"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Looks like my wingman for 10+ years has Dumped me LOL

Ryan69

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My wingman seems to have ditched me now that he's hooked up with a girl LOL They have been dating for 1 year now in that duration we hit the bars and clubs maybe 5 times and EVERYTIME his girlfriend was with him (Lot's of fun for me as you can imagine)

I ran into him the other day and mentioned getting are drink on Friday and he quickly shot that idea down and said Saturday instead. Naturally I call him Sat and he's not home(Out with the G/F I imagine) And he never called me back.

Sad thing when you lose a longtime wingman. Chicks come and go but it's pretty sad when one of your boys ****s you over.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ryan69

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Whats amazing is he can't figure out it's not fun for me hanging out with him when his g/f is with him..LOL

He thinks I should should just be comfortable and have a good time..LOL Are you kidding me. If the shoe was on the other foot he would'nt want to hang out with me and my g/f all the time.

His g/f is pretty ugly anyways. id give her body 6.5/10 and her face a 4/10. Which makes her average at BEST LOL Im just gonna get the HOTTEST chick and bring her out with me next time we hit the bars and see how he likes it LOL

Im a tad wasted and rambling. Just wanted to vent a little.
 

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Here's my take:

The only rating that matters is the one he gives her. If he's happy with her, then so be it, to be honest how you rate his girlfriend is (and should be) irrelevant to him.

IMO there is some progression to life. If you're 40 and hanging out in bars all the time, I think you've missed the boat somewhere. Again though, happiness isn't defined singularly and for some people maybe that is OK. Yes, I do drop in bars from time to time but it's just to see some tities, feel up a few women on the dance floor, try to get some takeout, and then get out of town. The drinks are expensive and unless you live in small town USA there is usually a cover.

I did the same thing, ditched my wings, not because they weren't fun to be around and not because I don't respect them. The reason being is that I developed a life that obsoleted most of the things we did together. I got tired of hearing about weirdo theories for the wings I had that knew about PUAs and crap. Additionally, I don't have any trouble mingling and meeting lots of women, when I went out with all but maybe 2 of my wings I felt handicapped by them and often they just got in my way and slowed me down. Sure they were fun to have around and joke with, but at the end of the day it was just too much trouble trying to organize when to meet and all that stuff. Going solo I can pop in and out whenever I please and I don't have people coming up at the worst of times and such. Finally, if I am out with a girl I really don't need another guy there, lol, I can figure out what to do all by myself =)

End of the day, I think wings are for some people and not for others, in my case I just had some very specific issues with my wings even though they were overall great people. I chose to just fly solo rather than hammer out the details It would require to make it work.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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