"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Longest cold streak??

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Bout 16 years....:D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Maxtro said:
Wow you lost your virginity when you were 4 :crazy:
Yea we were a very close family...
 

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Today makes exactly 3 months, not counting my ex-gf who is also my fwb.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm 6,6 and have lost girls to guys shorter than you all the time. It has nothing to do with height, just be taller than her.
 

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wutangfinancial said:
hey, don juan11, what do you think has kept you a virgin that long?

Barring escorts, I'm a 22 year old virgin. I have the misfortune of being short and goofy looking. I really would either pay for it at your age or kill myself. Also, I would use money (which you must have plenty of from not wasting it on girls) to buy
A.)therapy (in the process of CBT) to overcome approach anxiety
B. Plastic surgery if necessary
C. Personal Trainer
D. Nice clothes/stylist
E. Dale Carnegie speech course

Where there's a will there's a way. Unless your under 5'6. Then you had better go to a 3rd world country.


Yes I'm obsessed with it and I constantly think about it.

I've gone through the motions with my clothes on with a girl but I just can't do skin on skin contact with the private parts, too scared.

Also since I watch alot of adult entertainment I have some body image issues

1) girl will get upset and refuse to have sex if I don't have a six pack
2) girl will laugh if I'm not 6 inches in that area

Also again because of the adult entertainment my standards are high. I mean I've been offered to have sex by 3 girls but turned them down because either they are not good looking or overweight

- Lastly, its hard to meet people at 29.

A) Don't have approach anxiety
B) Have had it twice on the nose
C) Exercising everyday
D) Could use help
E) Could use help


I guess sometimes you have to accept God didn't make you to have sex with the opposite sex like all the good looking guys get to.
 

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2 years. Actually 1 year and 11 months to be exact. I was also really down on myself and had moved to a new town. I was having a lot of problems in my head that I'd created myself. But then I found Craigslist, which happens to be access to the easiest girls in town. Not the hottest, but the easiest. They're friendly too. Although, I have yet to get laid by meeting a woman outside of Craigslist or online (since the past 2 years) - not that I mind though, it's easy anyway, and saves a bunch of time.

By the way, wu, you're neither short nor goofy looking. I saw your picture, and you actually look like a famous actor.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
I guess sometimes you have to accept God didn't make you to have sex with the opposite sex like all the good looking guys get to.
There are lots of good looking guys who are virgins or rarely have sex. Having sex with attractive women is hard. Don't let people fool you dude.
 

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Mad Manic said:
There are lots of good looking guys who are virgins or rarely have sex. Having sex with attractive women is hard. Don't let people fool you dude.
Yea I think people here set their standards too high to begin with. They read this site, think 'I know more than all the guys out there' then get annoyed when they don't score 10 beautiful women in the next few months.

Getting laid regularly with different women is a hard skill, which takes years to master. Seriously, the average number of hookups for a male in thsi country is about 6 or 7....and thats throughout his entire life. Give yourself more credit guys, and most importantly, don't give up!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah getting laid is really hard if you haven't acquired the skills. Unfortunately even fat and or ugly girls have standards.

But one thing I realized is that you won't get any pvssy if you don't put yourself out there and go for it. The more girls you are talking to the better your odds of winning are. So at least I know ways that won't get my any action. Now just to figure out what works :p

I am getting laid again this year no matter what. In the worst case scenario I'll open up my wallet but I doubt it will come to that.

BTW height is a factor of attractiveness. I'm 5'6 and I'm well aware that I'm short. A mans height can lower his self confidence and women can pick up on that lack of confidence. Also many or should I say most women like height in a guy in the same way that guys like tits on a girl. Just look at the online dating sites. Most women say they prefer a man 5'11+ which I think is downright stupid when she is only 5'2. She's going to need a step stool to make out with him :crackup:
 

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True, but at least you have excuses for not laying attractive women. I'm about 6', quite built, good looking and pretty confident now too. My skills with women are alright (as in, better than mediocre guys) but still nowhere near the standard I hope to achieve one day, and what's required.

The other day in a bookstore, I saw a 9. I mean she was fine! I approached her directly, and her face lit up like an Xmas tree, wide eyed, smiling etc. Attraction right from the off both ways and we had a fab interaction, she was very talkative, hell it was probs 60-40 in her favour after the first 5 mins. We had a 30 min interaction and she was only there to buy a few books.

I text her the day after asking if she enjoyed the little fashion thing at Victoria Quarter that she went too, which I also happened to go to later on but didn't plan to (bumped into a m8). Has she replied? No. Maybe I'll call her at the weekend and see if she picks up, but still, probs flake?

This made me realise exactly what's required to get a girl like that. My game was tight, I even qualified much better and got to know her very well and made it clear I liked her personality, but still, it's not a free card for her to reciprocate.

Guys need to open their eyes and realise exactly what these PUA's have achieved; because I thought I had it made here and my chance with a 9 was ON, but still, hot girl with so many options ... tsk.
 

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assuming you don't mean since you don'tmean from birth unitl my first layday... 3 and a half years.
 

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I guess my longest was a year or so... naw maybe six months... But seriously guys, it happens to the best of us. Nothing to get too down about, even the Rolling Stones had to have some inspiration to write "Can't Get No Satisfaction..."
 
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