"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Long-term friend or girlfriend?

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Hello DJ's

There's this girl who has been in my class for more than 2 years now.

Recently, i decided to get of my ass and be known.

I've gotten to know this girl but i dont know what to do?

We have a lot of things in common.

If i get into a relationship with her, i know that it wont last.
If i stay friends with her, i know it will last very long.

Please help me out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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listen to me man, listen closely

girls are shallow and will use you. i have chick friends who are really there for me. correction. i have a chick friend. maybe two, but thats max. other than that girls are only good for basically thoughts too gay to tell your boys and sex. they're not emotional help cause they'll always crumble, at least at this age.

go for relationship and bang her.
 
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Hey, thanks for replying.

This girl is DIFFERENT. She is not ur average slut/ho/*****/. She's ALWAYS positive. I could make a list of how she is different to other girls but i wont.

Right now, i'd rather have her as a friend for many years instead of a girlfriend for a few months.
 
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why do you think she'll be a great long term friend but a short term girlfriend?
most LTR work because the two in them would be good friends regardless of a romatic relationship.
 
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Mr_rogers

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tamvonz1989 said:
Hey, thanks for replying.

This girl is DIFFERENT. She is not ur average slut/ho/*****/. She's ALWAYS positive. I could make a list of how she is different to other girls but i wont.
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Have you any idea how overused that is? Every girl that I hear about on this forum is different. Gets on one's nerves after awhile.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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tamvonz1989

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why do you think she'll be a great long term friend but a short term girlfriend?
most LTR work because the two in them would be good friends regardless of a romatic relationship.
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well, from my observations, most relationships fail after a few months

i guess im just a *****
 
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This is the most common mistake the guys make, get friends then hope it will turn romantic later. Thing is, its very hard to get out of the friendship zone if you get in there, there will be less than 1% success rate of things to turn romantic later.
My suggestion is, go for it, get in a relationship, practice, if it wont last long it wont matter.
If you want to be a DJ, you must learn not to let your life revolve around 1 G, get more friends and know more Gs from them, trust me, later on when u become good, it wont matter that the relationship wont last long.
 
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