"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Long Term Relationship Question???

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In a 3 year relationship -
On average how many days a week should I be seeing my girlfriend ? - When were together how long should we be w/ each other?

How many times a week should we be on the phone w/ each other? How long should we be on the phone when we talk?

Thanks for any advice
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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jigga23

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you dont live with her? Is your gf needing space or something?
 

Warlord

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Analysis, I think your question is "Does she love me?" rather than those logical questions which do not equate love but do show love.

tell us more details about your 3 year relationship than asking "how should it be."
 

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!!! wow


what a DUMB question!

you obviously lack self esteem and confidence.

Read "Be the man" by pook, and stop thinking about these stupid things.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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mrRuckus

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Originally posted by Analysis
In a 3 year relationship -
On average how many days a week should I be seeing my girlfriend ? - When were together how long should we be w/ each other?

How many times a week should we be on the phone w/ each other? How long should we be on the phone when we talk?

Thanks for any advice
If I go more than one day off my girlfriend starts getting antsy if i don't at least try to schedule our next get together. "Why do i always have to ask YOU to hang out," which translates to "you can't make me go more than a day without sex can you?"

So i end up seeing her 3 or 4 days a week but i do what i want to do when i want to do it. I always watch football on sunday then afterwards i'll see her for "sunday night tv" (simpsons etc) for example. She more wants the security in her mind of knowing i want to see her than really demanding my time... unless she really wants laid then she's demanding =p
 

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Playing games in a LTR is useless. It will only cause problems between the two of you.

You've been together long enough that you should be able to play the relationship by ear. See her when you both have time. Do things together whenever possible. Keep phone conversation minimal and converse with her in person. It doesn't matter how often you see each other, but what you do with each other.
 

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Originally posted by hck332
!!! wow


what a DUMB question!

you obviously lack self esteem and confidence.

Read "Be the man" by pook, and stop thinking about these stupid things.
It's not a dumb question. Sometimes guys who are clueless don't know the meaning of love, the DJ Bible only instructs us our purpose but it doesn't address the love issue. Finding women to bang and stuff is fine - but finding that woman that you have good vibes is totally another thing. Don't judge another person and sound rhetorical about it either.
 

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Firstly I agree with Doc Love in that you should only use the phone to arrange dates. Otherwise you use up all your conversation for when you see her.

In terms of how much you see her, see her as much as you like. If things start to get boring for you, or if you notice a drop in her intensity then see her less. There is no absolute amount of time you should be spending, just make sure you or her doesn't get bored.
 

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Originally posted by Analysis
In a 3 year relationship -
On average how many days a week should I be seeing my girlfriend ? - When were together how long should we be w/ each other?

How many times a week should we be on the phone w/ each other? How long should we be on the phone when we talk?

Thanks for any advice
You have the girl.

No need for games.

But advice...don't call her too much and don't start acting needy. Keep a little mystery about you. That's all you need to do.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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get busy and do something with your life.

Join a martial arts club or something. you can go every other day and if she *****es and complains you can tell her off for not showing any interest in the things that you like.
 

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Thanks for all the responses.

I am a Don Juan & Doc Love Disciple. I practice the system & all that. I know she loves me - She's always buying me things and taking me out to dinner and I do the same for her....In the beginning - I spaced out the time alot between the time we would she each other like one time a week....keeping that interest level up.....She ask me when am I going to ask her to marry her like 50 times a week...The reason I'm asking the question.. because every once in a while I reflect and think am I slipping on my game at all....and when I reflected I'm thinking I might be spending too much time..Usually I will see her a few times during the week and then we'll spend the weekend together....
 
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