Lock's battlefield journal, fire away!

[Lockheed]

Well as any other aproach journal, I will begin with an introduction of myself.
I've always had been your typical antisocial computer freak, fridays always on my house playing videogames, or at my buddies house, you guessed it, playing videogames.
I actually wasn't doing bad at all, I really didn't cared about girls, and actually I was getting attention from cute and hot girls, I was at least one funny nerd.
However I just let all the opportunities pass away, I just couldn't imagine myself with a girl, even when I was getting attention (and at this time I was dreaming about our future and stuff, I had it everything at the reach of my hand, and I let it slip).
In high school things started getting different; I went to a new school, and at first I started getting some attention from girls I liked, and I did nothing, at this point I think fate, god or whatever there is decided to teach my a lesson: things stopped going the way they were. I still had friends, but something inside me started to feel different, yeah, I started getting desperate.
In senior year, I liked this girl, so I used mr. google and found about this site, absorbed information like a freak and started tranforming into a nerd a$$hole.
Some months later I got the girl, I felt great having my first girlfriend, it was a dream, we lasted one month and a half before I chumped myself again, and she left me for her "best friend"
This was one year ago, and it really hit me HARD, I got all depresed and I was very very very needy, however I was too shy to do anything.
I enter college hoping for something to change, I got some new "buddies" (not friends), and it was ok, but since it's an engineering college there were virtually no females around there.
Lets get to the present, I have just started my second semester, and I'm not longer willing to throw my essence away, I've made a resolution to plant to seed of change and feed it, not only in women but in all aspects of my life.

But since this is a forum dedicated about pickup, I will only post those things that are within the context of the forum.(maybe I will also post my gym changes, since there is a forum dedicated to that)
So my plan is here: For the first month I will aproach at least 3 women per week, if I don't do so, I'm not allowed to hear or play music (my absolute life passion) until I complete that mark. After that the ammount of women per month I will aproach will increase, while keeping the same "punishment" for failing to do some.
The plan starts this week (Im planning going out on friday to a mall or something).
My short term (month term haha) is just getting used to aproach women, not getting laid or anything, however if thing seem to be going that way I will obiously not block myself.
And my only rule about aproaching is "zero canned material"
I encourage you to call me names if I start forgetting about this.
I will not live my life as a nothing.

 

[Lockheed]

To start with a good vibe, I'm posting the current aproaches I've done, feel free to constructive critizice.

1°= Me and a buddy arrive at some party, however we arrive to early, its 10 pm, there are some cute girls over there, and "we" decide to aproach. When we arrive where they are, my buddy just keeps walking and leaves me there alone with the two cute girls.
Started some small talk, and I feel absurd, but not paralized.
3 minutes later they friends arrive and they just go with them without saying goodbye

2° At the same party after some vodka, I decided to just have fun myself (my buddy and his cousin are just sitting in chairs..) so I go and start dancing alone (I'm a terrible horrible dancer), suddenly some girls just took my by the hand and took my to their circle.
I'm to nervous drunk, and self concious about my dancing I was just standing there, while the girls looked at my like "well, say something"
A good song started and I just started dancing a la 80's, I grab two girls from the group in my arms and we started dancing, the best part of the night was when one of the hot girls of my first aproach was just there bored and watching me dance with two girls in my arms
I will never forget about her face hehe.
After that I feel just too ackward and decide to leave the party.

3° I had to deliver some documents to college, so arriving to line I see there a 8.5 infront of me, hesitated for 5 minutes but eventually talked to her, she was pleasant and we talked for like 20 minutes, she actually said to me "you know, at my school there are just no boys, we feel kinda alone" at this time my brain goes like "dan dan dan dan, we have a winner", at this time I know I will ask for her phone number just before saying goodbye, but her friends appeared from nowhere and told her that they reserved a place for her, she
just waved goodbye, damn

4° This one is kinda old and I posted about it in here, just saw a cute girl in college, aproached her, say hi, and she just stares at me not talking, just told her bye and walked back to my friends.

More aproaches comming soon

 

[Solomon]

COngrats

you are doing something that 65% of the site has yet to do (take initiative for change in your life)

one word of advice

a lot of people start of fast in the journal then forgot it about it later on, consistency is the best thing

I recommend reading

Snowplowman's journal for creating a postive vibe

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=116204&highlight=snowplowman

Jon's journal for inspiration and alpha attitude

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134914&highlight=snowplowman


and Rushing Dude for versatility and perseverance

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=147918&highlight=rushing+dude

 

[Lockheed]

Reporting:

Me and my wing decide to go to the "best" mall in all of the northern city, we arrive there and full of metrosexuals guys and mega hot girls, se there we are my nice guy dressed friend and a long hair metalhead, this sounds like fun
We start walking and walking, and my friend wants to aproach a pair of schoolgirls, but we struggle to find the courage.
After they went into a shop we wait for them for minutes and minutes and I told my buddy to fvck it and go get some new girls.(at that moment we were surprised by my wing's mother who was shopping there, big lol)
After two hours of walking we ran into the girls my buddie wanted to open and told me to let him open them
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5° = My friend goes and said to one girl
"hi girls, so what your name"
chick: *insert name* (with a "go away" stare)
me : And yours?
chick two : name
me: So what are you doing around here?
chick one : shopping
buddy : Are you mad? (I wanted to punch him right now)
chick one : No but we are leaving
both of us: Ok cool bye

6° = I decide to open a set
me : Hey girls, so whats your name?
girls: Eye contact themselves, and go away without answering
me : cool name (I actually told them that haha)

7° = We were walking and we catch some cute girls cheking us out and they stop nearby, there is one girl I like, I recive eye contact, and my buddy told me that it was his turn to open the set.
wing: hi girls so whats your name?
girl one: insert name
me : and you?
girl two: insert the SAME name....
wing: so you are sisters or something?
girl one: we're twins
me: so what are yoou doing around here?
girl one: oh nothing
buddy: are you mad? (argggggggg)
girl one: "whatever body languaje"
buddy :because if youre mad we can just go
girl one: "whatever body languaje", and start biting her bottle of water
me: Ok cya nive to meet you

*After this aproach my wing told me that I ejected to fast, that the other girls was giggling and laghing, but I was only focusing in the girl I liked, Im a bad wingman lol*

8°= My time to aproach, some cute girls with a nice a$$.
Me: Hey girls, so whats your name?
Girl one: Oh we are too young for that
Me: you're taller than me lol
Girl one: Still, were too young for that
Me: Ok bye

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I hadn't aproached for a long time, I know I sucked hard but I WILL stay at this, I've reached my weekly limit, but I will try to aproach tomorrow again :rockon:
And thanks for the resources man, I will check them out for sure

EDIT: I forgot to mention that a policeman almost kicked us out of the mall, but we managed to outrun him to a wall-mart, where he had no autority hahahhahahha

 

[Lockheed]

Report:
Today wasn't a "go aproach" day, but I went out with my friends to a mall and to a pool, and I did one aproach just for fun, I watched this in a DVD i can't remeber and sounded like fun.
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9° = Girls just about to go down the electric stairs
me= hey!, chiken or fish?
girl = eeeeemm
girl = chicken
me = and the other one? (there were two girls)
at this time I cant hear what they are saying
me = (semi shouting) Ok I prefer pork!
I can't tell if they laughed or not
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This seems as an so unimportant aproach, however it was huge for me, I didn't feel nervous or anything like the past aproaches, and I think I could have got some little chat if I had aproached in a better place, again my objective in month one is destroying my aproach anxiety, not get numbers or anything, I'm very inspired to continue this path, and surpasing my minimum feels great :box:

And I started talking to a cute friendly chick at school and I also got her email from a teacher's massive email, I'll keep you informed from this too.

Cheers

 

[Lockheed]

This week was chaotic in my college, and it starts getting insanly hard, I have met some cute girls from social circles, and cold aproched some others.

I will start with the ones I did in the mall, aproaching today was hard I wont lie, my wing was injured from a previous soccer game and Im very tired from it, we are both with some horrible sleep deprivation and carrying laptops with a very hot weather, and february 13th, but I still managed to go over the minimum

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10.- I decide to aproach some hot girls to delete the pussiness in our heads
Me: Hey
They: Whats up?
Me: So what are your names?
*Insert names*
Wing: Are you sisters?
They: Nah
Me: So where do you live?
Girl: Very far from here
Me: And what are you doing around here?
They: Oh nothing really
Girl1: We are actually waiting for some friends but they haven't showed up (polite way of saying to fvck off right? )
Me: Oh same here (lie)
They: Ok we are going into that store see you later

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11.-
Wing: Hey escuse me, what are your names?
*Insert names*
Wing: Im *name*
Me: Im *name* and I'm 43 years old (these are some young looking girls, Im obiously not 43 hehe) and my mate is 13 years old(he is one young looking guy)
Wing: So are you here by yourselves?
Girls: Ah yeah... (at this point they start walking away)
Wing: Ok bye

12.- (I'm aproaching a set of a hot girl and a fat ugly girl who has chocolate spilled over her shirt)

Me: Hey girls
Girl : Hey
Uglo: Hushhh... damn...... and takes her friend away

curse you betch!!

13.-
Wing: Hi!
They: Hi (they actually stoped to talk to us)
Wing: What's your names?
*Insert name*
We: *insert names*
Me: Be carefull of my friend he can be a crazy sick person from time to time
They: Ohhhh ok, walk away

Curse me, my lame joke ****blocked us, me wing hates me at this moment

14.-

Wing: Hi, Can I ask your name?
Girl: *insert name* and start fleeing from us
Wing: Ok thanks

What was that?

15.-

Me: Hey so whats your name?
Girl: Didnt respond and walk away
Me: Ill make sure to name my daughter that way

At least I got some laughs

16.- ( aproaching some near 10's)

Me: Hi there
Girls: Look at me with disgust and walk away

Wasnt that unexpected

17.- (at college campus, not on class)

Me: Hey so I was wondering if you have some glue that I could borrow
Girl: Hmmm I dont think so *start searching*
Girl: Hmm nope
Me: Ok thanks

pathetic, should have followed up

18.- (at the fotocopy line at college)

Me: Heeey!
Girl: Looks kinda freaked
Me: There are lots of people in here, I was wondering if you could make some photocopy of my documents and I could pay you
Girl: Ohh Im not sure the one that is actually in the line is my friend
Me: Oh come on
Girl: Ok
at this point I get out of the line and start talking to my friend, then he leaves and I see this same girl alone waiting for her friend, after some internal struggling I decided to go talk to her again.
There was a little resistance at first, but in the end we got a nice chat, now I'm talking to her often, lets hope something turns out from this
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Props:
-For aproaching 8 sets, almost the three times my minimum
-For aproaching with all the odds aparently against me
-For sticking with this
-For improving my calibration, I actually got some conversation this time

Slops:
-For missing a mega hot girl who was eye contacting me a freaking lot on the subway, Im a pansy at the subway
-Simply because I don't feel satisfied with my progress.

Comments:
I will set a goal of aproaching girls on the subway, there are lots of girls I've missed in there, the pressure over there is inmense
I will try to change the setting from time to time, I think there are better places to aproach than a mall

Comments and suggestions are welcomed, and happy weekend guys (I will sleep like a baby yeah)
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[Lockheed]

Today I went to a mall and to my surprise there were virtually any girls to aproach, I did see a couple of cute girls, but I admit I pussed it, and I saw one of the most gorgeous girls I've seen in my life, but she was clearly at least 7 years older than me.
I will have to go aproach tomorrow saturday, so I will be posting my report until tomorrow (which is fine since I'm still on time with my limit)

However I wanted to post because this week was tough in a lot of aspects, and I had some realizations.

First I want to talk about true confidence.
Since im on "the path", I've worked on being funny, chill, cool, etc, you know what I'm talking about.
I was trying to be that man, I wanted people to laugh, and I obiously got much better than sitting in my chair, however there were (and still are) moments when I felt like sh*t, I was the most AFC'ish dude in the whole planet, I really dislike this.
This week was a little bit different, and I think I got the answers I need.
A "friend" of mine started acting like a total douche around me, talking bad about me, making fun (yeah I also tought in college that wouldn't happen). I was actually talking to a set of cute girls, and he came, chumped me out, made fun of me and took the girls.
I obiously got extremly pissed, maybe not with him, but more with myself, the next day I just said fvck it he is a dam douchebag and I won't let him bring down my entire plans for myself.
So I'm just there with my fvck everyone mentality, and as soon as I enter the classroom he points at me and starts laghing, normally I would defend myself, or just laugh with him trying to be cool with his laughing, however this time I decided he wasn't worth my attention and just ignored him and started minding my own buisness, if he wants to laugh alone like an idiot that fine, but I have some important things to do.
Still in this mindstate, I didnt tried to make laugh anybody, just said whatever was in my mind to myself, like if I was just mumbling outloud.
This is were the surprise came, people reacted much much much better than the days yesterday, people laughed at my jokes, girls responded niiice, and I felt like a champ, some girls actually invited me to a club today, but I declined because I was so fvcking set in going to the mall and sarge (that, and I'm a little short on money).
After thinking about it I can resume it in this: You can base your "champness" in making people laugh, meeting girls, people reacting to you etc, and well thats much better than just chumping your way in life, however I see a problem there, all of your champness will be based on factors that are just out of your control. For example, if you have a great night you will obiously feel like the biggest pimp in the world, however if a "pimper" dude would appear, all your spirit would get evaporated around his aura, girls are now talking to him, and you are left alone in a corner.

You can however put your champness in one secure place, yourself, which is the only thing in the whole world you have total control of.
When I was today in this mood, I can assure you that if people wouldn't laugh at a joke I made, I didn't gave a dam sh*t, I wouldn't start qualifing myself with more lame jokes and stuff, and I remained champ even in bad social conditions.
People notice this and start trating you like you deserve, this includes repect, attraction, being nice, etc.

I want to repeat that YOU DON'T "try to dont give a fvck in order to show that jessica girl that people respect you and she might be atraccted to you"
It is that YOU SINCERLY BELIEVE THAT NO ONE WILL EVER DICTATE WHAT YOU ARE, WHAT YOU DESERVE, AND HOW YO DRIVE YOURSELF, YOU ARE SURE OF YOUR SKILLS AND THEREFORE DON'T NEED PEOPLE TO VALIDATE THEM IN ORDER TO BELIEVE THAT YOU HAVE THEM.

In my case, the way to achieve this one was to literally explode on all the pressure people exerted on me, it was literally a liberation, like if you stopped crawling in earth and started flying free on the sky, above all the media and people trying to shape your life.

This is the first time in my life I feel this way, the next weeks I'm going to dedicate myself to ingrain that mindset into my core, because needing to get extremly pissed in order to achieve it doesn't sound like a healthy lifestyle

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Now about the journal, I am thinking in what my goals will be for the second month of it (which will be the next week weeeee :rockon: )
While I have still time to shape it better, I have decided it must include these things:
- I must sarge without my wing
- I must try other settings, the mall is getting repetitive
- I must open in the subway (just for the sake of getting bigger balls)
- Do not eject, if a girl dont want to talk to me she can leave
- Make new friends, hang out more
- Do not have a "pickup day", I will force myself to aproach several times a week, I want this to be natural, and a natural can surely aproach spontaneous and not needing to mentalize on a certain day.

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That's it for today, I will go aproach tomorrow so you will be hearing me soon, my wing prolly won't be able to go sarge tomorrow so it will be a ball testing day.
Take care

 

[rushing dude 123]

Dude don't b negative, don't think shes 7 years older she won't like me. Rather think she could like me. thinking negative won't get u no where. Because at the end of the day u don't approach u lose, u approach a. u gain experience regardless if its a yes or no, u win. keep going in strong man.

 

[Lockheed]

Yeah I absolutly understand you, however for some weird reason I wouldn't want to hang out with an older, or taller girl
I let go the other girls tough, the good thing is that my "letting go" ratio is going consistently down :yes:
I'll make sure to apply that 3 second rule I've heard before when Im sarging tomorrow

 

[Lockheed]

Man this has to be the worst day in all my small aproach history, I decided to go to another mall, and agaaaaaain, the chicks were hiding behind rocks or something, I had to search fvcking lots to aproach.
I wont post any aproach since I got instan-blowed away in every aproach, only did three aproaches.... and being without wingman was very very hard
This is seriously disapointing.... this weakness will not be tolerated. The objective of the first month was getting confortable aproaching girls as a habit, and to be honest I'm far from it.
Measures need to be taken.
-Since next monday, no more "aproach day", every day I must aproach every girl I like
-This whole mall thing is getting boring, I will search for cool clubs within my economical reach, must surely I will have to go there alone
-While the "cero canned material" is still on, I will start reading some theory
The only good thing that happened today is that I recovered very fast from the rejects.
This day was so fvcking sh*tty, while there is some progress, at this rate I will reach my objectives when I'm like 70 years old, I need to start aproaching girls like a madman

 

[Captain]

I've found that girls on their own usually respond more positively to cold approaches. If you approach a couple of girls, or a group, and one doesn't like you, she'll make things very difficult for you.

If one girl shows signs of interested, though, just go for it. Especially if it looks like shes pointed you out to her friends.

Keep up the good work though. Most of the guys who start these approach journals give up after a week or so (or less.)

 

[syed]

I don't get why you are so afraid of canned material, and yet you have the same exact conversation with every girl you meet. You're deluding yourself into thinking you're not using canned material. In fact, you ARE using canned material...it's just really boring. Your canned material is "what are your names? ----> are you mad?". You seem to do this in almost every interaction.

Why not plan out some better openers...ones that YOU KNOW if they stick they will lead to interesting conversation topics where you can let your personality shine. I've only field tested this in clubs, but currently I'm running with a, "I've got a serious question...can you guys see my nipples in this shirt?" There are only a couple of possible responses:

(1) They look disinterested. In this case, stack another opener or eject.
(2) They say no, but giggle. Lead into funny story about nipples.
(3) They say yes and start touching my nipples. Lead into "Hands off the merchandise"-esque ****y/funny, "I like this one", and/or stack another opener.

I'm not saying that's pure gold. But it's a plan. YOU also have a plan (even though you try to convince yourself you don't)...it's just that your plan is a lot more boring than it has to be. So I'm not saying you HAVE TO, but I suggest that you think of an opener you can use to discreetly guide the conversation into topics where you can strut your stuff.

 

[macallik]

I don't get why you are so afraid of canned material, and yet you have the same exact conversation with every girl you meet. You're deluding yourself into thinking you're not using canned material. In fact, you ARE using canned material...it's just really boring. Your canned material is "what are your names? ----> are you mad?". You seem to do this in almost every interaction.

Why not plan out some better openers...ones that YOU KNOW if they stick they will lead to interesting conversation topics where you can let your personality shine. .

He beat me to the punch. Congrats on going out there and sticking to it, but it's high time you started shying away from the 'what's your name' question over and over. One of the approaches that YOU liked best was an observational opener (Ladies... Chicken or Beef?)

What is your definition of canned material btw? Using someone else's situation, or just using your stuff over and over? For example, I like to use my own material and although I don't make a conscious effort to repeat my own lines to different chicks, over time you will realize what tends to get a good reaction and what openers that chicks just don't bite on for you.

Ask yourself what is a common situation in the mall, and what is a response/question/observation to it? For example, if there is a bus stop outside it but it is 200 feet away and it is pouring, something as simple as "You must wish the bus stop was closer today, huh." can get the conversation started in a disarming way. There are many other ways tied into the mall environment that can make for an easier transition to a conversation as well. Although you might run the risk of being a tad cliched, you can ask a girl if the pants you bought make you look fat. You get the idea, just something to do with the mall, maybe ask her what she is doing @ the mall just to break the ice and then change convos.

Keep on hunting and keep us in the know man. Good stuff so far