white, black and hispanic ppl..so someone like me, I have to LOOK SUPER GOOD (i mean physically) to be an exception.

So this is my theory. If you are white, black, or hispanic, you don't have to be super fit to be liked because you are glamourized on TV, but a minority like me, which my peoples hardly get airtime on TV..I have to work extra harder and be an exception...that means I have to drop back down to 160-165 lbs and rely on my looks instead of my game.

damn, i even remember in junior high-high school, i was like 155 lbs, and i had white girls, black girls, mexican girls, asian girls liking me and I didnt' even talk to them..ppl would just tell me "oh so and so thinks you are hot, thinks you are cute, etc.." And during college too, my weight was within the pimpin range..I would just make small talk, dumb AFC comments, reaking insecurity type conversation, thinking of things to say (which I know was VERY obvious to the girl) and at the end I would ask for her number and she still gave it. I got so much numbers when I was at this weight but I was that dude that had no self esteem and was scared to take it to the next level...i was basically scared of rejection.. when I took them out or had a date with them.

so now I have all this knowledge of the game..if i drop down to 160 to 165 lbs, it should be on.

But I do remember back then that if you show you are desperate, it will turn them off. I did this to some girl, and after a few months she still called me back checking up on me...so obviously she was just into my looks and when I was 160-165 lbs, i was a BIG TIME AFC..no doubt about that...

Now when I reack insecurity, AFC on any girl, THEY WILL NEVER CALL ME BACK, because at 180 i dont look as good as in 160. This is what I am learning and observing.

Keep in mind that if you are NOT white, black, or hispanic (and these guys dont have to look super good) you will not have as much problems getting girls as someone who is not one of those 3. But also, you can't be SUPER FAT either. No girls want fat guys no matter what race you are, unless they have something that they need but in general, girls are into looks. Alot of my girl friends tell me about guys all the time. .they would make comments like "i think he's cute, i think he looks good, he looks fine, blah blah" i never hear a girl saying the first word that comes out of her mouth "oh my gosh, i like his personality..or I like the way he plays the game"....women go for looks first then they do the filtering next, that is not related to your looks.

The guys that follow the rules of this thread and have success with women either have something women want if they don't look good, look good already but they don't know it or think otherwise, look good already but they don't think so and they think its their game that's doing it for them, and/or are most likely white, black, or hispanic. But also you can't be extreme either and be a jerk...or go AFC psycho status.... I believe with the combination of the different scenarios, there's also something in the middle that makes it work for them.



Who agrees with me on this?
 

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Yes, we get it! If you hit the gym, you'll be more attractive. There is NO reason to start yet another one of these pointless fvcking threads that will hopefully be locked within the hour. Christ almighty. People got banned in the last thread that was exactly like this about three days ago.
 

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hey but you know what, i wanted to bring up the RACE issue and have people read it because I dont recall any similiar threads that brought this subject up.
 

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Talking about race is another huge no-no.
 

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well I'm not trying to ignite a RACE war but its just something I observed! I just want to share it with people.

Girls only check out white, black, or hispanic guys. I remember this white girl i messed around with in college told me that she liked this vietnamese guy cause he was HOT or FINE...she didn't mention anything about his personality.
 

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OK WTF, what is your point besides the same ol'd same.
You look like a GOD at 160 but at 180 they wont give you the time. 20 lbs??
Ok nevermind this is going no where..
 

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909, you seem unable to string two sentences together without contradicting yourself. Like this:

909pua said:
Girls only check out white, black, or hispanic guys. I remember this white girl i messed around with in college told me that she liked this vietnamese guy cause he was HOT or FINE...she didn't mention anything about his personality.
also this:

Keep in mind that if you are NOT white, black, or hispanic (and these guys dont have to look super good) you will not have as much problems getting girls as someone who is not one of those 3.
Are you not paying attention to your own post?
 

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godofanxiety said:
909, you seem unable to string two sentences together without contradicting yourself. Like this:



also this:



Are you not paying attention to your own post?
wait up let me say this..usually the asian guys that girls like, they are not average guys...they are usually GOOD looking... what i'm trying to say is if you are black, white, hispanic and you are OK looking like a scale of 7 out of a 10...you still have a chance at getting girls but an asian guy that's on that scale level will have a smaller chance of getting girls outside his race (if there is some that exist, its a small percentage).

Asians will always like asians..but non-asians liking asian men? its rare...they have to be SUPER FINE to get a hot white girl or a fine latina girl....

sorry to confuse..
 

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mutambo said:
OK WTF, what is your point besides the same ol'd same.
You look like a GOD at 160 but at 180 they wont give you the time. 20 lbs??
Ok nevermind this is going no where..
20 lbs makes a big difference for me dude.... maybe not to other people....

let me tell you this: TO EACH THEIR OWN...
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I have to jump in because you played the race card. The fact that you said if you're white black or mexican you don't have to work as hard is pure BS. You're making it seem like you have it sooo bad because you're asian or whatever. Maybe we should bring in the fact that if any white person creates a club for only whites or isn't PC in what they say they are automatically racist. Yet it's ok for certain people to say certain words and then when a white person says it it's racist. How is that not racist in and of itself? I definitely agree with the fact that you need to look at least semi good to get girls, but bringing race into it was a stupid thing to do.
 

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Biggie said:
I have to jump in because you played the race card. The fact that you said if you're white black or mexican you don't have to work as hard is pure BS. You're making it seem like you have it sooo bad because you're asian or whatever. Maybe we should bring in the fact that if any white person creates a club for only whites or isn't PC in what they say they are automatically racist. Yet it's ok for certain people to say certain words and then when a white person says it it's racist. How is that not racist in and of itself? I definitely agree with the fact that you need to look at least semi good to get girls, but bringing race into it was a stupid thing to do.
Hey man, i could be wrong about this race thing but this is what I observed dude especially living in SOCAL... and i said in the start of my post that no one has to agree with me..
 

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909pua said:
When I was 160-165 lbs, I was very fit, very trimmed face, had the jawline, had muscular tones, etc...then over time i got to 240 lbs. WHen i was 165, girls were going up to me saying hi blah blah, to the point where I didn't have to touch them or initiate some kind of physical contact, i would just keep my hands to myself and they would initiate it. But back then, I would have been unstoppable if a thread like this existed but no, i had no confidence, i had low self esteem, i was scared to make moves, etc.... BUT they still talked to me. I would say or talk about the dumbest sh*T or show I had low self esteem, mumbling voice (because i was nervous), and they still continued to talk to me...

Looking your best will always give you a higher level of self worth. However, the number one thing that most guys going through the game on this board lack, is LOVING who you are...... From reading a lot of your posts, its very clear that girls give you self worth. You look for girls to make you happy, when in reality only YOU can fix that...

And now I am at 180 lbs as a result of the p90x program. When i was at 240, no girls gave me love but the ratio of attention from girls and the amount of weight I lost went up each pound i dropped. Now I have to work extra harder on my game (personality wise) since my looks werent as good as 165 lbs. My face now has a bit more baggage but not as much when I was at 240 lbs.

There's some truth to what your saying here, but most of it is your own perception. If you think girls aren't going to be receptive to you because your 15lbs heavier, that will be your reality. Plus all the girls you meet now, didn't know you when you were 165lbs.....


So i believe that girls look for looks. I am not gonna say what race I am, but I am neither white, hispanic, or black... So this puts me in a bind, i believe because of TV and hollywood, they glamourize white, black and hispanic ppl..so someone like me, I have to LOOK SUPER GOOD (i mean physically) to be an exception.

Girls definitely look for looks.....anyone who says they don't are retarded. However, physical attractiveness is only one part of the equation. If you don't have the rest it won't matter. Your theory on race is waaaay off base, again this is your OWN beliefs that are making it your reality


So this is my theory. If you are white, black, or hispanic, you don't have to be super fit to be liked because you are glamourized on TV, but a minority like me, which my peoples hardly get airtime on TV..I have to work extra harder and be an exception...that means I have to drop back down to 160-165 lbs and rely on my looks instead of my game.

LMAO!!!! Delusional thinking from a lost boy....

damn, i even remember in junior high-high school, i was like 155 lbs, and i had white girls, black girls, mexican girls, asian girls liking me and I didnt' even talk to them..ppl would just tell me "oh so and so thinks you are hot, thinks you are cute, etc.." And during college too, my weight was within the pimpin range..I would just make small talk, dumb AFC comments, reaking insecurity type conversation, thinking of things to say (which I know was VERY obvious to the girl) and at the end I would ask for her number and she still gave it. I got so much numbers when I was at this weight but I was that dude that had no self esteem and was scared to take it to the next level...i was basically scared of rejection.. when I took them out or had a date with them.


Dude you need to get your head out of the gutter..... your self esteem is quite low right now...

so now I have all this knowledge of the game..if i drop down to 160 to 165 lbs, it should be on.

NOPE!!! It won't be ON until your attitude changes....


Now when I reack insecurity, AFC on any girl, THEY WILL NEVER CALL ME BACK, because at 180 i dont look as good as in 160. This is what I am learning and observing.

Another generalization based off one situation.... didn't know if something happened once it becomes the norm...

Keep in mind that if you are NOT white, black, or hispanic (and these guys dont have to look super good) you will not have as much problems getting girls as someone who is not one of those 3. But also, you can't be SUPER FAT either. No girls want fat guys no matter what race you are, unless they have something that they need but in general, girls are into looks. Alot of my girl friends tell me about guys all the time. .they would make comments like "i think he's cute, i think he looks good, he looks fine, blah blah" i never hear a girl saying the first word that comes out of her mouth "oh my gosh, i like his personality..or I like the way he plays the game"....women go for looks first then they do the filtering next, that is not related to your looks.

Woman act on that little emotion called attraction and there are several different sparks that ignite them. Attractive people will always have it easier than the UGLY'S, but bottom line if a guy can't keep a girl interested, he'll always come up short in the end.

You need to get that race theory outta your head because I've seen several examples that prove that to be completely false. Look your best, develop your personality and learn the rules of the game and I promise YOU will have tons of girls chasing you ALWAYS!!



The guys that follow the rules of this thread and have success with women either have something women want if they don't look good, look good already but they don't know it or think otherwise, look good already but they don't think so and they think its their game that's doing it for them, and/or are most likely white, black, or hispanic. But also you can't be extreme either and be a jerk...or go AFC psycho status.... I believe with the combination of the different scenarios, there's also something in the middle that makes it work for them.

This sounds like a politician's answer to a yes/no question. Your beliefs are twisted..



Who agrees with me on this?

No one...



PIMP
 

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So i'm gonna agree with pimpsicle here. Your beliefs are your reality. If you believe that when you're 15 pounds heavier you won't get as much attention, you won't because your beliefs change your body language and how you act. I think that this also is the case for your beliefs on how different races get girls. Also, yes, looks only get you so far, but the thing we need to remember is most guys just want to hook up. If that's your goal, you need to be physically attractive to females. A lot of girls out there are actually looking for a guy who is really masculine and physically attractive, and all they want is to have one crazy passionate night with them.
 
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