Long distance relationships (LDRs)

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Nope. Not everyone is a cheater.

lol surreee

 

[anonymous12345]

They are in most cases. There are exceptions. Have you physically met? Obviously no sex I see.
You are young why put yourself through it?
If you are going outside the west I get that as some men should but without a direction or a goal of it going somewhere yea they are BS. Be careful

We're in the same country/time zone, I just had to move, currently many hours away. We dated for 1-2 months, a prom, those kind of things. She has a very feminine side to her that appeals to me, I see a future lover/affair. It's also great, she's more than a virgin, so I craft her more or less. Everything is new.

She relates to me as a wife it feels like, really glued like BeExcellent talks about her daughter, though I've had that kind of relationship and now is looking for the more light fun. I worry not at all about her side stepping or so, I also happen to have a high SMV in her place. Maybe after I've westernised her and we've had our story she'll go party girl, but not my concern. I doubt it. She's a nurse, want kids. But girls are girls. But I am looking out for her. And we do and will have fun.

Why put me through it? It's the best I got currently tbh, my game is lousy, at least in this city. And the relationship is quite good, also. I agree LDRs based on OLD doesn't work but can if they are started on physical meetings, as in this case. I have my eyes open and day game, but at the same time this relationship got a settling feel.

 

[BeExcellent]

We're in the same country/time zone, I just had to move, currently many hours away. We dated for 1-2 months, a prom, those kind of things. She has a very feminine side to her that appeals to me, I see a future lover/affair. It's also great, she's more than a virgin, so I craft her more or less. Everything is new.

She relates to me as a wife it feels like, really glued like BeExcellent talks about her daughter, though I've had that kind of relationship and now is looking for the more light fun. I worry not at all about her side stepping or so, I also happen to have a high SMV in her place. Maybe after I've westernised her and we've had our story she'll go party girl, but not my concern. I doubt it. She's a nurse, want kids. But girls are girls. But I am looking out for her. And we do and will have fun.

Why put me through it? It's the best I got currently tbh, my game is lousy, at least in this city. And the relationship is quite good, also. I agree LDRs based on OLD doesn't work but can if they are started on physical meetings, as in this case. I have my eyes open and day game, but at the same time this relationship got a settling feel.

At the end of the day it’s about the two people in the relationship and their commitment and their character. When it works out it is because the two people chose each other over whatever other options may be locally available. This is always a conscious choice.

It’s the same as a married person being away on a business trip, or a military person on deployment….I could cheat on every business trip. I don’t. That’s my character at work. I’m not going to cheat on my man even though he’d never know. It’s not how I’m wired.

If you and your partner are serious about it, it can work.

 

[BeExcellent]

We are not really in the business of romanticizing and pedestalizing individuals here. We act according to nature. It doesnt make any sense to pretend someone is different, we can't read their mind.

No romanticism or pedestalizing here. I’m a pragmatist. I was faithful when committed. In my 20s, 30s, 40s and now. The idea that young people are incapable of discipline and simply act on every animalistic urge is not true if someone has character. I was not a slave to hormones & emotion in my youth….and I’m not now. If you guys are with women who have no character and no self control? That’s just not a peaceful way to exist.

My daughter lives here. She goes to school, comes home, goes to work, comes home. So yeah. I office at home. I know what’s up with her. And her BF spends hours FaceTiming her every day. So I feel confident they are good for now. We shall see and I remain a pragmatist. But she plans to move there next June as it is. I’m not crazy about that idea but she’s 18 at that point and will support herself. So I get an opinion but not veto power.

 

[Stoic]

Nope. Not everyone is a cheater.

The truth is we just don't know.

I will say I find it more impressive when highly sought after men like an NFL quarterback does not stray. The amount of temptation and access to beautiful women throwing themselves at him must be unbelievably tempting.