"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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looking for a sales job

regular_guy

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Hey Folks,

Currently I am working in the IT field, so thats where my job experience lies. Thought a job in sales would benefit me in getting over my shyness, get more sociable and make some extra coin. What would be a good place to start? Are any sale experiences needed? Also don't want to fold clothes all day either.

ciao
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AgonyUncle

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Im in sales.

To be honest, its a job that requires confidence. I no longer have a fear of public speaking. I no longer have a fear of getting the phone slammed in my ear.

I think you will struggle if you are shy. You will have to overcome it or starve. Best job in the world when you are good at it. Worst job in the world when you cant sell.
 

TheVirtualMind

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Jump onto Monster.com and look for sales jobs, or more specifically, "outside sales" jobs.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Quiksilver

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I believe I can help you here.

I had a job in sales all of last year and part of this year. In all honesty it helped somewhat, but was the wrong environment to learn to be a better conversationalist. I believe I learned how to give and earn respect mutually in that job, to be polite without being a pushover. I also learned to believe in what I said.

However if you're looking to be a better conversationalist, I'd recommend being in the hospitality industry. More specifically in a restaurant or bar. I work part time behind a bar right now, serving drinks and making guests feel at home. This is a much better job because you're interacting with people in a comfortable environment.

They're at the bar to unwind, have a drink and talk to somebody.

In a sales job(I did cold calls, then went to people's houses), people are interacting with you on a level of politeness and respect, but they're also wondering how you're going to screw them over. They ask, "So... What's the catch?".

It isn't a homely environment and won't teach you how to interact with people on an emotional level. You will learn how to win respect, you will make a FEW friends, and you will break out of your shell in a sales job, but it's a very dry job because both of you have your own agenda and that's your primary goal. In a bar or restaurant, sure you do get percentage of profit, but when Im there my primary goal is to have a good time, and people feel this.

cheers
 
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