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Looking for some advice for a friend of mine. This is a subject that has popped many times when I've spoken with him and I don't even know what to say to him, because ultimately it's his call. I've given my two cents, but I need SS's advice.
The guy has a 12 year old son. The story is that he knocked up his girlfriend at age 22 and they never married. They broke up when the kid was two because they were young and just not compatible.
When they broke up, the girl moved 6 hours away with the kid upstate to live with her parents. Michigan law states something about if the kid is in any location with a parent for 10+ days, that becomes the child's residence. Not sure, but that's what he tells me.
The girlfriend never went after him for child support, and instead, the guy sends her a check for $430 per month as a deal. He makes $50K per year.
He visits his child once every month by driving 350 miles to see him and calls him everyday. Spends Christmas and some holidays with him as well. He has even taken vacations with the ex-girlfriend and the son. So, he's a standup guy who didn't bail on his kid and everything is good considering the circumstances.
Lately, he has been frustrated with his career and has had very little luck getting a new job in his region and neighboring cities. However, he just landed an interview with a company in Connecticut, and it would be big move up for him career-wise ($).
However, that would mean that he couldn't just get in his car and see his kid at a moments notice. He would have to book flights to get to Michigan every time he wanted to get time with his kid.
I don't know what to suggest to him. It's a dilemma of cost vs. distance, and maybe morals and responsibility and his kid thinking he doesn't about him if he is going to move more than 10+ hours away.
You would figure that it takes him roughly $200 for a round trip to visit him via car. What is the estimated cost of flying from Conn to Michigan?
Is he wrong moving this far away as non-custodial parent, who has really no court ordered rights to his kid? Do you think him moving that far away is wrong?
Thanks.
The guy has a 12 year old son. The story is that he knocked up his girlfriend at age 22 and they never married. They broke up when the kid was two because they were young and just not compatible.
When they broke up, the girl moved 6 hours away with the kid upstate to live with her parents. Michigan law states something about if the kid is in any location with a parent for 10+ days, that becomes the child's residence. Not sure, but that's what he tells me.
The girlfriend never went after him for child support, and instead, the guy sends her a check for $430 per month as a deal. He makes $50K per year.
He visits his child once every month by driving 350 miles to see him and calls him everyday. Spends Christmas and some holidays with him as well. He has even taken vacations with the ex-girlfriend and the son. So, he's a standup guy who didn't bail on his kid and everything is good considering the circumstances.
Lately, he has been frustrated with his career and has had very little luck getting a new job in his region and neighboring cities. However, he just landed an interview with a company in Connecticut, and it would be big move up for him career-wise ($).
However, that would mean that he couldn't just get in his car and see his kid at a moments notice. He would have to book flights to get to Michigan every time he wanted to get time with his kid.
I don't know what to suggest to him. It's a dilemma of cost vs. distance, and maybe morals and responsibility and his kid thinking he doesn't about him if he is going to move more than 10+ hours away.
You would figure that it takes him roughly $200 for a round trip to visit him via car. What is the estimated cost of flying from Conn to Michigan?
Is he wrong moving this far away as non-custodial parent, who has really no court ordered rights to his kid? Do you think him moving that far away is wrong?
Thanks.