Long term Ex-GF of 7 years feels sad about me? WTF?!

[Between_The_Lines]

Anyway, enough of this IP address babble. I'm using a VPN anyway.

So tell me, how can I get her back?

What do you mean? Isn't she the one interested in meeting you up for coffee?

I don't think you're asking the right questions - better questions, actually. Questions like "Do I really want her back, and if yes, why?" "Will one of us move?" "Do we try to make a LDR work? (again, take heed of the fact that they tend to fall apart and similar issues that got you posting about this topic may arise again)"

 

[spax]

What do you mean? Isn't she the one interested in meeting you up for coffee?

I don't think you're asking the right questions - better questions, actually. Questions like "Do I really want her back, and if yes, why?" "Will one of us move?" "Do we try to make a LDR work? (again, take heed of the fact that they tend to fall apart and similar issues that got you posting about this topic may arise again)"

Yes, she texted me 1 week ago asking to meet for coffee when she comes to town in 2 weeks. I never replied.

I think she wants to meet just to talk and see how I am doing, not get back together though.

Any advice how I can make her want me again?

 

[GS750]

Well for starters stop being so desperate to get her back.

 

[VikingKing]

shes probably just at peak breakup depression. its usually about 2 weeks to a month after a breakup.

just because shes mourning the end of the relationships doesnt necessarily mean shes mourning the loss of you.

either that or she really does know that you check her fb. this we cant know for sure but this sounds too elaborate for a chick to pull off that broke up with someone

and just because you CAN get back with an ex, doesnt mean you should.

Yup. If she cared about you, she wouldnt have broke up with you. Even if she told you that, I would treat it like bait to lure you back into beta backsliding so she can confirm that she did the right thing by dumping you.

Women hate it when they dump you, and you handle it well by not freaking out, being comfortable with it and agreeing with the break up and shortly dating again. It makes them feel insecure because then they dont have you has an option (for security).

In fact it may well be that she is thinking about trying to "be friends" to keep you around as a security net.