"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hey guys, what do you think to this one? Im early 40's had a relationship with a korean women mid 20's she was cute as can be, flexible and forgiving....medium in the sack although she gave great head... never really made me feel the infatuation that id had with other chicks but rather grew on me in a way that made me feel a kind of loyalty towards her?

Anyway she went back to korea after studying, I went there on vacation, she back here and then back home and after that I told her we should break up as I wasnt gonna get married and that was really the only way we could be together.

So I set about my single life and Ive had moderate success, some might say good success, however I havent really met anyone who Ive felt much for and I think about the korean chick from time to time, and that she aint a bad deal, I mean Im getting up there and this chick is young, pretty and loyal.

The kicker is that before her, I had a fairly brief but heavy and intense fling with another korean broad who was hot in the sack, but couldnt be trusted as far as you could throw her! however it was a hell of a rush! and it has left me with this nagging feeling of....If I could only get that feeling again!!! kind of like..maybe I should hang on to see if I can pull a better chick, maybe hit the jackpot? but I know the reality is yeah...maybe not hit the jackpot to?
Anyway the cute and loyal chick is in contact again and wants to visit, Id love to see her but I dont want to mess her about and lead her on, so, yeah, if this all sounds abit confusing, thats cause thats how im feeling.. any thoughts from the mature DJ's out there?
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Im thinking that maybe I need to re structure my emotions or thoughts somewhat, why? well in the past ive got off on the kind of relationship where the women was unobtainable and to be honest a bit of a *****, this left me a fvcked up.
Whereas this other is more stable, steady and has long term potential? anyway blah blah...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yep, cheers for your advice mate...i Must admit my upbringing (or as my old gf said "you werent brought up, you were dragged up!) was for the most part a bag a sh1t.... and yep, Ive come to similar conclusions myself, the task seems to be how to re program your mind so that you actually want whats good for you, instead of just taking whats good for you cause...hey It must be good for me..sort a thing..anyway food for thought... ;-)
 
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Originally posted by englishman
Hey guys, what do you think to this one? Im early 40's had a relationship with a korean women mid 20's she was cute as can be, flexible and forgiving....medium in the sack although she gave great head...
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A 20-year old Korean who gives great head and you're in your 40's? You're my hero!

Uh, what did the rest of your post say ... :>)
 
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I concur with Damians advice. As for your qestion of reprograming...

I dont know of an easy fix. I think you have to take it step by step. What I would try to do is to keep the knowledge you have in the front of your mind and remind yourself of it. Also go the extra lengh to date nice girls and stick with for a bit longer than you would do normaly and see to it that you dump/dont date the girls that are "bad".
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I concur with Damians advice. As for your qestion of reprograming...

I dont know of an easy fix. I think you have to take it step by step. What I would try to do is to keep the knowledge you have in the front of your mind and remind yourself of it. Also go the extra lengh to date nice girls and stick with for a bit longer than you would do normaly and see to it that you dump/dont date the girls that are "bad".
 
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