"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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lol stupid approaching fear

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arrrrrrg i need to just grab my balls and do it. Its pissing me off. I dont have as much fear with younger girls anymore but thats cause i'v lost respect for them and i feel WAY above them (maturity anyway). A couple i have a big fear for and its making me so angry. but as for girlz my own age and older its pissing me off. I mean im just terrified to make light convo. Its making me so mad cause its almost like a phobia. I will sometimes even shake lol haha. I shake sometiems even just thinking about it. I gotta get off my ass and did what pug did since there is no easy way out. I get my paycheck this friday so i'd figure i'd do some shopping and try it then (im not the bookstore type......lol)

today is the second day in a row where i sat near an hb8 while wating for my ride and i'v chickened out. And its wierd cause i see her everywhere at uni and always make eye contact with her from a distance (prolly 8-9 times). I thought she was a 6 so i did not really care until i got a close look at her a couple days ago. She is actually pretty hot.



Failed attempt on another one in class. Her face is a 9 body a 6.5. so i'd say hb7. chickened out on that one 2.



arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrg i need to break free from this crap.


i also bail out at work and i know this one girl is attracted to me. I experimented with eye contact and found that every time i looked over at her she would look at me and smile and then look down. That has happened like 5 or 6 times and every time she looks down. she is only a 6.5 but has a "cute" quality to her that i find attractive. Anyway i'v only had the nerve to ask her her name (its work so i dont have 2 mucht ime for small talk) and i did think of some C&F lines but i didnt say them cause i was shaking a little bit. Its work so its more of an experiment cause i dont wanna get ****ed ove at work. o well.



and bye the way C&F does not work well on drunk girls lol!!! My god its like the compltele opposite cause during a rave my buddy found these 2 chicks that were hating it so we went back to his place cause he had 3L of whiskey and they wanted to get drunk. Anyway i thought here is a time where i can compltely offend them since both were stuck up as ****. Lol i made fun of them and teased them but since they were drunk they got really offended. I found it funny as hell,. and the afc guy was actually getting successful. lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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yeah im just rambling........ im curious though those of you that were terrified to approach.....how long did it take you to get over it. I want to get it over and done with in less then a month so i am going to have to push myself.
 

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It's gonna happen as fast you allow it to happen. Confidence is not unilateral, you gain it in one area then you realize that you're lacking it in other. Just keep putting yourself out of the comfort zone. See how far you can push social constraints.
 

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sounds good. once i get my check this weekend im gonna go shopping and make small talk....no number getting since i wanna be more relaxed and obviously saying "i gotta ask for the #" puts pressure and it wont come off natural until i get better control of my states. I sometimes get sooooo pissed of i just wanna rip it out.........im gonna get rid of this soon. real soon....in fact i'll start tomorrow. Kind of a bootcamp but my own. I guess more of a pugesly journal type thing. I'll start it this week (it wont be book camp. I just wanna break my fears away from girls i dont care about so i have more confidence on girls im interested in and have interest in me but im 2 ***** to do anything)
 

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I know what you mean man.... I am so pissed off at myself, and have been for the past 3 days. I recently started a part-time job at a stand in the mall, I see tons of girls every day, didn't get any special looks from any of them, whatever. So I get off, I'm walking to my car and I see this unbelievably beautiful girl, HB10, my dreamgirl, she looks up and smiles at me, I smile back and continue walking.... So I get in my car start backing up, look over at her, once again she smiles, so I smile back.......

and then I drive away :rolleyes:

I have been kicking myself because I didn't say ANYTHING.

I went through the regular motions. Wow, this girl is beautiful, she's smiling at me, smile back, eh she probably just smiles at everyone, look over, she's smiling again, ok, now I should go talk to her, but I can't, I don't know what to say, what if I do get her number, where will I take her? what will she think about me still living at home and only working part-time while going to school? She won't go for that she's driving a BMW, oh well, there's always next time.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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yeah, i dont really think of that ****.....come to think of it i dont really think about anything...i think its just my body's reaction cause sometimes i'll make a call to a hot girl thinking its not a big deal and my body will just start shaking......i dunno if its habit or what cause its not like i have not had the courage b4... and it went pretty smooth.
 
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