An honest albeit painful self-examination here: Conversation is my greatest skill and greatest weakness. I find that I am naturally funny and witty but I tend to take it too far - looking for opportunities to say something clever, especially when in the presence of attractive women. When the laughter comes it's like crack for me, I start smiling and laughing myself (not a good look on me) and ride the adrenaline to more jokes that are hit or miss...
By the time it's all over, we may have all had some laughs and smiles but I don't feel that anyone has been particularly attracted to me by the experience. Nobody has left thinking, "I can't wait to get TheCWord out again." And it's because they've already seen the whole show.
I aspire to have more of a quiet confidence because, as I said, I get way too giddy in a lot of situations. The problem is I often feel awkward when I try to temper that behavior - I feel like I am a mute watching other people converse, then I feel compelled to contribute. I guess I just don't know what to do myself when in a room full of people conversing.
Another part of my over-correction is looking TOO serious - people often tell me I look sad.
Has anyone on here gone from being a little too chatty and smily like me and converted to a man of quiet confidence who is not TOO quiet or awkward or sad-looking?
By the time it's all over, we may have all had some laughs and smiles but I don't feel that anyone has been particularly attracted to me by the experience. Nobody has left thinking, "I can't wait to get TheCWord out again." And it's because they've already seen the whole show.
I aspire to have more of a quiet confidence because, as I said, I get way too giddy in a lot of situations. The problem is I often feel awkward when I try to temper that behavior - I feel like I am a mute watching other people converse, then I feel compelled to contribute. I guess I just don't know what to do myself when in a room full of people conversing.
Another part of my over-correction is looking TOO serious - people often tell me I look sad.
Has anyone on here gone from being a little too chatty and smily like me and converted to a man of quiet confidence who is not TOO quiet or awkward or sad-looking?
I'll ask them questions for a little while because I know I'm supposed to act interested, but after a little while Ia lull will come in the conversation and I'll realize I just can't feign interest anymore. :\