"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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look at how stupid i am

Belgium_Freak

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If any of you don juans got what i got, you would be getting VERY hot girls. I am handsome, with a very athletic body. Did i date once in my life ? NO. I am tooooo shy to start a conversation, even though hotties look at me like they wanna rip my shirt off right there. Just take a look at my pics, you'll see what i mean :










Now somebody please kick my ass for being so shy!!! (or refer me to good articles about how to get rid of my shyness) ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I am in the same boat buddy, not so much shy just not ****y enough or to mych of a *****. I need the same help.
 

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I did 200 pushups today, what about you?
 

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You have clearly worked very hard on improving your looks and physique, and you deserve respect for that. You should have no problems attracting women's attention, but shyness can be a real problem. Even if you meet a woman who is hot for you, shyness can be a big turn off...and I sure know it!

I recommend checking various posts on this board and in the tips section about confidence, conversations etc. They have been very useful to me. Also, there are some excellent books and tapes that can help you out very quickly.

But shyness can come in different forms. It could be fear of rejection/criticism, self-doubt, fear of intimacy and a lot of things. What you need to do is take a moment to think about what is holding you back and why, and then try to overcome that problem.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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holy sh!t! you're pumped like a fuken terminator bro. true blue brotha! you'd be king pimp if you had confidence!
 

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Originally posted by Dirtheart
You have clearly worked very hard on improving your looks and physique, and you deserve respect for that. You should have no problems attracting women's attention, but shyness can be a real problem. Even if you meet a woman who is hot for you, shyness can be a big turn off...and I sure know it!

I recommend checking various posts on this board and in the tips section about confidence, conversations etc. They have been very useful to me. Also, there are some excellent books and tapes that can help you out very quickly.

But shyness can come in different forms. It could be fear of rejection/criticism, self-doubt, fear of intimacy and a lot of things. What you need to do is take a moment to think about what is holding you back and why, and then try to overcome that problem.
thanks for the tips.

i used to be fat, even then i'd attract chix (don't ask me how) but i missed the confidence. Now that i've taken care of my appearance, it's still there.
Fvck it, i'm gonna do something about this.

Dj_dork i'd be happy if i could do 50 ;)
 

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Originally posted by Mr.Hash wid da Stash
you all natural bro. Or have you dabbled in steriods.
Hey i'll take that as a compliment ;)

But no, i'm natural. I have a pretty good knowledge about what works and what not and i have the discipline to stick with it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I am kinda curious why you covered your face on the first picture...
 

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Hi, you look pretty good looking. What you have to realise is that a lot of girls are insecure and may feel you are out of their league and therefore don't give you signals or talk to you. It is your job to just go up to them, say hello, smile at them etc. Once you do that you will find the girls will help you keep the convo going especially if they like you.

Alternatively, just go to a club and wear a tight shirt and hope a girl will be so drunk and full of lust that she will do all the work
 

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chicks may think you are a stud and thats why they wont approach you and its up to you to show them that you are not... even though you maybe lol... remamber any chick will hardly approach you.... overcome your shines brake that line.... and fine a$$ should be on its way...

good luck
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Damn, hard to believe a guy that look like you never had a date. How old are you btw?
 

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give me your email adress ill send you an article about how to get or at least try to get rid of shyness, thats really good....

and no i dont want your email to hit on you is just that is like 10 pages and ill send it to you as an attatchment.
 

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whats up guys, i really appreciate all the comments. Eternalbachelor that really makes sense, that they are insecure to approach because i'm getting alot of like shy stares from girls..

undesputable, i'm sending you a PM with my email.

oh and i'm 21 btw...i know it's hard to believe that i didn't date once but i guess shyness puts one in worse positions... like not being able to talk to anyone but thank god i just have a problem with girls but not for long anymore i hope, eh undesputable ;)
 
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Shyness is an innate characteristic within our human make-up. After a few positive experiences you'll be able to overcome it with time, although don't automatically expect to become an extrovert. Some girls like 'shy' but most do not. The natural position that is assigned to men is the 'aggressor' - especially when initiating contact and pursuing women!
 

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Hey man

before my comments let me humbly request that you tell me what kind of exercises you do. i've been working out for almost a year and i dont look half that good

shyness is unfortunately a major issue if your a budding DJ. what you need to do is practice on girls lower on the food chain to build up your confidence. practice making friends and family members laugh, and then apply these skills when talking to women.

but if that fails, you can always run topless down a beach and watch the women follow with their tongues hanging out. lol
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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