"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LOL i f'd this one up

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she texted me at like 12:30 at night, because i told her i would call 'if i had the chance to'.... we text back and fourth... i told her i'd been thinking about something all day... she said 'what?' and i said 'i'll show you next time i see you'.

she said 'no tell me. i need to know. if i break up with my boyfriend, i'm going to need some on a regular bases from someone'

i'm drunk, and for whatever reason i decided to respond to this with:

'i don't care, i'ma get mine regardless. and if we get up - i'ma do whatever i feel you need to want.'

haven't heard from her since LOL.... damn... she's real sexy too
****iness gone overboard i suppose...

oh well, there's a lesson in here somewhere... dunno if i'm going to try and recover this or not...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Heh heh, relax bro.

This may still all turn out in your favor if all this didn't happen that long ago.

Remember for next time the lesson is subtlety.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Why don't you call her and find out?
because her man might answer? she's been giving me set times to call her when she knows she won't be in his presence...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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KontrollerX said:
Heh heh, relax bro.

This may still all turn out in your favor if all this didn't happen that long ago.

Remember for next time the lesson is subtlety.
it could turn out in my favor... sure...

i'll see her tomorrow, she works on the 1st floor of the building i work in...

i'll smile - if she smiles back, maybe she's over it...

if she doesn't - oh well...

i basically have a main girl, and let other girls come and go out of my life... it's not a big deal if she's decided she's done with me after that...
 

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Personally unless you are just looking for a lay I would say forget her. She's not very good girlfriend material if she is going behind her boy's back like that. Best of luck to you in whatever happens.
 

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Unl1m1t3d said:
Personally unless you are just looking for a lay I would say forget her. She's not very good girlfriend material if she is going behind her boy's back like that. Best of luck to you in whatever happens.
i've been around the block my friend...

i know...

and i'm not looking for girlfriend material... i'm sick of girlfriends... i like good lays, who looks like movie stars - and those girls are rarely good girlfriend material....
 

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ok well... she was mad... and i didn't care...

i meant her outside because we have lunch at the same time and she knows the guy who i eat lunch with, so we meant that way.

so today we were outside, and we went down there and she was at the table.

he sat down there, and i sat down too...

very strange tension between me and her...

so my friend makes fun of how slow i was texting my friend who was texting me... and the girl (mentioned) above started making fun of me too, and said 'watch, i'll show you how fast i can text'

then she sent me a text calling me names... but she put a lol at the end of it (which is very important)

so me and her started texting each other back and fourth, and my boy noticed and excused himself because he was feeling awkward...

but now all is good... but i'll still never forget sending such a f'd up text message to someone...
 

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She is quite clearly a hor, and probably a feminist. She didn't like you calling the shots. She wants you to be her boy toy human dildo with few questions asked. When you tried to take charge, she disapproved.

That said, you can probably have her back in a heartbeat if you do something in the way of reconciliation (probably not a full apology, but something along the lines of "I didn't mean it")

but she sounds like a soul-diminishing experience to me. I wouldn't touch her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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bukowski_merit said:
she texted me at like 12:30 at night, because i told her i would call 'if i had the chance to'.... we text back and fourth... i told her i'd been thinking about something all day... she said 'what?' and i said 'i'll show you next time i see you'.

she said 'no tell me. i need to know. if i break up with my boyfriend, i'm going to need some on a regular bases from someone'

i'm drunk, and for whatever reason i decided to respond to this with:

'i don't care, i'ma get mine regardless. and if we get up - i'ma do whatever i feel you need to want.'
'i don't care, i'ma get mine regardless. and if we get up - i'ma do whatever i feel you need to want.'

How does a response like that get her excited and make her knees weak? You are sounding like she's a $2 wh0re. If you wanted to have sex with her, you might have been better off making her feel special.

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No Mr. Bond, I expect you to die!!
 

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she is a $2 wh0re. She's dating some guy exclusively and she's still soliciting sex from other guys. What a f*cking monkey-branching b1tch.

But yeah, it was a kinda dumb response on his part.
 

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as i said - i have no clue why i sent her that text message...

i hate sending text messages because i'm so slow at it, so a lot of times i skip over words... and even more so when i'm drunk...

so i'm sure that factored into it...

and yeah, i know... i don't think much of her for going behind her mans back, and i wouldn't date her... but that has nothing to do with what i plan to do with her... and hopefully that's not 'catch a disease'
 

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DonJuan11 said:
'i don't care, i'ma get mine regardless. and if we get up - i'ma do whatever i feel you need to want.'

Honestly I can't even tell if its a bad response cause it doesn't even make sense to me... lol.
is the wording f'd up or am I just being dense?

oh well, I suppose considering that, it is a bad response. I've made the mistake of coming on too ****y or "assuming" over text messaging, I screwed over a FOR SURE deal once... ah we learn.

...Lately when a girl is showing huge interest or something like that over text/messaging whatever I will display the exact opposite of ****y...
Just yesterday a girl messaged me and said "I wanna fvck you lol"... We have never had sex, and I like her directness but I didn't want to blow it, so I simply responded with "Ohhh myyy!", then she text back "Oh my is right, you're gonna be so tired by the time i'm done with you".... I will wait til shes naked in my bed before I show her my ****y side... literally.


Note: being ****y is good we all know, but yes in these EXACT situations, where you havent gotten together yet but she is openly expressing her desire (haha), tread litely.
 

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yeah your response didn't make any sense grammatically...

"i'ma do whatever i feel you need to want" - YOU NEED TO WANT? the fvck? horrible response indeed
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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