"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Herkules

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Iam new here. And looking for some advice with my present relationship. A little about my self. Iam 34 years old, and have had quiet at few relationsships. And different girls so far.

But one year ago I met this girl. Which I happend to have really good chemistry with. A little about her, she is 27 years old, from Korea and was a virgin when I met her. I slept with her, and decided I needed see her more. She was travelling europe. So I joined her for some of her travel. Had amazing time together. And she ended her european stay be me again.

My problem is, I really like her. We have really good chemistry and have since the beginning had a highly sexual relationship. She was a virgin, so I have been able to teach her, which suits me well. But the thing is when she is not here. I wants other girls. And as we still have a long distance relationship its quiet a huge problem. Because I allso like to beeing honest when iam in a relationship, so not shure how to handle it. Should I stay faithfull, stay away from other girls or should i **** around, but just not tell her. Or maybe even see other girls and be honest about it. ;-) well looking for some advice. I want to keep the relationsship with her, but at the same dont like living in colibate for to long time.

About how the last year have been, I can tell. We meet in may, I take her virginity, I decide i want to see her again. She leaves me after only two nights. A couple of weeks go. I travel together with her for over 3 weeks. Quiet an adventoure and second date with her. We split again. She ends her european travel by me again. End of summer, she goes to Korea. I plan go visit her. We are seperated untill winter. I travel to korea by winter. And stay there for 3 month. We are together every day, again highly sexual relationship. Spring we split up again. Summer she comes back to me. We are together all summer, good time. So far I have been faithfull in my relationship with her, besides the summer were i met her. Were I had a couple of other girls.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Herkules

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Thanks for very clear answer. But overall this longdistance relationship have still been worth it. If we look at it sexually and how much time we have spend together. I have been with her for a little longer then a year now. And have been with her for 6 month in that period. 6 month were we have been really intimate and close. Travelling together and most of the time having sex several times a day. So compared to my old relationships, were my girl lived close to me, this relationship still have a very good statistic in pure time we are together and how many time we ****. So I know I have to fight for the relationship, I just have to find out how to do it. And one of my problems is my old habit of looking for new girls when i dont get sex for long. So what to do. Go full on, playing with new girls when she is away. Or be a good and faithful guy. Hmm any advice or other peoples expierences in similar situations.
 

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Now that she has lost her virginity, an alpha in Korea is going to give her a good time. And all the while, you are in a state of day dream about some girl in a distant land.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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mangotot

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Maybe said:
An old man once told me: "You must get an ox from your own village".
Make of it what you will.
Over.
The old man works on emotions rather then practicality. If you can get a bigger stronger ox from the neighbouring village then it makes sense to so.
 

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You can't judge Korean women by American standards. Not exactly sure how it works in her culture/ family. SOME will be polluted by Western values, some won't. NOT sure what she wants from you, but USUALLY it involves a ticket to the US or the supposedly better life of the west.... IF that trips your trigger, go for it.
 

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Either cheat on her, or marry her and bring her to live with you. Just make up your mind. There is no such thing as an LDR. It's all denial.
 

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Everyone after your question have added it up for you. Listen to the folks here. Many know what they are talking about.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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