"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Zerotwoonenine

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hey guys, just got in to uni this week. been with my Gf for almost 2 years now. Freshers got a little crazy and i was way drunk, she called me and i broke up with her. I wanted her back day after but she would have none of it. She told me she was deeply in love with me and i broke her heart, i begged(i know i shouldn't have) her to take me back but she said no. So i said don't ever talk to me again and walked away from the phone. She then emailed me to ask me to take her back-with conditions. I was insecure and overprotective in my relationship, now i have to change it(and i can). She feels alittle detached from me, buts its going to be ok because we are gona see each other every friday.
thing is, i had all the power before and she wasn't happy, but she never told me till we broke up. I am happy to change but now i feel i am the weak one? i begged her first to take me back, i know although i took her back, i think i am losing my power and i want to keep it 50 50.
Also, how do you keep a girl's interest level up in a long distance relationship? i will take her to clubs and take her out, but playing with her and gaming her is pretty hard since we have gotten so comfortable with each other. So is there any other way to keep her interest level high other than staying a constant challenge? i really do love her.
Thanks DJs.:rockon:
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I feel sorry for you but I'm too lazy to read your story cuz its written terribly. Try using paragraphs and maybe I'll come back tomorrow if your lucky. The edit button is your friend.
 

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Zerotwoonenine said:
hey guys, just got in to uni this week. been with my Gf for almost 2 years now. Freshers got a little crazy and i was way drunk, she called me and i broke up with her. I wanted her back day after but she would have none of it. She told me she was deeply in love with me and i broke her heart, i begged(i know i shouldn't have) her to take me back but she said no. So i said don't ever talk to me again and walked away from the phone. She then emailed me to ask me to take her back-with conditions. I was insecure and overprotective in my relationship, now i have to change it(and i can). She feels alittle detached from me, buts its going to be ok because we are gona see each other every friday.
thing is, i had all the power before and she wasn't happy, but she never told me till we broke up. I am happy to change but now i feel i am the weak one? i begged her first to take me back, i know although i took her back, i think i am losing my power and i want to keep it 50 50.
Also, how do you keep a girl's interest level up in a long distance relationship? i will take her to clubs and take her out, but playing with her and gaming her is pretty hard since we have gotten so comfortable with each other. So is there any other way to keep her interest level high other than staying a constant challenge? i really do love her.
Thanks DJs.:rockon:
Just do as you were doing before. Take back the control bit by bit. She said she loves you so you have more control then you think.


Regarding keeping interest levels high I think all you can do is show her what she's missing when you meet her. Also don't be an AFC and constantly improve yourself.
 
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