Long Term Relationship Disccussion. When should an LTR end?

[girlsarecrazy]

I've been with this girl for 6 months of my life. This has been mine and her longest relationship ever. I fit very well in her life, her parents love me, my parents love her, a lot of people tell us that we are perfect together and things like that. I really care for her, I've already made the strong emotinal connect, we both fell hard for each other. She's always happy with me but i'm starting to run into problems as this summer started. I wonder if this is normal for a LTR or not.

My question is that are the reasons to end a long term relationship different than ending a short term relationship?

It just seems so much harder when you have been with someone for so long to just throw it all away. I'm finding it very hard to end it with this girl. I don't know if that will be the smart thing to do. I need advice. I don't know why I am feeling this way. This long 6 month relationship has been really getting to me lately. I'm not enjoying this uneasy confused frustrating feeling that has been going on inside my head lately and I don't know if getting rid of this girl will fix my problem. I believe part of it is because I don't know what I even want.

Ever since the summer started, my girl has started hanging out with her girl friends more than I. I'm not used to this change because she has always chose me over her girl friends. I was used to her calling me everytime she was on her 10 minute break at work, I was used to her calling me right before she fell asleep or texting me good night. Summer frenzy has taken over and she's been acting a little flakey lately. Is this normal though? Do all girls change when it's summer time? I feel as I shouldn't be holding her back on her fun and all but then again if she's not around as much as I'm used to, I'm left missing her. Her time spent with me has significantly dropped ever since summer started. Is this a reason to let a girl go that's been with you for 6 months?

 

[Dannyrt34]

Alright here's the deal man. You probably won't like this, but I'm on the girl's side on this one.

No, I don't think you should break up with her. If you really think about it, she isn't doing anything wrong. So you'd really be breaking up with her because YOU are being insecure. Now if she was out cheating, or with other guys, that would be a whole different story. But if you really want to keep her, let her enjoy herself, you don't want to make her feel like she has to be chained to you for you to be happy.

Now to analyze your situation with her, this is a common situation with all long term relationships. Let's face it, most people do lose attraction for that someone after they know everything about them, think about it, what attracts a person to somebody new, it's the mystery, and freshness that keeps a girl interested. After so long, what is there left to find out about that person? It becomes too predictable, and boring.

So how do you fix this? Excellent question. Get out there and develop a life of your own, even if you don't have the time that you'd like to spend with her. If you go out and enjoy yourself too, you won't worry about it so much. Plus you'll have plenty of fun stories to tell when you do see her. Just remember to never question her about what she's doing, she'll see you're insecurity shining brightly.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Yea it's nothing to fret over bud...She has other friends, and so do you im sure. Its good to spend time wit your boys as opposed to your girl...Just because she doesnt hang out as often doesnt mean anything.

It's a progressing relationship...most guys get confused like you are at this point and they pull the plug. The relationship is passing the "crazy about each other" phase, or infatuation if you will. It should progress into a more meaningful and deeper relation in the future.

don't panic...just keep living your life...and ocassionally bring your girl along for the wild ride<--which it should be...

~WA

 

[girlsarecrazy]

Yea it's nothing to fret over bud...She has other friends, and so do you im sure. Its good to spend time wit your boys as opposed to your girl...Just because she doesnt hang out as often doesnt mean anything.

It's a progressing relationship...most guys get confused like you are at this point and they pull the plug. The relationship is passing the "crazy about each other" phase, or infatuation if you will. It should progress into a more meaningful and deeper relation in the future.

don't panic...just keep living your life...and ocassionally bring your girl along for the wild ride<--which it should be...

~WA

She's starting to return to her old self again. All she's been doing is going out to parties and group hangs. She loves attention and it seems like when I give her attention like a phone call, that's all she needs from me to carry on with her days. I need to see her to be satisfied, I'm missing out on sex too. We used to see each other 5-6 times a week. Now it's 2-3 times a week in which I go to her, she doesn't go to me. She used to tell me everything and every day. Now i'm left wondering what she's been up to. I'd love her to call me and tell me how her day went.

How do i know that she's not generating multiple casual relationships with other guys just through the summer as a summer flings. Girls love to have the idea that the summer is just one big party. I don't know what's going through her mind. I AFC complained one time awhile ago and she told me she doesn't know if she wants a boyfriend this summer.

I've tried asking her before and she's gets turned off and confused as to what she wants anymore. I always hope things will get better as the beginning of the summer passes and then becomes less a party. She always wants to hang with her girls... so she's not going to want to invite me to one of the parties she's going to. I started to invite her some of the parties i've been going to and she brought her friend.

Should this end? It's 6 months of my life and I'm being replaced by her girlfriends. I thought the summer was going to be better since me and her had more free time to share together. It's the opposite now.

Keep in mind, I can easily stay busy and hang out with my guy friends and go to parties just like her and keep busy. But I'm always thinking about her and how it used to be. I feel like i'm sticking around because i know she's commited and willing to have sex with me still and that's it.

She thinks i'm always there for her because I answer her phone calls, always willing to hang out, attempt to see her, etc.

But if i were to call her to hang out, she'll tell me idk yet, she doesn't have her phone on her all the time, she never drives over to see me.

Is there anything I could do to improve our relationship? I want her to call me more, I want her to tell me everything again.

 

[Dannyrt34]

She's starting to return to her old self again. All she's been doing is going out to parties and group hangs. She loves attention and it seems like when I give her attention like a phone call, that's all she needs from me to carry on with her days. I need to see her to be satisfied, I'm missing out on sex too. We used to see each other 5-6 times a week. Now it's 2-3 times a week in which I go to her, she doesn't go to me. She used to tell me everything. Now i'm left wondering what she's been up to. How do i know that she's not generating multiple casual relationships with other guys just through the summer as a summer flings. Girls love to have the idea that the summer is just one big party. I don't know what's going through her mind.

I've tried asking her before and she's gets turned off and confused as to what she wants anymore. I always hope things will get better as the beginning of the summer passes and then becomes less a party. She always wants to hang with her girls... so she's not going to want to invite me to one of the parties she's going to. I started to invite her some of the parties i've been going to and she brought her friend. Should this end? It's 6 months of my life and I'm being replaced by her girlfriends. I can easily stay busy and hang out with my guy friends and go to parties just like her and keep busy. But I'm always thinking about her and how it used to be.

I still gotta tell ya man, YOU are the one having problems. YOU are being insecure, and I think she is starting to see that. Which is causing her to lose attraction for you. She still isn't doing anything wrong, you're just being paranoid. Did you really expect that those feelings during those first 6 months of the relationship were always going to be there, because that's never ever the case.

And yeah, she is more likely to find somebody else, but in the end it would be your own fault. You're turning into an AFC, so she might want to start lookin for a real man again. And if you really think about it, I don't blame her.

You are stuck in the mindset that you aren't doing anything wrong, but she is changing. Meanwhile, you're the one who's making this change into something horrible, because you want her to be stuck to you like glue.

So if you do want to keep her, then like I said before, get out there, and enjoy yourself. And if you really don't want her finding somebody new, you need to 'Man up'.

 

[girlsarecrazy]

I still gotta tell ya man, YOU are the one having problems. YOU are being insecure, and I think she is starting to see that. Which is causing her to lose attraction for you. She still isn't doing anything wrong, you're just being paranoid. Did you really expect that those feelings during those first 6 months of the relationship were always going to be there, because that's never ever the case.

And yeah, she is more likely to find somebody else, but in the end it would be your own fault. You're turning into an AFC, so she might want to start lookin for a real man again. And if you really think about it, I don't blame her.

You are stuck in the mindset that you aren't doing anything wrong, but she is changing. Meanwhile, you're the one who's making this change into something horrible, because you want her to be stuck to you like glue.

So if you do want to keep her, then like I said before, get out there, and enjoy yourself. And if you really don't want her finding somebody new, you need to 'Man up'.

I do not show her my insecurities! I don't tell her I miss her. I never call her. I don't complain to her. She thinks i'm happy with what's going on. But i'm not, and that's why i'm here to figure out why i'm feeling this way and what i should do to make me feel better about my situation.

I don't know if ending it all together is going to make me feel better. Because i'm still going to miss her and think about her, etc. Either way, i have something to get over whether it's breaking it all off or letting her act the way she's been acting.

 

[Dannyrt34]

I do not show her my insecurities! I don't tell her I miss her. I never call her. I don't complain to her. She thinks i'm happy with what's going on. But i'm not, and that's why i'm here to figure out why i'm feeling this way and what i should do to make me feel better about my situation.

In that case, you really need to learn to just deal with it.
I was in a relationship like this before, and I learned from it. Of couse, I'm out of this relationship now, and I never felt stronger emotionally in my life after that was over. Because basically what I learned from this, is to never get too attached to any girl I meet!

Now, that don't mean I don't want another relationship, but I'm never going to let a girl know me completely, I always want to have some sort of mystery there. I'm always going to keep everything fresh with every potential LTR girl that I meet, to keep the initial attraction there.

You say you hung out with her 5-6 times a week, you might as well have been married to her. So let's ask this, why don't many marriages last? You get so used to each other that it becomes boring.

Now you say, you hang out with her 2-3 times a week. THAT is the way it should have ALWAYS been. Especially when the feelings were high for you, she'd have plenty of time to miss you, and she would have never gotten 'too used' to being around you. So to make a LTR last, you have to actually stay distant from the girl. This will keep things new, exciting, fresh, and a hell of a lot more fun for both of you.

Now in your situation, to be honest. I don't know what you can do to make youself feel better, because this relationship should have been different for a long time. If you're really not happy in this relationship right now, then maybe you should end it, and start fresh with somebody new. Just remember the right way to do a long term relationship, and don't make the same mistakes twice.

 

[girlsarecrazy]

If you're really not happy in this relationship right now, then maybe you should end it, and start fresh with somebody new.

Ok, right now i'm technically allowed to see whoever I want because me and her don't bare any girlfriend/boyfriend titles. But we're remaning sexually exclusive. But I'd really like to make things work out with this girl who i've spent 6 months with rather than go out and try to fvck other chicks and cause my 6 month LTR to end. I'm having a little bit of one-itis for my girl, but this is normal in a LTR.

Now if it's normal for LTR's to flake in the summer than I can accept this and live my summer like I did when I was single, and keep her around for whenever, and maybe when the party dies down and people start chilling out things will get better between me and her. Also if i knew that this was going to last longer, I'd spend more money and invest in more exciting dates and surprises to keep this relationship alive. But i'm not sure and right now, we're just chilling everytime we see each other because I don't want to waste my money on someone who's going to be leaving me.

 

[Desdinova]

Ever since the summer started, my girl has started hanging out with her girl friends more than I. I'm not used to this change because she has always chose me over her girl friends.

You must adapt to change. It's not a bad change, she's just getting "comfortable" in the LTR. Unfortunately, women are just as bad a guys for getting "comfortable". Unfortunately, most guys will quit attracting her altogether.

We used to see each other 5-6 times a week. Now it's 2-3 times a week

No reason to worry. So you're not practically living with her anymore. Pick your hobbies back up and fill the extra time with that. After you do this for a while and get used to it, you'll wonder why you were b1tching about it in the first place!

Should this end? It's 6 months of my life and I'm being replaced by her girlfriends.

You're not being replaced by anything. Her gfs were there before you were. Get the idea out of your head that you are the priority just because you're fvcking her. You need to EARN that priority. Status has nothing to do with it.

YOU are being insecure, and I think she is starting to see that. Which is causing her to lose attraction for you.

Dannyrt is correct. You may not show it in your speech, but your facial expressions, body language, and voice tone tell speak loudly to women.

 

[Dannyrt34]

Ok, right now i'm technically allowed to see whoever I want because me and her don't bare any girlfriend/boyfriend titles. But we're remaning sexually exclusive. But I'd really like to make things work out with this girl who i've spent 6 months with rather than go out and try to fvck other chicks and cause my 6 month LTR to end. I'm having a little bit of one-itis for my girl, but this is normal in a LTR.

Now if it's normal for LTR's to flake in the summer than I can accept this and live my summer like I did when I was single, and keep her around for whenever, and maybe when the party dies down and people start chilling out things will get better between me and her.

Dude that's exactly what happened when I ended my LTR!
Weird $hit.
But listen. I see you really want to make things work with her, but what happened next for me with my LTR is I thought "Ok cool, we're still going to remain sexually exclusive, so chances are we'll be good again someday."

That was NOT the case. She still never made time for me, so finally I said "fluck it, she's holding me back." So I cut off all contact with her, and started living my single life again with no strings attached.

I am talking to 2 HB's now that could be potential LTRs, but I still keep meeting more and more. Ones that are WAY better and hotter than my ex. Think about it man, think of the last time you seen some gorgeous girl but couldn't say anything to her because you were with your girl. Now you're free man! Live it up! Date as many girls as you can, and I promise you, you will find plenty more you like way better.

And let me tell ya dude, I AM LOVIN IT! Forget that exclusive sexual stuff she's feeding you. Get out there and find some HB's you never knew you could have!

 

[girlsarecrazy]

Okay! I'm feeling better! But there is one thing missing in my LTR.

Right now our only commitment is exclusive sex. We aren't baring the traditional boyfriend/girlfriend titles. We should carry the titles because it helps with trust and security of our relationship.

She treats me like a boyfriend, i treat her like a girlfriend, But she doesn't think it's right for titles because she thinks she'll be on lock down or something. She thinks that if we had titles, she won't be able to continue going out with her friends like she has been. I believe that as long as she doesn't cheat, we can carry titles. She doesn't realize that. She thinks a boyfriend means the highest priority in her life. Which is not true.

 

[Dannyrt34]

Did she start calling you more and more and more once she found out you were with other girls or did she get pissed and never want to talk to you again.

She was pissed and never wanted to talk to me again.

But who cares, I'm meeting girls I only dreamed of having, my skills are improving with women, I'm becoming a better person. So I really didn't care if she was pissed, I still don't, I don't think about her anymore. And I still love my life.

Keep in mind, the only reason I tell you to just forget about her, is because in my opinion, the WRONG things have been going on in this relationship for far too long. I think it would be close to impossible to have her change her mind about you now. Like Desdinova said, you don't even realize you are acting insecure to her, but she can sense it. And once you act this way towards a girl, its kind of hard to get her to think of you as a man again. This is why I say to just get your ass out there and start fresh.

 

[Dannyrt34]

Okay! I'm feeling better! But there is one thing missing in my LTR.

Right now our only commitment is exclusive sex. We aren't baring the traditional boyfriend/girlfriend titles. We should carry the titles because it helps with trust and security of our relationship.

She treats me like a boyfriend, i treat her like a girlfriend, But she doesn't think it's right for titles because she thinks she'll be on lock down or something. She thinks that if we had titles, she won't be able to continue going out with her friends like she has been. I believe that as long as she doesn't cheat, we can carry titles. She doesn't realize that. She thinks a boyfriend means the highest priority in her life. Which is not true.

See dude, you don't even realize this but what you say about the whole TITLE thing. THAT is being insecure too. You are really digging this whole deeper without even realizing it, my brain is being fried just to try to explain this to you.

What I said would happen already happened, you came off as an insecure AFC guy. Now she wants to lose the titles so she appears single for the next manly man she meets.

So you're being exclusive with JUST SEX?? In girl terms I think she's trying to tell you. "I'd still like to have you around for sex, but I still gotta drop this BOYFRIEND title so I still appear single for when somebody better comes along."

And don't take what I'm telling you and go "Ok so that means I gotta try harder for her."

Because that is NOT what I am trying to tell you, this is what I'm saying:

MEET OTHER WOMEN! You have ruined it with this one, and yes you did, she didn't do anything wrong, but you became paranoid and insecure, causing her to lose any attraction for you.

Learn from you're mistakes, get better, and you will find yourself with a girl twice as beautiful, and wants you a million times more.

 

[wayword]

No reason to worry. So you're not practically living with her anymore. Pick your hobbies back up and fill the extra time with that. After you do this for a while and get used to it, you'll wonder why you were b1tching about it in the first place!

Ironically, the more you give up to be with a woman, the more she feels you're now lacking and have to offer her... You MUST maintain your own life, hobbies, pursuits & friends! NO WOMAN IS A SUBSTITUTE FOR ALL THAT!

I mean, look at how she's been playing you - cutting back time to go out and party with all her other friends & leaving YOU in the DUST...which is ONLY MAKING YOU WANT HER MORE! You're letting her work you like a complete puppet - which is only causing her to lose even MORE respect for you!

See, THAT'S WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN DOING TO HER!

But you're not, and so you're sitting on the short end of the stick now. Look, she's not all that. You're not sprung on HER - but the way she is ACTING. So, PULL your head out of her mindgame...and go find another girl to stick it in!

 

[girlsarecrazy]

You're all right.

The decline in her attraction dropped significantly after i this AFC mistake.

One night she called me asking for LQ for her friend and I told her no, and she whined and cried to me and i got pissed at her. Then she called me back and said she's sorry. Then later in the night she called me, I ignored because i was at a party. I call her back, she's at another party and is trying to get off the phone w/ me. I say "fine! whatever don't talk bye". After that, it caused the longest silence between me and her ever in the 6 months we've been seeing each other.

She didn't call me, I didn't call her for a long time. She knew something was wrong and she eventually gave in and called me, I acted casual, "Hey, what's up?" She asks if something was wrong, I told her no and I had to go because I'm with my friends. She was like i want to talk now.. i told her no i'm busy we'll talk later. Then she's like "this isn't working out, Do you want to just end us here?" I told her I didn't really care. She tells me "Fvck you! It's over!".

I was happy and over her. I really did want to break up with her at the time because of the disrespect i got from the day before.

So i didn't call her back or do anything. She blows up my phone 10 times and get her friends to text me. And i don't pick up.

Eventually I just drive my car to her house and go over there, pissed off and telling her I don't know if i want to continue with this and told her I felt so disrespected. She's crying, apologizing, i'm shaking my head and saying I don't know.

I should have just ended it there, but no I gave in, I gave her a big hug and asked her if she wanted this to continue. She's like yes, and cried in my arms.

Ever since then, she's been hanging out with her friends more, not texting me goodnight, not calling me for longer periods of time. While i'm like WTF went wrong. I thought we we're going to be better.

Now guys, I'm going to move her into a side project, I'm not going to call it off with her. I'm just going to not make her my priority anymore unless things change.

I'm still allowed to pimp my game and do whatever the fvck i want. There's no reason to scrap this project if I can find something better at the same time.

I guess now, i'm looking for things to change about how i treat this girl. I started getting things back in order but when she was in a need of me, I've been really busy and everytime she called to do something I wasn't available.

I know she won't break things off, she has no reason to, I don't hold her back right now and she doesn't sleep around. She doesn't want to lose me. She doesn't want to date around.

 

[wayword]

One night she called me asking for LQ for her and her friends and I told her no, and she whined and cried to me and i got pissed at her. Then she called me back and said she's sorry. Then later in the night she called me, ignored because i was at a party. I call her back, she's at another party and is trying to get off the phone w/ me. I say "fine! whatever don't talk bye". That caused the longest silence between me and her ever in the 6 months we've been seeing each other.

Ahh, well with this lil' piece of background info, sounds more like she's simply getting payback now. Ain't that a bych!

 

[girlsarecrazy]

I hold myself back from calling her, I hold myself back to not show my insecurity, I hold myself back to not show how much I want to actually see her. There has got to be something else I can do to improve my relationship besides just calling it quits.

I think I'm just going to get some space from her.

 

[amoka]

you need life

....she isn't doing anything wrong. So you'd really be breaking up with her because YOU are being insecure.

I agree with Danny, there is nothing that this girls has done wrong for you to let her go. Letting her go would probably cause you a lot of damages than keeping her.

I feel as I shouldn't be holding her back on her fun and all but then again if she's not around as much as I'm used to, I'm left missing her. Her time spent with me has significantly dropped ever since summer started.

The best thing there is for you to do is to allow her to enjoy herself with her girlfriends. Would you rather see her with her guyfriends? I also feel you're giving her too much of your attention. Ladies love attention just like guys love sex. How would you feel having the same pvssy daily? Hang out often with your guy buddies.

 

[Dannyrt34]

I hold myself back from calling her, I hold myself back to not show my insecurity, I hold myself back to not show how much I want to actually see her. There has got to be something else I can do to improve my relationship besides just calling it quits.

I think I'm just going to get some space from her.

You know what else I did after I ended my long term relationship?

The very next day I went out, got a number and a date set for that weekend. I never looked back since.

So are you completely oblivious to the fact that there's plenty of other girls out there that you can do all the RIGHT things with, and be perfectly happy with.

You say you wish you don't have to call this relationship quits, but I don't understand why you're staying in this relationship if it's making you miserable.

I'm going to say this again, just try hooking up with as many girls as you can, just TRY IT! I bet you all the money in my pocket you'll be happy you did this.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

You're all right.

The decline in her attraction dropped significantly after i this AFC mistake.

One night she called me asking for LQ for her friend and I told her no, and she whined and cried to me and i got pissed at her. Then she called me back and said she's sorry. Then later in the night she called me, I ignored because i was at a party. I call her back, she's at another party and is trying to get off the phone w/ me. I say "fine! whatever don't talk bye". After that, it caused the longest silence between me and her ever in the 6 months we've been seeing each other.

I know its hard, but never get angry with girls. Instead, ignore them when they act stupid, that eats away at them more than any profanity laced tirade you could ever think of saying.

She didn't call me, I didn't call her for a long time. She knew something was wrong and she eventually gave in and called me, I acted casual, "Hey, what's up?" She asks if something was wrong, I told her no and I had to go because I'm with my friends. She was like i want to talk now.. i told her no i'm busy we'll talk later. Then she's like "this isn't working out, Do you want to just end us here?" I told her I didn't really care. She tells me "Fvck you! It's over!".

Never tolerate disrespect!! If a girl says "fuvk you" then she's history, done, dead and in the past.

I was happy and over her. I really did want to break up with her at the time because of the disrespect i got from the day before.

Its hard because this is your 1st serious relationship, but you can't keep changing your mind about wanting to be with this girl or wanting to break up with her. When you flip-flop like this it shows her one thing: Your on her doggie-leash.

So i didn't call her back or do anything. She blows up my phone 10 times and get her friends to text me. And i don't pick up.

This is her panic streak showing, when she finally thought she lost you. Notice the marked difference in her behavior here and when she was partying the night away ignoring your calls.

Eventually I just drive my car to her house and go over there, pissed off and telling her I don't know if i want to continue with this and told her I felt so disrespected. She's crying, apologizing, i'm shaking my head and saying I don't know.

Why would you drive to her house? That's super chump behavior!! Your validating her whining by giving her any of your time at this point. You should have gone home and went to bed and she would have been knocking your door down the next day. Instead you confirmed to her that she can be completely immature and still get her way.

I should have just ended it there, but no I gave in, I gave her a big hug and asked her if she wanted this to continue. She's like yes, and cried in my arms.

WHO GIVES A FUVK WHAT SHE WANTS!! Why don't you think about what YOU want!!! Your not this girl's butler!! Think about your own feelings for once man!!

Ever since then, she's been hanging out with her friends more, not texting me goodnight, not calling me for longer periods of time. While i'm like WTF went wrong. I thought we we're going to be better.

Why would she?? Your relationship was a ticking time-bomb at this point and the MAIN reason she was going out all the time was to search for your replacement.

Now guys, I'm going to move her into a side project, I'm not going to call it off with her. I'm just going to not make her my priority anymore unless things change.

Your a big-time chump if you don't break-up with her. And I'll tell you another thing, SHE will give you the LJBF speech within the next few weeks, guaranteed!! Why you may ask? Because, yet again your letting this girl $hit all over you and your gladly taking it, asking for seconds.

I'm still allowed to pimp my game and do whatever the fvck i want. There's no reason to scrap this project if I can find something better at the same time.

There's no reason to "scrap this project?? LOL Bro, are you delusional?? There's 2 million reasons to ditch the byatch! Not only is she immature, she's disrespectful and whiny. By you validating her behavior, your indirectly telling her that you are there to get played.

I guess now, i'm looking for things to change about how i treat this girl. I started getting things back in order but when she was in a need of me, I've been really busy and everytime she called to do something I wasn't available.

Think about what your trying to accomplish here? Your in bad standing with her, so now your trying to appear busy and unavailable. Well she calls and you never answer the phone, don't think she'll sit at home and ponder your behavior. She'll go out to another party and find more guys.

I know she won't break things off, she has no reason to, I don't hold her back right now and she doesn't sleep around. She doesn't want to lose me. She doesn't want to date around.

I'm not saying she does sleep around, but really how in the hell do you know what she really does at those parties? Plus she already said she doesn't want the bf/gf "title" anymore. As my main man Puerto-Rican Lover use to tell me: "That's something a hor would say!!" She really doesn't care if she loses you eventually, but she doesn't want to lose you until she's wrapped up her next vicitim. And for the love of freakin' God, how many times do we have to tell you guys "NEVER BELIEVE WHAT A GIRL SAYS, WATCH WHAT SHE DOES." You need to hit the eject button from this ****ty situation because YOU will get massively hurt if you don't.

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