"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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logistics - first meet / date

BedSwerver

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So this lady and I hit it off on one of the dating apps (I know it's sort of lame) but the lady is ranging 7-8 (maybe like a 7.3 but it's fun talking with her) So the conversation starts Wednesday, we make plans for Friday and yesterday while on the phone she sends a bunch of selfie nudes while she's taking her 8 year old to piano lessons. Now I get it, she's a nut bag but that's not my concern (at this point anyways). She is giving me all the normal qualifying type bull**** like "I don't ever talk like this to anyone this soon; I have never sent those photos that soon" you get it...So the qualifying behavior is good I feel but she is wanting me to meet her north of my city for drinks tonight. Between the men here, it's not that far (10minutes max) But I want her to come closer to me so I offered a midway point and she started in with some bull**** about, that's too far for her blahzy blahzy; she also said some crap about being from the south and that the man is supposed to pay for meals and drinks where she came from which I replied "you got the wrong one for that"...her response "omg, you're so mean" ........"I capped the conversation off last night with "we'll see". Woke up this morning with a text, "good morning love <kiss face>" I didn't want to bore you guys with my story but I feel like there's a lot more going on than just my current concern of wanting to make her come half way....if you see some of those things I'm not seeing please inform. And as always I appreciate it!

So, what is the best move? My personal feelings is she needs to meet me half way or I walk (even though I really want that ass) The major feeling of wanting to walk is I have already made a move on our chess board by saying "nah you should meet me half way" now If I take it back and meet her I'm not sure I won't look like an AFC (even though she is a wing nut)

Thanks guys!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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2Rocky

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Establish if the kid is going to be home when you meet her at her place. If he is then you are being setup as a dinner ticket.

A woman who sends nudes before you have seen the goods in person is to be slotted in the FB column until she proves otherwise. I'm not above a buying a few drinks, and sharing a dinner with a paramour. I like the whole experience too...But haggling over a 5 minute driving distance is NOT a hill worth dying on. I'd offer to pick her up at her home, have a nice dinner with the implication that I would spend the night.

A famous man at a charity banquet asks the beautiful young woman next to him, "Assuming that we gave the money to charity, would you sleep with me for ten thousand dollars?"
After some thought she says, "Yes."
"And would you for two dollars?"
"Why, what do you think I am?"
"We've already decided that. Now we're just haggling about price."

maybe like a 7.3
 
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DEEZEDBRAH

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I have a variety of locations. I bounce through several. Many are easy to hookup in. Bouncing location is king. Coffee or drinks. Very inexpensive. Can grab food somewhere else. Can 1. Watch movie after or 2. Walk a park/beach/lake etc where you can esculate. F I got head in a random parking lot after coffee.

Esculate. Obviously use common sense. When it's going bad real BAD, Go for broke. Like try to get slapped. It's funny. The worst thing she says is no or you get slapped. I have never had a drink thrown or slapped YET. every set is practice. Act accordingly.
 
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