"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kerensky

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Ok guys here's the lowdown.


HB8.5 is the target. She has a friend, a HB6. So for some queer reason, HB 6 say she is going to ignore me from now on and I say, why. So she tells me that it's because blah blah soem bullshat reason.

I decide to ignore her and say, "alright whatever, your loss." So a week later she comes back and says sorry for acting like a biatch. then this week it happens again and I'm like "stop playing games with me. I don't need you or this **** in my life so one or the other or both has to go." She i made her cry or at least really red and angry when I said that to her.

So I don't give a damn about thta, but the thing is, her best friend is HB8.5 and vice versa. They are like GFs from birth or some **** like that (not literally, but they are close).

Anyhow, I'm cool with HB8.5 but her friend probably hates me. I think I will be experiencing some negative repercussions from this.

Right now my decision is to ignore that HB6 girl and keep doing my thing wit hthe 8.5 since I did nothing wrong. I will give my side of the story if need be, and if she doesn't buy it she isn't worth it. What do you guys think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Damian

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I say screw that HB6. She's being an A-W and trying to seek attention by screwing with her social relations. It's all a big frame-test hoping that you'll jump through her hoops and reinitiate contact. The best way to solve the problem of an AW is to simple distance yourself. The closer you get to their drama, the more you're liable to get yourself hurt.

Go and ask out that HB8.5 if you're really interested. The sooner you do, the sooner you get logistics out of the way. If she's interested in you, you'll have made the next step. If she's not, then you'll know sooner and save your own time and energy.

-Damian
 

Kerensky

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Originally posted by Damian
I say screw that HB6. She's being an A-W and trying to seek attention by screwing with her social relations. It's all a big frame-test hoping that you'll jump through her hoops and reinitiate contact. The best way to solve the problem of an AW is to simple distance yourself. The closer you get to their drama, the more you're liable to get yourself hurt.

Go and ask out that HB8.5 if you're really interested. The sooner you do, the sooner you get logistics out of the way. If she's interested in you, you'll have made the next step. If she's not, then you'll know sooner and save your own time and energy.

-Damian
Thanks man. I went on 2 dates w/ the HB 8.5 both lots of kino but no kiss close on liips yet. I think the HB 6 just lost a guy she liked so some other girl so she is tryin to take out her emo crap on me and her friend so she is not alone. you know how it is.

but yea, i used to listen to her problems and **** because she is a HB6 who i was usingto get to 8.5 as a *****shield destroyer. Anyways, no more drama. she is a ****in drama queen and I am just telling her to talk to someone else about it from now on. or just not respond.
 

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When they pull back, you pull back farther. Wise words of David D.
And anyway, she can be pissed all she likes, she probablu likes you, and since attraction isn't a choice, is pissed because she has no choice in the matter.
That's your biggest tool, knowing that these chicks like you, and have no choice, so you can do whatever the **** you want.
But why would you want a HB6. Just know that it's likely that she's attracted to you.
 
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