Long Story... break up,proposing.. etc.. What Should I do...

[YoungSir4sho]

Its a long story. Im at work right now so my fault if its not in perfect grammar..

I was wit this girl in feb til aroun end of april. I got my own crib so she stayed at my place fo a lot of those times. She also has a kid. I have no kids. So we broke up aroun end of april.

She gets wit sum1 else, I also get wit another girl. Supposedly she never slept wit him.. So she calls me da other nite lil drunk talkin bout she would give us another chance etc. We argue n stuff like always den she says she gonna pick up her clothes at my place n neva see me again. So she comes but wat she doesn't kno is dat I had planned fo me to get her flowers n buy a card to propose to marry me. Of course in my mind I really don't wanna marry her I jus wanted to see how she would react etc.

So I propose to her, at 1st she says she will think bout it. Den we keep textin at my place, I say how u think dat feels not tellin me an answer when I propose. She finally says yes. Blah blah

Fast forward to yesterday. We argue at my place n she says dat she doesn't kno if she wanna marry me. Says dat she has to end it to da otha guy face dat its over etc n dat she doesn't wanna hurt his feelings lmao. Den her son took my keys n hid it under my bed. We look fo it n she finds a book.

It wasn't hers so she asked me who it was. I lied to her a couple of times cuz it was an ex of minez. She says she gonna give me 1 more time to tell da truth or its ova. So I tell her dat it was a girl dat I was messin wit book but dat we didn't ****. N I was tellin da truth cuz we didn't.. So she gets mad at me sayin how can she marry me if I lied to her in her face 3times. I say its my fault etc.

So we talk on da phone, she says she doesn't kno if she wants to get married. Also dat if dat guy dat she was wit will still pay fo her cell phone bill cuz I have to worry bout payin on my back rent.


Few ?'s I have is even tho I don't really wanna marry her. I still want to b wit her but am I right fo feeling a lot of disrespect from her?? She told me dat she will continue to have him or whoever else pay her cell phone bill. Also dat she hangs out wit a liquor buddy dats a guy like 4 times a week but dat he is jus a liquor buddy. Am I wrong fo feeling disrespected n also should I just end it fo good?

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Are you kidding? Under no circumstances should you marry this woman. She's got bad news written all over her. I could make a list of reasons not to, but I'll stop at one. Do you want to help pay for and raise a child that isn't yours? Do you want to take care of any child at all at this point in your life?

Why did you propose to this woman in the first place? What did you stand to gain from "seeing how she'd react"? Is the püssy that good that you'd have to put up with all this? No.

 

[trajhenkhet02]

There is some shenanigans afoot here. To answer your questions, your feelings of disrespect might not be feelings so much as your gut telling you to get out of a bad situation before it gets worse. These emotions may come from how she treated you in the past when you were together, how she is treating the guy she is with currently, and how she is hanging out with another dude 4 times a week at a bar. Is it right or wrong to feel this? That's your call. If it happened to me I would say my gut sees a bad moon arising.

As for ending things, again that is up to you. If sex with her is good and you can deal with the melodrama, then continue to tap it. I would recommend that you not talk or use "proposal" as a way of getting her attention. If you want something more than sex, I can almost tell you straight away you can forget it. She already has displayed overtly that she isn't above using someone she supposedly cares about to pay a cell phone bill.


You should give some thought about what you want from this lady and see if she measures up to your standards. Also if you have other lady options why would you want to put up with this ladies antics? In my opinion there is a lot going on wrong here. Using the proposal as a way to grab her attention is not the best idea as now if you don't follow through on your "promise" its going to be a point of contention between you both (her arguing about it, giving you a headache about it ect.). I wish you good luck and safe journey with your situation.

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Thx a lot guys. See to me it wasn't really a proposal cuz I didn't give her no ring or anything. I guess I jus wanted the attention from her n see if I could get her bac.

Yes I do love the sex from her but I also wanted an exculsive relationship wit her but that is not going to happen. No I don't want to pay for her child, tho I do like him tho. Also im not gonna answer her texts or calls anymore till I decide wat im gonna do wit her.

I can't continue this relationship wit her tho. It jus feels wrong n I feel used. It jus seems mad hard in da game to start over wit otha girls but I will have to. Also next time I shouldn't jus fake propose girls cuz im playin games dat way.