"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Looking to get out of the house and make life changes

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Im going to cut right to the chase. Long story short I want to get out of my fathers house and get an apartment. I feel down when im around my father, hes very competitive and ****ed up in the head, attitude problem, in stable moods, you name it. But he would run around the world and back for me, and I love him dearly for that. But right now I cant afford an apartment. Im going to be getting another job and going back to school very soon. But then there's the extra expenses that comes with owning my own apartment. This is where you guys come in. I have a couple of choices here.

- Start up my personal training business and work my ass off like no other to get clients and keep them. (Have a bit of a insecurity when it comes to this)

-Get a job in security working a couple days a week so I can my school work while I work.

-Combine those two jobs for more income.

-Get into housing through the mental facility. Im diagnosed bi-polar. I checked my self in. (The quickest way depending on the wait)

-Get a job at UPS, plus working security and stay at my fathers house untill a finish school.

- Win the lotto

*Some info about me - Im 22 years old. Im a very intelligent person, ive been told at times im too intelligent and think way to much about things in depth. When I put my head to something I go full force. Im very good with computers and anything where fixing something is involved.

School is very important to me, because in the ends thats whats going to be making the money for my house/ family. Im also looking to get into acting as a hobby, but the only problem would be the timing to get it to fit into my schedule.

Becuase right now im working at wallmart, and its very ****ty job and I honestly dont like it much.


If you guys can help me out think of anything else that would be awesome

Crissco
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm pretty sure UPS gives its employees help with tuition if they are in school, so I'd look into that if I were you.

Of course winning the lotto would be your best bet.
 

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moving out of home is very easy to do. millions of young people do it every year.

find a way to move out, live comfortable and not have to pay too much for it (i.e. sharing with other students or various other options)

find a way to meet your basic needs and have a bit of $$$ left over

study hard

when you finish study and start getting big money, move out to your own apartment.

keep it simple bro
 

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stayfly said:
moving out of home is very easy to do. millions of young people do it every year.

find a way to move out, live comfortable and not have to pay too much for it (i.e. sharing with other students or various other options)

find a way to meet your basic needs and have a bit of $$$ left over

study hard

when you finish study and start getting big money, move out to your own apartment.

keep it simple bro
I was thinking of that too, that would be pretty cool, only problem would be the living comfortable issue. Im lucky though there are a lot of houses/ apts near the local collages. Another thnig the couch may be comfortable but not money. and I still need to buy a car first.

I defiantly want to give this a shot though.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ARrocket said:
I'm pretty sure UPS gives its employees help with tuition if they are in school, so I'd look into that if I were you.

Of course winning the lotto would be your best bet.
Yea they give tuition reimbursement.
 

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Best of luck.
If you were in Canada the government would pay you while you go to school provided you met certain qualifications. :(

I understand about the education. I hope you can get it. If the UPS does not work out, maybe you can get a full time job and SAVE MONEY to go back to school. figure out your cost of living, save up that much, then leave your job and go to school.

however, it's REALLY easy to fall into a rhythm of work and stuff, forget to save, and eventually never go back to school, I'd only suggest it if you are very determined.
 

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Here's my simple and whacky advice that has worked for turning my life around.
Thinking is depression. You think, therefore you get depressed.
Stop thinking, start meditating. Stop thinking about your problems, instead visualize what makes you happy and start working towards that.
The great thinkers in history have benn known to live lonely and depressed, dont let that be you.
 

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lorekeeper said:
Best of luck.
If you were in Canada the government would pay you while you go to school provided you met certain qualifications. :(

I understand about the education. I hope you can get it. If the UPS does not work out, maybe you can get a full time job and SAVE MONEY to go back to school. figure out your cost of living, save up that much, then leave your job and go to school.

however, it's REALLY easy to fall into a rhythm of work and stuff, forget to save, and eventually never go back to school, I'd only suggest it if you are very determined.
Thanks bro. Ive already done that, thank god im past it. They really pay for education in Canada? Thats awesome man...My uncle said he can help out with school for me and I can apply for financial aid, loans...


Here's my simple and whacky advice that has worked for turning my life around.
Thinking is depression. You think, therefore you get depressed.
Stop thinking, start meditating. Stop thinking about your problems, instead visualize what makes you happy and start working towards that.
The great thinkers in history have benn known to live lonely and depressed, dont let that be you.
I agree and disagree at the same time. Over thinking a problem causes depression. As does sitting at home all day doing nothing. But also you have to learn how to think out side of the box, and take risks. I would rather fail at something, knowing the outcome, then not trying at all.
 

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Crissco said:
Thanks bro. Ive already done that, thank god im past it. They really pay for education in Canada? Thats awesome man...My uncle said he can help out with school for me and I can apply for financial aid, loans...




I agree and disagree at the same time. Over thinking a problem causes depression. As does sitting at home all day doing nothing. But also you have to learn how to think out side of the box, and take risks. I would rather fail at something, knowing the outcome, then not trying at all.
NO, they don't really pay for education in Canada. Much like GOOD Canadian healthcare will cost you GOOD money. Money rules the world. Nothing is free!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BigJimbo said:
NO, they don't really pay for education in Canada. Much like GOOD Canadian healthcare will cost you GOOD money. Money rules the world. Nothing is free!
Ehh figures..
 

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No. They will not pay you for education. Like I said, you must have qualifications. You must have (I believe) ~900 hours at a job, you are taxed here off your paychecks, % per things.

If you get laid off, or fired and go onto EI, EI will help pay for your schooling it you would like to educate yourself. They will give up to a certain % of your paycheck.
 

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I have to get out of here guys..Seriously.Does anyone have any ideas?
 

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I wrote some new short term goals I would like to complete

Security full time--------------> 3
Part time job (Waiter, UPS..) -> 3
College Part time--> 2, 1
Acting Class--> 1


1- Keep learning a little bit about everything
2-Pick one thing, master it, and follow through
3-Have 3 Grand saved up in the bank account by December 31st
4--Have one step forward towards improving my inventions



I am also still looking for new ideas to get out of this house
 

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lorekeeper said:
No. They will not pay you for education. Like I said, you must have qualifications. You must have (I believe) ~900 hours at a job, you are taxed here off your paychecks, % per things.

If you get laid off, or fired and go onto EI, EI will help pay for your schooling it you would like to educate yourself. They will give up to a certain % of your paycheck.
Whats EI stand for?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Eh, live at home with momma. She should cook for you and do your clothes. It would give her something to do.
 

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BigJimbo said:
Eh, live at home with momma. She should cook for you and do your clothes. It would give her something to do.
Already did, hated it even worse bro. Plus she already has a fulltime job.
 

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- Start up my personal training business and work my ass off like no other to get clients and keep them. (Have a bit of a insecurity when it comes to this)
Do you have the intention to do this as a living? As in, will you do this instead of school or part time to fund school?

Combine those two jobs for more income.
Two jobs? So you're going to do school part time?

Get into housing through the mental facility. Im diagnosed bi-polar. I checked my self in. (The quickest way depending on the wait)
You don't want to be in that kind of environment. Long term, it's very bad.

School is very important to me, because in the ends thats whats going to be making the money for my house/ family. Im also looking to get into acting as a hobby, but the only problem would be the timing to get it to fit into my schedule.
Whoa, whoa!

Too much. What are the most important things for you right now? In order please.

For example, mine:

1. School and school related projects.
2. Part time work... because I need money.
3. Gym and diet.
4. Car
5. Photography
6. Misc. (this includes women)

In that order.

What's your order of importance? If you're not sure, then think about it until you are sure. There should be no doubt in your mind, that's how you know.
 

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Alle_Gory said:
Do you have the intention to do this as a living? As in, will you do this instead of school or part time to fund school?



Two jobs? So you're going to do school part time?



You don't want to be in that kind of environment. Long term, it's very bad.



Whoa, whoa!

Too much. What are the most important things for you right now? In order please.

For example, mine:

1. School and school related projects.
2. Part time work... because I need money.
3. Gym and diet.
4. Car
5. Photography
6. Misc. (this includes women)

In that order.

What's your order of importance? If you're not sure, then think about it until you are sure. There should be no doubt in your mind, that's how you know.
1. Getting out of the house
2. School
3. Work
4. Girls and having fun in general
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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