"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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long term/distance relationship-how to keep her interested

Zerotwoonenine

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hey guys, just got in to uni this week. been with my Gf for almost 2 years now. Freshers got a little crazy and i was way drunk, she called me and i broke up with her. I wanted her back day after but she would have none of it. She told me she was deeply in love with me and i broke her heart, i begged(i know i shouldn't have) her to take me back but she said no. So i said don't ever talk to me again and walked away from the phone. She then emailed me to ask me to take her back-with conditions. I was insecure and overprotective in my relationship, now i have to change it(and i can). She feels alittle detached from me, buts its going to be ok because we are gona see each other every friday.
thing is, i had all the power before and she wasn't happy, but she never told me till we broke up. I am happy to change but now i feel i am the weak one? i begged her first to take me back, i know although i took her back, i think i am losing my power and i want to keep it 50 50.
Also, how do you keep a girl's interest level up in a long distance relationship? i will take her to clubs and take her out, but playing with her and gaming her is pretty hard since we have gotten so comfortable with each other. So is there any other way to keep her interest level high other than staying a constant challenge? i really do love her.
Thanks DJs.:rockon:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I feel sorry for you but I'm too lazy to read your story cuz its written terribly. Try using paragraphs and maybe I'll come back tomorrow if your lucky. The edit button is your friend.
 

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Zerotwoonenine said:
hey guys, just got in to uni this week. been with my Gf for almost 2 years now. Freshers got a little crazy and i was way drunk, she called me and i broke up with her. I wanted her back day after but she would have none of it. She told me she was deeply in love with me and i broke her heart, i begged(i know i shouldn't have) her to take me back but she said no. So i said don't ever talk to me again and walked away from the phone. She then emailed me to ask me to take her back-with conditions. I was insecure and overprotective in my relationship, now i have to change it(and i can). She feels alittle detached from me, buts its going to be ok because we are gona see each other every friday.
thing is, i had all the power before and she wasn't happy, but she never told me till we broke up. I am happy to change but now i feel i am the weak one? i begged her first to take me back, i know although i took her back, i think i am losing my power and i want to keep it 50 50.
Also, how do you keep a girl's interest level up in a long distance relationship? i will take her to clubs and take her out, but playing with her and gaming her is pretty hard since we have gotten so comfortable with each other. So is there any other way to keep her interest level high other than staying a constant challenge? i really do love her.
Thanks DJs.:rockon:
Just do as you were doing before. Take back the control bit by bit. She said she loves you so you have more control then you think.


Regarding keeping interest levels high I think all you can do is show her what she's missing when you meet her. Also don't be an AFC and constantly improve yourself.
 
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