silverfox
Don Juan
Just curious - what's the longest dry spell anyone has ever gone through?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Longest time in the desert...
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
about the same as bobbob but it has been my choice.....
Now I'm jumping back into the swing of things so I'm sure it won't be long now.
Now I'm jumping back into the swing of things so I'm sure it won't be long now.
BigDawg
Don Juan
My current dry spell is almost 3 years. I had a 4-year dry spell about 15 years ago. The first dry spell was because I was lower than a AFC. The current one is partly self-inflicted and partly due to lack of availability of quality women. But a few things have changed for me in the last several months and I sense that the dry spell will be over soon (though not soon enough 
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)phoneproblems
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30 years
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
speedo_meme
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Well, I went through a spell of about 8 months where I didn't get laid, but I still fooled around with some girls. It was when I first moved to this town and didn't know anybody.
Seriously you guys need to help yourselves and quit starting threads like this to wallow in self-pity. NOTHING is going to do it for you, I promise that.
Seriously you guys need to help yourselves and quit starting threads like this to wallow in self-pity. NOTHING is going to do it for you, I promise that.
Cesare Cardinali
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anything else.
diplomatic_lies
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Longest was 3 weeks. We drove through the Simpson Desert.
Which desert did you visit?
Which desert did you visit?
bbestar
Banned
Ive never been to the desert :woo:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.