Looking at porn

[Gan]

I think I used to jack off to porn at least 3 times a week a while back and I wouldn't even enjoy it. It's summer and I don't have much to do but read and exercise. I feel physically fit and in good shape but when I look at porn it feels like the energy is being sapped out of me and I've only just realized this now. It's mainly out of boredom, so I'm working on quitting the porn. I was wondering, those of you who are good with women and have sex on the regular, do you still look at porn? How often do you and does it affect your motivation?

I would've made a post on the no fap thread but I couldn't find it. I left this site for a few months and I forgot where everything was.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I have been too much over the last while. I haven't since yesterday, so I'm going to abstain again now for a while. It's just a dirty habit, and I find many benefits when I don't:

-More energy; I am literally wide awake and ready for the day by 7am every morning.
-My hair got thicker.
-Voice got deeper to the point where other people noticed.
-Women definitely seem to react differently for whatever reason; maybe smell, demeanour, body language. But something definitely attracted them more.
-I feel calmer and more confident, but with surplus potential energy, like a coiled spring.

I'm gonna start a new NoFap thread for August and see how we all do.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Women watch porn, too. It is not evil as an inanimate thing, but like anything else, compulsive addiction to it is the problem. People will destroy their lives with all sorts of ridiculous things, from drugs to lottery tickets. You can ruin yourself with porn, or you can make it a fun part of your sex life with an actual woman. It's up to you.

 

[Mazer]

I don’t have much of an appetite for porn these days but then again I am getting sex from my plates on the regular. My sex sessions leave my penis feeling sore. If I was to fap to porn I wouldn’t be able to bang my bishes hard. My penis needs rest between sex sessions.

 

[Bible_Belt]

My sex sessions leave my penis feeling sore.

Vaginal pube stubble, perhaps? I don't care if a woman gets offended, I'm not fvcking any more sandpaper pvssy.

 

[HankHill]

Vaginal pube stubble, perhaps? I don't care if a woman gets offended, I'm not fvcking any more sandpaper pvssy.

lol I've had soreness at the tip as well as my pelvis after several back to back sessions. The sore tip was due to a smaller vag or some obstruction inside and the pelvis was due to her tightening up (she was skinny so not a lot of cushion for the pushn') to supposedly help me climax faster. I told her not to do that because her boney ass is digging into my pelvis lol

 

[Murk]

been watching gloryhole multiple creampie vids, these hoes literally get creampied by 20 dudes in quick succession

****s fire mang

*loads up pornhub*

fvck yall

 

[Gan]

I have been too much over the last while. I haven't since yesterday, so I'm going to abstain again now for a while. It's just a dirty habit, and I find many benefits when I don't:

-More energy; I am literally wide awake and ready for the day by 7am every morning.
-My hair got thicker.
-Voice got deeper to the point where other people noticed.
-Women definitely seem to react differently for whatever reason; maybe smell, demeanour, body language. But something definitely attracted them more.
-I feel calmer and more confident, but with surplus potential energy, like a coiled spring.

I'm gonna start a new NoFap thread for August and see how we all do.

There's definitely a change in body language and confidence. I noticed I found it harder to maintain good posture when I jacked off a lot. It felt like consciously maintaining a good posture was a lot of work and it would give me anxiety when I would force myself to stand up straight and sit right. I'd give up trying right away. But then when I would take a break from porn, it was much easier and less taxing on my mind to keep a good posture. I'm on my 5th day of no fap and I already feel more comfortable maintaining my posture.

 

[flowtheory]

I have been too much over the last while. I haven't since yesterday, so I'm going to abstain again now for a while. It's just a dirty habit, and I find many benefits when I don't:

-More energy; I am literally wide awake and ready for the day by 7am every morning.
-My hair got thicker.
-Voice got deeper to the point where other people noticed.
-Women definitely seem to react differently for whatever reason; maybe smell, demeanour, body language. But something definitely attracted them more.
-I feel calmer and more confident, but with surplus potential energy, like a coiled spring.

I'm gonna start a new NoFap thread for August and see how we all do.

I can almost guarantee this is all placebo

 

[MrJack]

I think I used to jack off to porn at least 3 times a week a while back and I wouldn't even enjoy it. It's summer and I don't have much to do but read and exercise. I feel physically fit and in good shape but when I look at porn it feels like the energy is being sapped out of me and I've only just realized this now. It's mainly out of boredom, so I'm working on quitting the porn. I was wondering, those of you who are good with women and have sex on the regular, do you still look at porn? How often do you and does it affect your motivation?

I would've made a post on the no fap thread but I couldn't find it. I left this site for a few months and I forgot where everything was.

It’s simple in my experience:

When I’m jacking off to porn I am low energy and worse with women.

When I am not jacking off to porn (84 days now) I am funnier, more confident, have more energy, and better with women.

 

[MrJack]

Women watch porn, too. It is not evil as an inanimate thing, but like anything else, compulsive addiction to it is the problem. People will destroy their lives with all sorts of ridiculous things, from drugs to lottery tickets. You can ruin yourself with porn, or you can make it a fun part of your sex life with an actual woman. It's up to you.

Some women do watch porn and they have the same mental side effects. At least they don’t have to deal with porn induced ED lol, one less thing for them.

There are also female “fapstronauts”.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I can almost guarantee this is all placebo

Placebo is one of the more successful phenomena in medical science.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I think the consensus here is that watching porn is bad.... Hardly surprising when you consider that a major aspect of this site is about self-improvement. An ongoing pornography habit is just simply corrosive of your self. All self-respecting men feel disgusted with themselves afterwards. Why? Because they know it is beneath their freedom and dignity.... and robs them of that.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I myself don’t really a difference. If I get myself off like 4 times in like 3 minutes or something, then sometimes my brain will feel fried. But that used to not happen at all. I can also just start moving around and get active and it’ll go away. The only reason why I wouldn't jack off if because of time, and sleep. It just wastes time for me, and if I do it at night, I lose sleep. Still, I have a sex drive so I probably do it every couple of days or so.

 

[Trump]

An ongoing pornography habit is just simply corrosive of your self. All self-respecting men feel disgusted with themselves afterwards. Why? Because they know it is beneath their freedom and dignity.... and robs them of that.

What do you mean by ‘beneath their freedom and dignity?’

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I can almost guarantee this is all placebo

The problem with the whole placebo theory is it's based on scientific objectivity, where how the subject thinks or feels is considered irrelevant. But it is really the quality of our very subjectivity/ psychology which is central to the questions of whether one should abstain from certain practices. This only goes to show the limitation of scientific method, great though it is.

 

[Gan]

What do you mean by ‘beneath their freedom and dignity?’

I think he means that watching porn is not something most men are open about when they're around people because it seems so degrading and disgusting, thus keeping it a secret and not allowing you to be completely "free" and truthful.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

What do you mean by ‘beneath their freedom and dignity?’

I think it is fair to say that there is a psychological conflict within most when it comes to indulging in porn. This is hardly no mystery as is what 2000 years of western ethics and philosophy has focused on - this seemingly dual nature at play within ourselves. You could call it the base and the noble, the animal and the rational. The point of ethics was self-control, where the rational part was the boss, and the aim was self-determination [freedom to.. as opposed to freedom from]. All of this should make sense to anyone concerned with self-development... actually these new ideas tap into the old.

But more than theory, this is the practical reality we find when engaging in certain behavior.... and ethics is always about practicality. There is a struggle, the rational self capitulates to nature. The better self comes back to its senses, and is disgusted and demoralized... until it isn't, which would equate with complete degeneracy.

The instinct for freedom and dignity [self-determination] is just as real as the instincts of the Id. The challenge is to unify [not repress] what is in conflict, and then direct those energies into a purposeful life.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I think he means that watching porn is not something most men are open about when they're around people because it seems so degrading and disgusting, thus keeping it a secret and not allowing you to be completely "free" and truthful.

Yes, and it stifles your capacity to socially connect with others. Considering the etymology of the word 'per-version', which means turning through or away, it is the ultimate perversion - you are turning back into yourself... instead of projecting your energies outward.

 

[Gan]

Yes, and it stifles your capacity to socially connect with others. Considering the etymology of the word 'per-version', which means turning through or away, it is the ultimate perversion - you are turning back into yourself... instead of projecting your energies outward.

What if they were open about it and talked about it with no shame?