"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Looking terrible in pictures

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Recently I went on a trip and of course pictures were taken, but in most of them, I look terrible. Only profile shots I can live with.

But I don't understand, when I look at them, I feel so ugly, nerdy, stupid,... and my day is ruined, it goes as far as just being silent to my friends because I'm not sure about myself as I look so nerdy/stupid in those pictures and everything I would say just would reflect this.

The 'problem' is that about every month or so, I get to hear from a girl she thinks I'm pretty. I really do look ugly in pictures and am not just saying this for some other reason, my face is always hideous.

I don't know what to believe? On very rare occasions the picture comes out fine, but most of them not.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lol, I'm similar bro. I fvcking HATE photos. Every time I look at them I feel that they are showing me at my worst. The main thing is that you try to look at it from an angle of humor instead of negativity. That's what I do anyway...
 
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Most of us hate seeing ourselves in the picture, it.s because you are not used to see yourself from that angle, you look different then when you look yourself in the mirror. I m so not photogenic that police officers thought i was using fake id.
 
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I've been told the same. I'm not photogenic. I hate the way I look in pictures too.
 
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Same with me too.

And I agree, get use to seeing yourself in photos and the negative feelings will pass or better still, don't look at them at all...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm a good looking dude but all my life there's been this little niggling voice in the back of my mind saying, 'i saw those photos. you're an ugly mofo.'

today, i decided to agree with the little voice for the first time and say, 'yeah, you're right. i am.' i felt so much better not having to argue with it for the first time in years or by having to prove it wrong by constantly checking in car or shop windows surreptitiously when no-one is looking.

he shut the fvck up after that.
 
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I've never been photogenic. But here are some tips to improve your lot:

1) Buy a water distiller.
2) Take Organic Spirulina supplements.
3) Do a Liver Cleanse.
4) Try Fasting.
5) Exercise your jaw muscles and cheek muscles.
6) Get your body fat lower.
7) Ride a bicycle.
8) Swim.
9) Get 1 hour of sun per day with no sunscreen (to make Vitamin D).
10) Pay a hooker if you have to.
 
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bigneil said:
I've never been photogenic. But here are some tips to improve your lot:

1) Buy a water distiller.
2) Take Organic Spirulina supplements.
3) Do a Liver Cleanse.
4) Try Fasting.
5) Exercise your jaw muscles and cheek muscles.
6) Get your body fat lower.
7) Ride a bicycle.
8) Swim.
9) Get 1 hour of sun per day with no sunscreen (to make Vitamin D).
10) Pay a hooker if you have to.
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how does 10) help?
 
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I feel your pain, I'm one of those dudes that can look like an 8 or a 4 depending on how the photos taken. Thats why I tend to avoid photos and when I am in one, make sure I see how I look haha.

I've never been known for my looks so I just admit that I'm an ugly mofo and thats that. After all its not my face that gets girls, its my personality and the way I can make em laugh that make them want me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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LeonSK said:
how does 10) help?
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LOL, I was thinking the same thing. I was like: check, check, oh that's good, okay I'll try that, check,....what?? *record player coming to a screaching hault*

Think that's just bigneil being bigneil, can't make a post without hookers thrown somewhere in the mix.

Yeah OP, I'm not photogenic at all, and I'm good looking IRL as well. I don't know what it is. I guess, if you just say fvck it, let it ride, you don't care about your looks in pictures, then I think that can make up for it. Indifference. :up:
 
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What are cheek and jaw exercises? Link? I heard of facial yoga lol
 
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Some people freeze up during pictures before they are taken. Are you upset with how you look in general or how your pictures look? If you take crappy pictures, then take them when you don't expect it. You won't feel forced into smiling. Maybe that'll help. If the girl likes it then that's all you should care about. Maybe it's not that bad and you over think it. Just have fun and go with it.

Peaks&Valleys said:
Think that's just bigneil being bigneil, can't make a post without hookers thrown somewhere in the mix.
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I thought his big thing was strippers.
 
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