"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Long hair or short?
- Thread starter B-Real
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
fertileTurtle
Master Don Juan
I used to have long hair parted up the middle a few years back. Man, I'm losing my hair now, and I would give anything to be able to have long hair again. Grow it out, son.
I have always had short hair. I've never been able to look good even with marginally long hair ('shaggy', apparently it's called). If the sides grow to evn 1 inch, I start looking stupid. So I've always had it quite short. But I always thought this was a disadvantage; and I wished I could grow it long the way I saw some guys do.
Then this year a couple of chicks, to my astonishment, expressed utter disgust at long hair. I was like, you for real, you hate it that much. HATE IT, they answered me. Obviously that's as anecdotal as you can get, but I never imagined any girl could hate long hair that much. Maybe it was this friend I grew up with. He had long, curly hair that everyone agreed looked really good on him. He was very good looking and picked up like crazy. Then one day his girlfriend convinced him to cut it short. It looked good, but not as good as his long hair did. Everyone agreed that he made a mistake. (His girlfriend dumped him about a month later, I wonder if it was related.) I probably generalized way too much from this one example, to all girls finding long hair attractive.
I have been swayed by some of the arguments on this thread, though. They could have been better presented, though. GOGL, I am talking primarily to you - if you had posted those survey results first, rather than simply claiming you have them for ten pages, this thread would have been much shorter. Also, it's difficult to determine what exactly makes something feminine. For example, playing with doles, everyone would agree, is feminine, but is it only because girls play with that it is? That is what feminist leaning sociology types have always been telling us, but science is proving this view wrong. Girls gravitate to feminine activities because there is something inherently feminine about them. Where does long hair fit into all this? I'm not really sure, but I wouldn't be surprised to learn that it's an inherently feminine thing. (This actually strengthens your point, GOGL. I'm just saying in case you don't get it and start flaming me.) Why did males in past civilizations grow long hair then? Interesting question.
Anyway, this is one of those rare occasions where I'm glad to have been wrong, or that the truth has been friendly (instead of bitter, the way it usually is). Only short hair looks good on me, and thanks be to God, babes prefer guys with short (ie non-long) hair.
samson smith
New Member
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BeDJ
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That's quite gay.goundra said:
wiiliamcooper52
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This. I keep my hair shaved off entirely or buzzed very low all around.Soprano said:i still keep it buzzed but at times i want to grow it out a lil.... the only problem is that all of the between stages of getting it there are hideous. time to get my fitteds out of the closet
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.