"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

lol, you thought you guys have problems.

benassi

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 4, 2004
Messages
43
Reaction score
0
Age
37
Location
New York
Arrite. What's up guys? You've probably seen me post some **** around here in the last month or so. I've been reading around for just about 6-8 months now and like I've completely transformed into what all you guys wanna be. You'd be amazed how quickly..

I can get 9.99/10 girls I try to get with, there's the exceptional few, but now my problem here is I'm building such a ****ty reputation. Not just that, I've been getting with so many girls that I FEEL BAD. I have like 6-8 girls at a time that I spit game on. I can have a booty call wherever, whenever I want, it's to the point of being disgusting. To be honest, I know it's what we all yearn to be like, but the truth is, once you realize how bad it is to have so many girls want you, you feel like a celebrity. It's terrible.. honestly, unless you're just lookin for a bunch of quickies, which will end up getting boring. Take my word for it, I mean give it a try, see if you like it, eventually you'll hate it.

This girl I've been hookin up with for about a month now, like we were getting pretty serious and all, and like the last 4 days she was in cheerleading camp, and I ended up getting with 2 girls, and one of her friends saw me hook up with one of them in the club and I completely denied it and changed her thoughts, but my problem is now, that I feel guilty. I feel as if all this player-ness has got to come to an end for a while now, I think it's time for me to settle down. Can anyone give me some advice on how to STOP being so good with girls for the moment, and STOP getting SO much attention, I'd say about 80% of high school kids, guys and girls, know who I am and know everythign that goes on with me and it's already horrible.. Thanks. :confused: :woo:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

08aisaac

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 22, 2005
Messages
740
Reaction score
1
Age
36
Focus on something else. Persue your career, and make some money. That's what I do, even though I don't pimp the field like you, cause of circumstances, but I do focus on my career like nothing else. I could get a job, fixing computers, if I was old enough, because all I do, is learn about computers, so I can eventually open up shop somewhere, and ****.

Basically, now that you are so successful, focus on a career. There's more to life then girls.

I know lot's of DJ's in there old age, who neglected learning anything at there young age, and now there jobs suck.

Point is, start a buisness, or something. Prepare to leave a legacy.

I am already working on my legacy. Some fun stuff.

Then once you have a major passion for something, then you will be able to find a quality chick.
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 5, 2005
Messages
1,460
Reaction score
22
Originally posted by benassi
Arrite. What's up guys? You've probably seen me post some **** around here in the last month or so. I've been reading around for just about 6-8 months now and like I've completely transformed into what all you guys wanna be. You'd be amazed how quickly..

I can get 9.99/10 girls I try to get with, there's the exceptional few, but now my problem here is I'm building such a ****ty reputation. Not just that, I've been getting with so many girls that I FEEL BAD. I have like 6-8 girls at a time that I spit game on. I can have a booty call wherever, whenever I want, it's to the point of being disgusting. To be honest, I know it's what we all yearn to be like, but the truth is, once you realize how bad it is to have so many girls want you, you feel like a celebrity. It's terrible.. honestly, unless you're just lookin for a bunch of quickies, which will end up getting boring. Take my word for it, I mean give it a try, see if you like it, eventually you'll hate it.

This girl I've been hookin up with for about a month now, like we were getting pretty serious and all, and like the last 4 days she was in cheerleading camp, and I ended up getting with 2 girls, and one of her friends saw me hook up with one of them in the club and I completely denied it and changed her thoughts, but my problem is now, that I feel guilty. I feel as if all this player-ness has got to come to an end for a while now, I think it's time for me to settle down. Can anyone give me some advice on how to STOP being so good with girls for the moment, and STOP getting SO much attention, I'd say about 80% of high school kids, guys and girls, know who I am and know everythign that goes on with me and it's already horrible.. Thanks. :confused: :woo:
read the threads Viper makes, or Just ask Viper himself.
 

Boner da Stoner

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 24, 2005
Messages
659
Reaction score
0
Location
Iqaluit Nunavut
hehe you think you guys have problems, nice title... you don't know girl problems if your complaining about too much choice.

What you ahve to do is raise your standards, see how many girls you can get to live up to them, I'm not talking your a hot chick I want you to talk and have fun like your on x, I'm talkin make her be the girl of fantasy dreams, the perfect girl who you want, if you can weed them out so fast, use it to your advantage. Teach us some tips...

As for me, my problem is drinking:p I mack on the ladies when I'm sober, get so excited and ****y that I start accepting drinks all round. Decide I want to go home, pop out the door in a sneaky way so I don't get noticed, jump in a cab and BAM theres a ho that saw me mackin... Don't know why but that's when I black out....

I wake up next to some nasty ass ***** lesbians miles away from home with money stolen and ripped clothes.

I live in a skank of a town, I could fill ten pages with stories of decrepit old ladies pickin up my friends, nasty *****es who lick the toilet bowl, fat ho's that kino every guy in site to obscenity in public, to the 10 yo ho's who routinely ***** themselves out infront of the local bar and bike away when the cops get close... and thats just the beginning...

Don't talk about problems unless you want somebody to one up you dude, otherwise your having fun and you want to spread the love.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Zod

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 16, 2005
Messages
196
Reaction score
3
Location
SoCal
I'd say just keep it up until you graduate. Once you graduate you no longer have your High School reputation and won't have to worry about it.

Simplest Solution.
 

familyguyfan

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 2, 2005
Messages
551
Reaction score
0
Yeah I'm with Boner. Raise your standards. Start looking for girls that you can have fun with WITHOUT hooking up. Ones you can have good, meaningful conversations with.



And, I have a question. Were you already fairly popular before you went into the "transformation?" The reason I ask is because in high school being popular and having a good reputation is really the main thing that will get you most girls. All the other stuff helps, but without any popularity, it can be pretty difficult to get some of the hotter girls. That's one of my personal roadblocks. I'm not a popular guy. I generally hang out with the popular/semi-popular crowd, but I wouldn't consider myself popular. That's why lately I've been going for girls that go to different schools. It's so much easier because they don't know your reputation already. Anyways, if you weren't already popular and had a good rep, what did you do to change that?
 

benassi

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 4, 2004
Messages
43
Reaction score
0
Age
37
Location
New York
And, I have a question. Were you already fairly popular before you went into the "transformation?" The reason I ask is because in high school being popular and having a good reputation is really the main thing that will get you most girls. All the other stuff helps, but without any popularity, it can be pretty difficult to get some of the hotter girls. That's one of my personal roadblocks. I'm not a popular guy. I generally hang out with the popular/semi-popular crowd, but I wouldn't consider myself popular. That's why lately I've been going for girls that go to different schools. It's so much easier because they don't know your reputation already. Anyways, if you weren't already popular and had a good rep, what did you do to change that?



Yeah alot of people knew who I was already because I fcuked the hottest girl in 8th grade, so mad ppl heard about it and i'm a loud kid and i make friends with everyone. I also do club promoting and **** so people know.. Another thing is, anyone who hates on myspace is a ****ing idiot cuz i've gotten with at least 20 girls i met on there, it's easy as hell. And most the girls i get with that I just meet dont know who i am nd fall for me then eventually find out my reputation, its a ***** haha.. I have a girl im seeing now steadily, I have other girls who i was planning on getting with so I don't know what im gonna do now, either get with the girls waitin 4 me, nd then stay steady with 1, or jus say **** it to all them =x
 

08aisaac

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 22, 2005
Messages
740
Reaction score
1
Age
36
You'll know when you find that chick you really want to date.

Till then, pimp out.
 

Phat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 14, 2005
Messages
382
Reaction score
1
tell them u got a 3 inch penis..nah j.k
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

dannowillbookem

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 14, 2005
Messages
1,151
Reaction score
5
Location
florida baby
u sound like an ltr man. been enjoying chick flicks lately? feel like u wanna go to a girls house to jsut hang out? and i literally mean watch tv and hang out and chat?

nothing wrong with that, i've been thinking along these lines lately too. however, i find its hard **** to get into a ltr. just start paying a little (LITTLE) more attention to one or two hoes that u really like the personality of and u click well with...extra kino, kino that is harmless, and a smile when you look at them. listening to them talk a lil more, etc.

work things up to regular dating and make the jump from there.
 

08aisaac

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 22, 2005
Messages
740
Reaction score
1
Age
36
Danno, you been gone forever. Things are definitely a little different for all of us. lol.
 
Top