Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Long hair or short?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
fertileTurtle
Master Don Juan
I used to have long hair parted up the middle a few years back. Man, I'm losing my hair now, and I would give anything to be able to have long hair again. Grow it out, son.
I have always had short hair. I've never been able to look good even with marginally long hair ('shaggy', apparently it's called). If the sides grow to evn 1 inch, I start looking stupid. So I've always had it quite short. But I always thought this was a disadvantage; and I wished I could grow it long the way I saw some guys do.
Then this year a couple of chicks, to my astonishment, expressed utter disgust at long hair. I was like, you for real, you hate it that much. HATE IT, they answered me. Obviously that's as anecdotal as you can get, but I never imagined any girl could hate long hair that much. Maybe it was this friend I grew up with. He had long, curly hair that everyone agreed looked really good on him. He was very good looking and picked up like crazy. Then one day his girlfriend convinced him to cut it short. It looked good, but not as good as his long hair did. Everyone agreed that he made a mistake. (His girlfriend dumped him about a month later, I wonder if it was related.) I probably generalized way too much from this one example, to all girls finding long hair attractive.
I have been swayed by some of the arguments on this thread, though. They could have been better presented, though. GOGL, I am talking primarily to you - if you had posted those survey results first, rather than simply claiming you have them for ten pages, this thread would have been much shorter. Also, it's difficult to determine what exactly makes something feminine. For example, playing with doles, everyone would agree, is feminine, but is it only because girls play with that it is? That is what feminist leaning sociology types have always been telling us, but science is proving this view wrong. Girls gravitate to feminine activities because there is something inherently feminine about them. Where does long hair fit into all this? I'm not really sure, but I wouldn't be surprised to learn that it's an inherently feminine thing. (This actually strengthens your point, GOGL. I'm just saying in case you don't get it and start flaming me.) Why did males in past civilizations grow long hair then? Interesting question.
Anyway, this is one of those rare occasions where I'm glad to have been wrong, or that the truth has been friendly (instead of bitter, the way it usually is). Only short hair looks good on me, and thanks be to God, babes prefer guys with short (ie non-long) hair.
samson smith
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
BeDJ
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That's quite gay.goundra said:
wiiliamcooper52
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This. I keep my hair shaved off entirely or buzzed very low all around.Soprano said:i still keep it buzzed but at times i want to grow it out a lil.... the only problem is that all of the between stages of getting it there are hideous. time to get my fitteds out of the closet
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.