noBSgames
Senior Don Juan
When trying to get a long distant plate like 30+ miles how did they handle it? Were they uneasy at first?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
hockeyfreak79
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It's not ideal as the drive can get old pretty fast, especially if she's lazy. If her IL is high in you then well you are good.
She's ether enthusiastic to see you or she isn't. Sounds like low interest and probably nothing to do with distance.
She's ether enthusiastic to see you or she isn't. Sounds like low interest and probably nothing to do with distance.
noBSgames
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I just started talking so it's in the early stages
dustmuffin
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I drive about 20 miles to see a plate. She cooks for me, wild sex, anal, spankings she is a lot of fun. Where I live it's nothing to drive 30 miles. Depends on what you are getting out of it and if you think it's worth it. That sounds like a 20 min drive to me. she was on the rag and I was messing with her and she said she said that she didn't want to start something she couldnt finish. I whispered in her ear that I was going to *** in her ass....I did and she was all over me the rest of the night.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
noBSgames
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It took awhile for my ex to figure that out.. but look where that ended up.. I don’t miss her at all.
I will tell you one thing I will
Be keeping my personal life off social media.. god forbid she saw her she would go right ahead and start searching for her then talk behind my back
noBSgames
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Yeah I did 30 miles one way almost daily I was spending about $250 in tolls a month at the time it was worth it. This girl is a bit older by 6 years but 3 years younger than me.
Trying to get the number which I think I very well might get it hopefully before I fall asleep here.
dustmuffin
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This girl is 16 years younger than me. No tolls. She always asks what I want to eat then has it ready for me when I arrive. Eat...little tv....then some wild sex. She is going on a trip with me over new years. She will pay half of all the expenses.
noBSgames
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Not bad to be fair my ex did that a few times before I became full time she would lend me money. But she got mad when i became full time mad I did not discuss it with her first and all what girl would be upset when you are making a extra $25k a year??
dustmuffin
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You do what you want to do. You do not have to get permission from a girl. She probably was angry because she was losing control of you.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
noBSgames
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Got the #
noBSgames
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That’s how I felt too I would be spending less time in the end it’s my career and my 401K I’m focused on about that time I stopped bending over backwards for her
dustmuffin
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Good for you! This is kind of different. Her brother owns a gun shop. I have met him a time or two. Anyway he gave me an upper and lower receiver for an AR-15 for Christmas. Said he wanted to help me build a rifle. That rocks. I will be an assault rifle owning sob in the near future.
noBSgames
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Nice my friend took me to the range before I don’t have a gun permit but it was nice to shoot off some rounds nice stress reliever
noBSgames
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Nice just called her had a nice 20 min conversation with her
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
EyeBRollin
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You're fine up to an hour driving. You can stretch it out to two hours if it's by commuter train or bus and she's not driving. Anything further will not just not work.
Good, let her meet you halfway or come to all the way to you at times. Don’t let her think you are on her leash.
noBSgames
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Yeah from the sound of it looks like she doesn't have a car but my ex didn't as well
If she doesn’t have a car, how young is she ?
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noBSgames
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She’s 30 but then again she just move out here from San Francisco so could be a lot of reason why a person would not need a car in a large city.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.