Hey,
Been a long time forum lurker but first time poster. Looking for some advice
So I went out with this girl last Wednesday. The date went really well, had good conversation and built good rapport. But there was no kiss close or anything and I maybe didn't escalate when I should have.
We texted a little bit over the next couple days and made plans to hang out on Sunday. She texted me Sunday inviting me out to grab a drink with her.
We went out and like the first date, things went really well. Built a good rapport and lots of IOI, plus a lot of kino and playful touching as the night went on.
After several drink she invites me back to her place around the corner. So we go there and everything seems to be going well. We start making out and I try escalating but she slows it down etc. etc. All that's fine except I have to work at 8am the next morning and it's going on past 3:00am. So she tells me I can stay over if I want, but I say I probably shouldn't. I take off, and she walks me to the door, where we continue making out for a little bit. I leave and everythign seems good and fine.
So all night she'd been saying that I should come out with her and some friends the next day on Monday to a club. So monday afternoon she sends me a text saying they're not going Monday but maybe on wednesday. I just texted her back "okay".
So then on Tuesday I find out I probably won't be able to go out wednesday night so I send her a message letting her know I'm probably gonna have to flake but that I like her a lot and I'd like to see her again. I think this was a bad AFC move because afterwards her text responses slowed down considerably.
So yesterday (Wednesday) she starts messaging me to tell me that she's for sure not going out even if I was free cuz she's got an essay to finish. So I texted her about that, and then she said maybe she'd go out later. I said whatever, and that I was going out for some drinks with some friends anyways and she could text me later if she wanted (this was true). So later on she texts me to tell me she's not going out, and I just kind of stopped texting after that.
So what do I do from here? I don't really wanna keep texting her, especially after a pretty big AFC blunder earlier. Also, she said she was pretty busy this week and would have to keep me posted and I don't wanna come off as desperate. Should I just no contact for a little bit and wait for her to get back at me?
Been a long time forum lurker but first time poster. Looking for some advice
So I went out with this girl last Wednesday. The date went really well, had good conversation and built good rapport. But there was no kiss close or anything and I maybe didn't escalate when I should have.
We texted a little bit over the next couple days and made plans to hang out on Sunday. She texted me Sunday inviting me out to grab a drink with her.
We went out and like the first date, things went really well. Built a good rapport and lots of IOI, plus a lot of kino and playful touching as the night went on.
After several drink she invites me back to her place around the corner. So we go there and everything seems to be going well. We start making out and I try escalating but she slows it down etc. etc. All that's fine except I have to work at 8am the next morning and it's going on past 3:00am. So she tells me I can stay over if I want, but I say I probably shouldn't. I take off, and she walks me to the door, where we continue making out for a little bit. I leave and everythign seems good and fine.
So all night she'd been saying that I should come out with her and some friends the next day on Monday to a club. So monday afternoon she sends me a text saying they're not going Monday but maybe on wednesday. I just texted her back "okay".
So then on Tuesday I find out I probably won't be able to go out wednesday night so I send her a message letting her know I'm probably gonna have to flake but that I like her a lot and I'd like to see her again. I think this was a bad AFC move because afterwards her text responses slowed down considerably.
So yesterday (Wednesday) she starts messaging me to tell me that she's for sure not going out even if I was free cuz she's got an essay to finish. So I texted her about that, and then she said maybe she'd go out later. I said whatever, and that I was going out for some drinks with some friends anyways and she could text me later if she wanted (this was true). So later on she texts me to tell me she's not going out, and I just kind of stopped texting after that.
So what do I do from here? I don't really wanna keep texting her, especially after a pretty big AFC blunder earlier. Also, she said she was pretty busy this week and would have to keep me posted and I don't wanna come off as desperate. Should I just no contact for a little bit and wait for her to get back at me?