Look For the Bad in People

[Nexus Polaris]

I stumbled across a counter-intuitive strategy that seems to work pretty well for me that I thought I would share with anyone who is interested.


Look for the bad in people.


All your AFC life you get told to look for the good in everyone. But when you are living like a doormat and always trying to please people, you automatically have a hard time seeing anything other than the good. Particularly in women. Thus an average looking girl with a crappy personality becomes a "goddess." In order to be able to look at her objectively to see what she's really worth, you have to be able to identify the bad stuff as well.

So when you see a beautiful woman, instead of allowing your balls to involuntarily turn into mush, start picking her apart to see what's wrong with her (lord knows they do this to us!). Stop being hypotized by tits and ass and start looking for flaws. I guarantee you even the hottest women have them.

I found myself becoming entranced the other day by the beauty of Katy Perry in a bikini until I noticed a colony of moles on her back and shoulders. Suddenly, she became human again.

This isn't intended to tear down women or make you view them as less desirable. It is merely to help you maintain a sense of perspective. That they are not some divine, flawless creatures. They are people like us. It's easy to forget that sometimes.

Being conscious of women's flaws will not only make it easier to talk to them but will also raise your standards in them considerably.

 

[Ease]

reminds me of the 'imagine her taking a big smelly poo' idea.

the disgusting stuff turns me off tho id rather not imagine that^

 

[Deniska]

Taking apart or looking negatively on physical defects that none of us have control over, is shallow and childish.

If you want to pick something apart, then pick apart the person that she is on every level.

 

[KontrollerX]

reminds me of the 'imagine her taking a big smelly poo' idea.

the disgusting stuff turns me off tho id rather not imagine that^

Ahahahahahahaha!!! :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

 

[Nexus Polaris]

Yeah, it was actually the crap thread that inspired me to post this yesterday.

Who says I was only talking about physical things, though? You should do it with personality as well.

 

[radiodude]

I stumbled across a counter-intuitive strategy that seems to work pretty well for me that I thought I would share with anyone who is interested.


Look for the bad in people.


All your AFC life you get told to look for the good in everyone. But when you are living like a doormat and always trying to please people, you automatically have a hard time seeing anything other than the good. Particularly in women. Thus an average looking girl with a crappy personality becomes a "goddess." In order to be able to look at her objectively to see what she's really worth, you have to be able to identify the bad stuff as well.

So when you see a beautiful woman, instead of allowing your balls to involuntarily turn into mush, start picking her apart to see what's wrong with her (lord knows they do this to us!). Stop being hypotized by tits and ass and start looking for flaws. I guarantee you even the hottest women have them.

I found myself becoming entranced the other day by the beauty of Katy Perry in a bikini until I noticed a colony of moles on her back and shoulders. Suddenly, she became human again.

This isn't intended to tear down women or make you view them as less desirable. It is merely to help you maintain a sense of perspective. That they are not some divine, flawless creatures. They are people like us. It's easy to forget that sometimes.

Being conscious of women's flaws will not only make it easier to talk to them but will also raise your standards in them considerably.

I think this sums up the crux of the problem AFC's have with women in general. Too much of the 'goddess' complex going on.

When I think of women now, I start thinking about what her poo smells like, what her breath might stink of. What it sounds like when she farts. What private embarrassing weird thing about her personality or her behavior she exhibits that she doesn't want anyone to know of. And yes, what I can see that is imperfect about her.

Not that I do this constantly and more often than not. It's just simply a way to remind myself and remember that they are human. And that they are no better than and have just the same types of issues as anyone else.