"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Long Distance Texting: Any point?

TheCWord

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This girl I went ghost on has started blowing up my phone (are we at all surprised?) and a lot of the reason she's so strung up is because my text game is so good at the moment... I keep it short, mix up my response times, always let her send the last text, and am generally just not available to her. Appears to be driving her nuts.

The thing is, we're currently living in different States and will be for another month. Back when we were in the same city, I was far too AFC to make anything work and, now that I've got her doing all the chasing, I can't exactly capitalize on this momentum I have right now...

She's really all over this texting thing, doing it at least every other day. I won't be rude and ignore her, because I want to see how things go when I move home, but I prefer to use texts sparingly and mainly to setup dates. I obviously can't do that at the moment, but she just keeps on texting.

Because we're still weeks away from being able to make plans in real life, I'm concerned that all of this texting will take away her excitement of seeing me in person and make her feel like she already has me in her life (when, in reality, she just asks a lot of questions over text and I respond, occasionally with a question of my own so as to not appear rude).

Is there any way of long distance texting that will maintain or increase IL but not decrease it?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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JoeMarron

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Sexting. Learn how to do it right. Create vivid descriptions for her. You'll basically be making p0rn for her and she'll eat it up.
 

TheCWord

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Since I posted this I've gotten a bunch more texts. All fluff. I don't know what to do here... I like all the effort, but this can't become a thing. If we text back and forth every day, then am I coming home as someone she's missed like crazy - or a text buddy? I'm guessing the latter.
 
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Yes.

I received a random Meet Me on POF last year and got her number. I decided to sext her since she lived in a town 500 miles away. Work sent me to her town 4 months later. We were fvcking within 10 minutes of her entering my hotel room.

I never saw her again, but I think the anticipation made it one of the best lays ever, probably for her as well. The best part of life comes unexpectedly.

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TheCWord said:
Since I posted this I've gotten a bunch more texts. All fluff. I don't know what to do here...I coming home as someone she's missed like crazy
This was exactly how that chick treated me. Good morning texts, good night texts. Since I didn't care, I masterfully text gamed her well. IE: Taking days to respond, not giving a sh!t about her naughty photos, making her take all sorts of pictures. It was almost like an imaginary relationship to her.
 

TheCWord

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BeginningDJ said:
Yes.

I received a random Meet Me on POF last year and got her number. I decided to sext her since she lived in a town 500 miles away. Work sent me to her town 4 months later. We were fvcking within 10 minutes of her entering my hotel room.

I never saw her again, but I think the anticipation made it one of the best lays ever, probably for her as well. The best part of life comes unexpectedly.
Haha that's awesome. How often were you two texting? It's the frequency I'm concerned with in my case.

P.S. Important to note that this was a girl I was really into and pushed a little too hard with, so she's not brand new. If she were new I'd escalate to sexting, etc - but because she is responding so strongly to the newfound indifference I'm showing her, I don't want to F it up by giving her any IOIs.

I want to keep her guessing how I feel about her, and sexting kills that mystery
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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