long term relationships

[Zerotwoonenine]

i have found that if u do want a long term relationship and keep it fun but at the same time serious, then you need to put in alot of effort.
I am a good dj, but i have found that if you keep playing games and not put at least 45% of the effort that she puts in, then you will never have a long term relationship, afterall you are not working for her, true the DJ tactics and playas way apply and they do work, but in reality, if you want tokeep her, you have to start putting some serious thought into it, because if you keep doing push+pull, hard to get and stuff, she will leave, thats the common mistake that even serior DJs make. The other end of the spectrum is too much, make sure u dont do that either.
Having a relationship is a delicate balancing act, you just have to make sure you keep in interested by doing both leaning back and show her that u want her, because one of females major insecurities is that u r not that interested and u just want to get in bed with her.:crazy:

 

[Lust]

i have found that if u do want a long term relationship and keep it fun but at the same time serious, then you need to put in alot of effort.
I am a good dj, but i have found that if you keep playing games and not put at least 45% of the effort that she puts in, then you will never have a long term relationship, afterall you are not working for her, true the DJ tactics and playas way apply and they do work, but in reality, if you want tokeep her, you have to start putting some serious thought into it, because if you keep doing push+pull, hard to get and stuff, she will leave, thats the common mistake that even serior DJs make. The other end of the spectrum is too much, make sure u dont do that either.
Having a relationship is a delicate balancing act, you just have to make sure you keep in interested by doing both leaning back and show her that u want her, because one of females major insecurities is that u r not that interested and u just want to get in bed with her.:crazy:

Depends.

You need to keep with the push and pull, but tone it down, don't overuse it, and still show affection for her.

Who said anything about not putting effort in? I agree with you about it being a balance, but you seem to think that you have to drop the Push and Pull altogether, which isn't true.

 

[insanity]

to have a great long healthy relationship, you have to have a life seperate from hers. i have watched many of my friends relationships crash and burn because everything revolved around their girlfriends. i had this one friend whose girlfriend would go out and party and have a great time with her friends. so while he was hanging with us, he would always be looking at his cell wondering when she was going to call instead of enjoying his free time. then when he started having fun and she called and wanted to go home. he would say "alright guys it was fun but i have to go pick-up my girlfriend".

sure it's great spending time with your girlfriend but have a life outside of hers.