"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lone Soldier

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Hi, I'm a 20 year old college student whose never kissed a girl in my whole life and I hit rock bottom this weekend. Things have to change starting now, so January 20th is the day I start my boot camp.

Change for America, change for me.

I'm making this thread so I have to start tomorrow or this will taunt me as a sign of failure if I have nothing to report tomorrow night.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Good for you bro. Remember, we are all pulling for you.

I do not purport myself to be a master DJ, and everyone has improvements which can be made, but my advice is this.

Work on yourself. Put getting girls to low on your todem pole. Get out there, network and have fun. Live life. Girls will come to that and you will be a much happier person. Go to the gym. Make new friends. Try new things, be awesome.
 

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Week 1, Day 1

Said hi/hello/good morning to 11 strangers. Got 2-3 happy replies, 4-5 confused replies and the rest ignored me. I'd probably be ignoring me if I was a stranger, so no harm, no foul. Still feeling AA even just saying hi to strangers because it feels weird, but I can feel myself pushing my comfort zone.

It was really funny walking with a friend of mine and saying hi to random strangers like I knew them. She gave me a funny look but I just laughed it off.

39 to go.

Started to try and make eye contact more. This is oddly enough more difficult for me. I feel creepy staring at people and I have this feeling I look like I'm going to hurt them or something, I need to smile more. Didn't have time to dedicate an hour to eye contact so I didn't really sweat it, had to catch up on homework I put off. tomorrow I need to dedicate an hour to it.

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Thanks for the kind words RD, and thanks for the advice Brian, good stuff. I've already been trying to do most of the things you've mentioned and while most areas of my life have shown drastically in recent years I've just been unable to crack this whole "female" thing, and it's always in the back of my mind reminding me I'm a failure in this area. I don't expect to be a master DJ over night, or maybe even ever, but I just want to know I'm improving, going in the right direction and that my goals are in sight.

Starting this thread has worked well for me so far, at least two other times I said I'd start the boot camp on my own, I just wouldn't post about it for (insert reason here) but it was just a BS way to wuss out.
 

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Week 1, Day 2

Said hi to 11 people today, which is close to 75% of the strangers I could have said hello too without interrupting them, so I'm feeling pretty good. This is a great exercise to get your toes wet, it's really been teaching me not to sweat the outcome, the three second rule and attacking AA.

There were a lot of good chances I passed up the first day but wussed out for BS reasons, now as soon as I hear myself making excuses I know it's time to just blurt out "good morning!" It's a great reminder that strangers won't bite off your head just for glancing at them.

It's really a great idea to start like this, I remember trying to jump into cold approaching cute girls but that was way out of my league, but now I feel like I'm working up to it like lifting weights.

22 down, 28 to go.

Still having some trouble maintaining eye contact, it's hard totally reprogramming 20 years of habit. Didn't have an hour to dedicate, extra homework popped up and I spent the rest of the day with an old friend I hadn't seen in a while, which puts me in a pretty great mood right now.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Week 1, Day 3

Only 7 Hellos today. I saw more people today but the weather was awful and everyone seemed really grim. Still well on my way to 50, so I'm feeling pretty good.

29 down, 21 to go.

I've only got one class tomorrow so I'm definitely going to the mall for an hour of eye contact and hellos. I'm still practicing eye contact when I can and I'm getting better and better, it feels weird to look a big guy in the eye until he looks away first, haha!

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Read some of the Book Of Pook today and all I have to say is wow. It was really uplifting and depressing at the same time. Depressing because of the reality of the AFC that it exposes and how true it is, but uplifting because you have to face reality before you can start changing it. After I read it I could feel my whole paradigm shifting, I was literally walking taller.
 

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Week 1, Day 4

Hit a little bit of trouble today. Went to the mall for an hour of eye contact and couldn't get much in the way of eye contact. Just ended up me taring at people who didn't seem to notice me most of the time. I think part of it was that the mall was pretty crowded and open. At school the traffic areas, walking areas, are pretty narrow so eye contact is easy. Maybe there's also a mental thing, since most of the people I meet these days I meet at school, while I've never met anyone at the mall, just hung out with friends.

This whole situation also made it hard to say hi and I only got three in today.

2 steps forward, one step back?

32 down, 18 to go.
 

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best advice i can give u on bootcamp. Remember ur goal is to improve. Focus on improving rather than finishing the task, but don't stop improving till u finish the task. So i am sure maybe u could think of a few things to up ur game on this hello, maybe say hello with a wink and a click lol idk or maybe a bit louder. So think of where u r on this task and think what u can improve on and do it. That should take the mind games off u a bit with the but...i can finish it tommorow thing which everyone did on the bootcamp and why most fail, but its still a hell lot of work don't get me wrong, just keep in their strong.
 
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