"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lonely? or Cheating?

CoRVeTTe6699

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My girlfriend of 9 months is on vacation in Italy. (She lives in the US)... she always says how much she loves me and all and how shes gonna call me. she called me a lot since shes been there. shes only been there 4 days and today she called me again. she has limited talking time with me , since shes on a calling card. the majority of the phone call was her telling me how her and her sister hang out with their dad's friends son. my g/f and her sister hang out with this dude and his friends (they only speak italian, but my g/f knows how to speak italian too).

she said that they all went out drinking together and they are again tonight. she will be in italy for a month. how should i handle this.

SHe knows that she was going to upset me by saying that.. she immediately said "Are you mad?.. I dont want you to be mad at me, I really didnt do anything wrong. Would you rather me sit alone in my house all day?"

She later called me back and left me a voicemail saying she really loves me and she hopes I'm not mad.

Is she doing this just so shes not lonely? or is she trying to piss me off and cheat on me? If i was in her boat i'd probabaly do the same thing?

she is 19, and she has done this to me in the past (trys to get me jealous)... I've been having my fun when she has been away and I just started tryin pickin up chicks and got a lot of #'s, so im gonna work on those soon.

what would you do.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Agreed.

It sounds like you're having a better time getting other chicks.
Ditch your GF and move on...
 

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i cant just dump her.. forget it... ill let it slide...

i mean... look at me... i hang out with tons of other girls... i even made out with another girl while i was dating her
 

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Originally posted by CoRVeTTe6699
i cant just dump her.. forget it... ill let it slide...

i mean... look at me... i hang out with tons of other girls... i even made out with another girl while i was dating her
Haha ok look. In this situation you either

A) Trust her

or

B) Don't Trust her

If you trust her let her do her own thing and it will be ok. If you don't trust her you should have never got in the relationship in the first place and you should get out now. Believe me I know how hard it can be to leave a LTR but let me tell you: If you're not happy GET THE HELL OUT NOW! You're not doing her any favors and you're certainly not doing yourself any favors by staying in a relationship your not happy with.
 
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