long distance relationship fvcking other guys... cool with you?

[powpow]

Cliff notes at the bottom, gentlemen, thanks for reading. :rockon:

So it turns out I messed up and fell in love here in Japan.

2 months before I am set to go to grad school in Hawaii. :nono:

Its a 4 year program, the last of which I can spend anywhere in the world, including back here in Japan if I so choose. (Its a very internationally focused program)

So me and this girl are sitting here (and by here I mean a love hotel. Check it out, they are awesome) talking about what kind of future we have together. Super strong atrraction. I will be returning back here in the summer to work (3-4 months). She has the financial means to visit me in Hawaii on a regular basis, but even so, the flights and distance will be taxing.

So she said she was worried about me finding someone else in Hawaii. I told her she shouldnt worry. Then she asked me how I felt about her and other guys (Japanese women want a guy to care about this stuff).

So, in a very caring way, I told her that since there was so much distance, she was sure to get lonely, and its almost certain that she will be with other guys. She said that she could wait for me, but I told her otherwise. I told her that if it was destiny, that I dont mind her having other guys keep her warm for me while I wait on her. My rationale is that I ****ed her after other guys had ****ed her, and that it wouldnt hurt my feelings to do it again. I did NOT voice my rationale

CLIFFS

Long distance relationship. How do you guys feel about other guys keeping your future wife warm for you while you wait for the distance to close back up in the future?

 

[Iceberg]

Hey, if it works, then it works.

I wouldn't PLAN on getting back together in the future. But if you happen to end up around each other again and it works...then go for it.

The key thing is not to PLAN it. Long distance is a hard trick to pull off, so just go enjoy your time in Hawaii. Don't think about her. And if your career path brings you back to Japan, then hit her up for a drink and "catching up".

 

[powpow]

ahhh boss answer man.

that is what one of my real life friends said as well.

Id like to very much stay in touch with her, keep the communication good... because I dont want to pay for a place to stay when I come back in the summer :rockon: