"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Looking away when she sees you

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There's a a girl that works as a receptionist in a building and I have had a friendly conversation with her once.

I noticed whenever I walk in or when she sees me, she purposly either looks away or pretends not to see me.

I am a pretty confident guy and people can tell from the way I walk and talk. I'm wondering maybe she's alittle imtimidated. What do you guys think?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dirtheart

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I think what you need to do is say hello to her regardless of whether she's looking at you or not. I've known this with a number of women and when you've done this once she'll probably not look away from you again.

Some women feel like they need an invite just to say hi, especially to someone they perceive as confident or popular.

It's hard to guage a woman's interest from this unless you detect that she's planned her greeting for the day (i.e. she acts distracted until the point where you're close enough to say hello), in which case she's probably interested, but is waiting for you to talk to her.
 

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I saw her again in the gym today and as soon as she saw me she rushed out. I have no clue what she was thinking, but I find it interesting how different people react in a weird way in certain situations.
 

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yep, i've often wondered why women do this, but i've done this before to women.
i think the reason they do it is because they may fear falling into your "trap."
the reason i do this to women (sometimes) is because i am not prepared to talk to them at the moment.
i believe in being prepared and when youre not, its better to keep your mouth shut.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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FratAndDiddy

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hey this is a good post dictator !
come to think of it, theres this woman who lives in my apartment complex and she always looks away whenever i run into her, but yet i catch her trying to look into my aprtment whenever she gets in her car to go somewhere.
anybody know whats shes up to?
 

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I'm starting to wonder the more a girl tries to ignore you, the more she is thinking about you and putting alot of effort to try not to show her interest. Why would she be all smiles to all the guys except one good looking guy who doesn't seem very interested?

I was with a girl few years ago who tried hard to avoid me even though I didn't seem threatning. After trying to hook up with her for two months, she told me she was in love with me and was afraid to get involved because she had to leave the country.
 

FratAndDiddy

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you know, i think youre right
years ago, i worked with this married woman who would talk to all the other guys but wouldnt speak to me other than a forced "hi" from her whenever she was cornered.
since i no longer work there, i ran acrossed her in a bar about a year ago and she was the nicest thing you ever seen (still married).
so one thing lead to another and she told me back at my place that she avoided me cause we worked together and she didnt want to get something started that may cost her her job.
 
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