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Locker broken into at gym, iPhone 5 stolen but cash left

Scormus

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Guys,

So last night I went to the gym to lift weights. Arrived just before 9. Put the following into locker:

iPhone 5 about a year old
20 pounds note e.g. About 30 dollars
Cheap sweater about 20 dollars
House key and building fob

I don't sweat much lifting so that was all I brought. Wallet left at home.

I come back an hour later the combination padlock is gone and the iPhone is gone. The locker is undamaged. Everything else is there. What is very strange is the 20 pounds cash is untouched.

I speak to management that night and in the morning - nothing returned.

There is info on the phone that could be used for identity fraud and maybe a password or two but without matching user name. Also photos of bank statements which I used to do my tax returns. The phone had the 4 digit lock on it set to lock in a few minutes, maybe as few as 1-2 minutes. I have iOS 6 I think. It was a different combination from the one for the lock.

I downloaded the "find my iPhone app" to my iPad. No luck - it shows my iPhone as being offline. Not sure if that's because it's really offline or off or because I didn't have it set to green on the find my iPhone feature or because I didn't download the app to the phone before it was stolen.

I do the following ASAP: change all my key passwords especially my main email account. Get all my debit cards replaced the next day. Change all my online banking passwords. Reported it to the police who will look at the cameras around the turnstile sadly there are no cameras around the lockers in the changing room. Had the SIM card blocked by the carrier.

Should this be enough or should I get my locks changed too? I am worried the thief may have left the 20 to make it look like I lost my phone to buy him some time to pilfer my accounts and get my personal details. And that maybe he took the key, had cutting machinery on him to copy the fob and key, and returned the key so I don't change the locks.

Sorry guys I know this is a dating forum but practical advice from you brothers is what I need right now.

Thankfully I had saved the numbers of my two favorite plates separately. The other ones I can contact off the sites I met them.

I feel shaken because it is a fairly upmarket gym.
 

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She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

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One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

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Next time buy a sh1tty copy phone, nobody wants to steal garbage. My phone costs I think 15 dollars, its a smartphone sansmvg chinese copy, used. If you've got money don't advertise it. I had a guy last night follow my wife, I have no idea where he came from but I put my backpack down a minute to take a picture and my wife picked it up at the last minute, this dude came out of nowhere and made a b-line for my bag. When my wife grabbed it he walked off in another direction. We were in an empty shopping mall. I guess cause I'm a foreigner he thinks I have money, he would have got 2 erasers, a magic card and an old sweater. :)
 
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Most likely the guy is going to just flip it on Craiglist/eBay or whatever is popular in your country.. Use the Find My iPhone app to remote wipe your iPhone to factory default. Also, stop doing financial transactions via mobile because your phone will automatically access non-secure/shared WiFi networks (Starbucks.)

Did you happen to buy a used combination padlock from someone at the gym recently?
 

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BeDJ said:
Most likely the guy is going to just flip it on Craiglist/eBay or whatever is popular in your country..
This is a good point. You can do a little investigating of your own. Check out Craigslist and look at the new adds for the Iphone 5's. If something looks fishy or they have pics, you might be able track it down. Couldn't hurt to give it a shot.
 
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Peaks&Valleys said:
This is a good point. You can do a little investigating of your own. Check out Craigslist and look at the new adds for the Iphone 5's. If something looks fishy or they have pics, you might be able track it down. Wouldn't hurt to give it a shot.
Funny you mentioned that. I left my car doors unlocked years ago and my stereo (it was the newer USB technologies at the time) got stolen. 2 days later a new listing on CL with no picture an SD/USB card slot.

I met up with the guy and his GF at the mall. He showed me it and I asked him if it was okay if we went to my car to make sure it fits. The look on his face was priceless - I said "Yep, it fits, give me back my SD card or I'm calling the cops on you" He never did give me back my SD card, though. 300+ songs lost.

An iPhone is as generic as they come, too many listings to filter effectively. Unless you can visually distinguish your iPhone through a picture, it's not worth the trouble.
 

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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The lock is gone because he cut it off. A $12US pair of bolt cutters will go through just about any lock very easily. I don't know why the money was left. It would be a stretch that your key was copied and replaced, but obviously still possible. Can you change your own locks yourself? If you have a landlord, you can tell them the story and see if they will change the locks for you.
 

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Sounds like someone who knew you had an iphone 5 and that you leave it in the locker as you do your workout. Most likely they just wanted the phone (either for parts or to resell)

I believe phones on networks that don't use SIM cards like sprint, verizon you can call have them block the ESN which basically means the phone can't be activated again and is deemed an expensive ipod.
 

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Well thats suspicious. Bolt cutters are huge. No one can just walk into the locker room unnoticed with something that obvious.

Perhaps the thief was someone from the gym, or have friends at the gym? Did you speak to the management?
 

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sharkbeat said:
Well thats suspicious. Bolt cutters are huge. No one can just walk into the locker room unnoticed with something that obvious.

Perhaps the thief was someone from the gym, or have friends at the gym? Did you speak to the management?

not really I bet it was a small lock so a small saw do the trick to cut it off, I did that sometimes when someone lost the key here, pretty fast too, you can also break it with a crowbar, but it makes noise.

well myself when I go to the gym I only go with my keys wallet and cell I leave in my home.

well you could calll the police and see what is can be done too.
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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