"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Long Distnace BF Destroying

manonfire

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I'M into this girl that in in an LDR with some dude accross the country/ She is very invested it and so is he (her bf)

Facts:

there is alot of sexual tension between me and her. Eye contact, innuendo,etc
we hang out semi-frequently but not super often.

she is aware that i am good with other women and date plenty of them. She has even called me a "players" and often inquires about my "love life" or "Sex life". I play it cool, of course.

As far as i know her BF is an afc/beta type. he sends her messages that read "you are the most beautiful woman in the world..." He is 29 and has only been with 3 women including her.

she never speaks of him to me.

input please!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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manonfire

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also they only see each other like 4 on holidays. (college students)
 

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Facts:

-It's not moral to go around breaking relationships; however, I have stolen a girl from her AFC boyfriend before. :whistle:
-Let me rephrase that: I have RESCUED a girl from her AFC boyfriend before, haha.
-If she's really into her boyfriend, you have been friend-zoned(I doubt it).
-If she likes you and she's a valuable girl, she will break with bf 1st & then get to know you more(you don't want her doing this to you later).
-If you are more masculine, high-value, and just plain fun and she is interested in you (which is what I'm thinking based on your post), then she'll start giving you more hints and then the green light.
-Chicks in LDR's get lonely and bored--there's only so much that can be done over phone calls, Skype, and letters.
-College students usually do this(I ended a relationship myself just like this one about 3 weeks ago).
-Remember women are emotional creatures and it might take her time to "get over her ex" and clear the runway so that you can land in her pie.



A picture would be a nice incentive to give you my opinion; I'm all the way in CA, so don't worry I'm not gonna steal her :p
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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manonfire

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thanks robyn, i won't send you a pick but I'd say she a stong 8 or higher depending on your standards.

I don't feel like i'm entirely friendszoned, since she sees me as a sexual being. I tell her about my exploits from time to time. maybe there's some sort of holding tank middle ground.

is it possible to have a ***** raincheck? ha!

Her bf seems lame i feel like im doing them both a favor. she gets a better man he gets some perspective and social dynamics
 
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