The "more fighting and less sex" is definitely NOT a good thing. I think there might be bigger concerns here. When my 6 year long relationship came to an end, as with most relationships, towards the end, there is MORE fighting, and LESS sex lol. This doesn't have to mean that you guys are splitting up, or that you're splitting up immediately. It can even be like 8 months from now, as it takes some time for you guys to emotionally move on before one of you breaks up.
However, to get to the bottom of some of this:
What are your arguments about?
WHY is there less sex? You are the male and supposed to initiate it, are YOU not initiating enough, or she turning you down? This is also an important question. Sex lowers in most relationships either because the man doesn't initiate it as much as he used to (you just don't feel it as much with her, the novelty wore off), ORRRR because she is turning you down (much bigger issues with this case)... but please be honest with us, as this is simply a forum to get some help, so no need to lie about it, lets figure out what's going on...
My uncle told me this when I was just a little kid (he was an ultimate player and ended up marrying a HOTTIE, hell, his wife is in late fourties now and still hot lol).. He said: "Once you have sex with a same one a THOUSAND times, it won't be the same anymore. You can be excited 999 times, but the second you reach that THOUSANDTH time, you won't enjoy it quite as much". Now, obviously, he's probably pulling that number out of his ass, lol, BUT, the basic idea is very much true. I'm sure its different for all of us, but after so many times with the same girl, sex is just not as exciting as it used to be at the beginning. As BigNeil said, it's like looking at the same PLayboy centerfold for 2 years, after a while, something new excites you more.
In a book "the evolution of desire", dr. David Buss talks about a test that was once done on animals, specifically cows and bulls. They actually tied something around the bulls' head and blindfolded them, and had them in a barn with a bunch of cows, and EACH time the bull had sex with a NEW cow, he was MORE excited than when doing the same one the second or third time!!!! And they were NOT able to see these cows! lol, and STILL they were more excited when screwing a new one. So that kinda explains some of what guys go through as well. (by the way, don't ask me exactly how they did this testing LOL, I don't know the details, but the information is interesting).
My ex of 6 years was one of the hottest bit**es I've ever met in my life, but after a few years, the sex was just not the same. And I'm sure ALL of the guys were probably thinking "mannnn I wish I was in your shoes, and was able to get THAT every night" and it's all fine and dandy and all, but after getting it every night year after YEAR after YEAR, it just ain't the same anymore lol. That's why you see some high status males married to drop dead hot chicks and then a story comes out how they cheated with an "average" looking waitress or something, and everybody goes on this whole OOOOO AAAAA how in the world can he do that, he is soooo stupid to want that over his HOTTT wife blaa blaa, well.. not to excuse anything, but he doesn't WANT her over his hot wife lol. He just got tired of fu**ing the same vagina over and over and screwing that average lookign waitress was just exciting for him at the moment, that's why he did it. People don't take this into account when being ABSOLUTELY BAFFLED on WHY IN THE WORLD the guy would do a less attractive girl if his wife is so hot. I've heard these conversations even at work, and had to do a damn good job of holding my mouth closed during these conversations and just say "yeah, crazy right" lol. No way in hell am I going into explaining this stuff to people who don't want to hear it. ONce agian, not excusing it, just explaining the "why" that baffles so many.
HAVING SAID ALL THAT, you just absolutely HAVE to keep satisfying your girl. Too many marriages fail because the husband doesn't sex his wife up like he's supposed to. I believe with all my heart that it is OUR job to satisfy our women! You have to adopt taht Nike slogan mentality "just do it". Yeah, sometimes you're tired, sometimes you're not in the mood, sometiems you'd rather just pass out right away, sometimes you're holding a grudge against her, bla bla bla, 100 reasons why you may not want to have sex at the moment, but you have to "just do it". SEX SOLVES 90% of YOUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS!! It is my goal and mission to be the absolutely BEST lover a woman has ever had, whether it's my girlfriend or a one night stand! This may not always be true, but it is an honest goal and I make sure I "put in work" lol. Once I made this my goal, I dont' think I've had a girl once who wasn't satisfied and didn't want to meet me up again. If every husband out there would drop porn, and pick up his wife, and take her to the room and screw her brains out, we would have MUCH less divorces and MUCH more happy marriages!! Book it!! Ever notice how even the biggest bit*ches, once you really d*ck 'em down pretty good and give 'em multiple orgasms, just become so lovey dovey and "melt in your hands". Sex would fix sooooo many problems that guys have it's not even funny!! I can't put enough importance on it!!! I've helped numerous guys with girls, and you would be surprised that almost EVERY marriage issue or an upcoming divorce, sex was either rare or non-existant!!!!!! This is NOT a coincidence!!! GUYS,,, please, do us all a favor and F*CK YOUR GIRLFRIENDS!!!!!!!!! F*CK YOUR WIVESSSSS!!!!!! Don't let guys like me and some other PUAs here have to do your jobs!!!! Trust me, the business has been plenty good while I was single, but I would rather have ALLLL of you guys be happy with your ladies, and only leave the truly single ladies for us crooked PUAs and DJs out there!! In order to accomplish this, you HAVE TO F*CK your lady!!!! A LOT!!!! I'm not kidding you here, I f*ck my girl so much that a few times she questioned me if sex is all I want lol, but you know what, that's A LOT BETTER than a girl breaking up with you because you are a wimp and you don't f*ck her and satisfy her!! This happens all too often!!!
Ok, right now I dont' even remember what the original topic was lol, my bad... but f*ck your girlfriends for f*cks sake!!!!!!!!! :rockon:
