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Location: London Nas has to pay Kelis $55,000 A MONTH in child support

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For those that don't know Nas was a heavyweight in the rap game. He recently divorced his wife of 4 years and they also recently had a child a month or two ago.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=prvEyPaNzGo&feature=player_embedded

LOL@ Method and Redman getting angry up in there. They do have a point though, it's excessive.

Here are some thoughts from a few other people.

reading around, kelis stated in court that nas earns around $200,000 a month and she was earning $20,000 a month (which is a lot less than nas but still more than some people earn in a year) at the moment of which she has to pay $15,000 a month in mortgage and then the rest is used on living expenses. she originally applied for Nas to pay $80,000 a month plus the list below, but the judge gave her $55,000 plus nas has to pay her mortgage, the kids and kelis' medical insurance and expenses and for the babys nurse and setup, he also has to pay for her lawyers expenses which comes in at $35,000. so pretty much nas is down $70-80,000 a month for the next 18 years.

thats based on him being at the top of the game and making gold selling albums and endorsements for the next 2 decades.

hopefully it will come down on appeal but even if he was to half that its still about 25000 a month.

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the reason behind this is that the child has a right to the lifestyle the parent they don't live with has and what they would otherwise have if they lived in the same house and their parents weren't divorced blhablah best interest of the minor
Ouch.
 

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If you're the sort that just has to get married and have kids to lead a "full life", fine. But I consider my lack of interest in both fields to be a blessing.
 

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You can talk about maintaining the *frame* and keeping up your *game* after marriage, but the fact is, the marriage laws can completely crush you.

The only way out is to subvert the law through some complicated way of hiding your assets or moving to a different country to get married where the laws are more favorable.

Love is good - but never forget your own self-interest. The girl always remembers hers.

And in this particular case, Kelis was angry that Nas cheated on her, so she tried to really screw him over by overstating his monthly income to inflate the monthly child support numbers.

Angry girl + laws favoring her = man getting royally screwed

Take precautions
 

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Are you fukking KIDDING me?

Yea, let me go out and make a fortune and let some conniving wench steal it from me.

That's why Leykis says "marriage is for poor people, people who need a roommate".
 

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the reason behind this is that the child has a right to the lifestyle the parent they don't live with has and what they would otherwise have if they lived in the same house and their parents weren't divorced blhablah best interest of the minor
What total BS. I don't see how a child has a right to a $55,000-80,000 a month lifestyle even if the parents were together and the man had his child with him. A child has a right to his basic needs being met and then everything else is the discretion of the parent. Best interest of the minor is just a sham. This is all about punishing a man for having a child and rewarding the woman. And if the guy is suppose to contribute $55,000+/month for child support, then what is the woman contributing? Let's get real here, how much more does it cost a month to raise a child over living without a child. Maybe $400-$800 a month tops? So take half of that and child support should be capped at $400/month regardless of the father's income.
 

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I am pretty sure he was caught cheating, hence the reason for the divorce. Homeboy shot himself in the foot
 

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Oxide said:
I am pretty sure he was caught cheating, hence the reason for the divorce. Homeboy shot himself in the foot
I don't see what difference that makes. There's now no-fault divorce and if they were getting a divorce because she cheated she'd still get custody and receive exuberant child support payments.
 

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ketostix said:
I don't see what difference that makes. There's now no-fault divorce and if they were getting a divorce because she cheated she'd still get custody and receive exuberant child support payments.
He should have taken a line from Jay-z and not marry at all. If the guy wants to **** around, he should not marry.
 

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Child support is child support is child support. Has nothing to do with getting married. Has nothing to do with divorce.

Imagine if she was getting this + Alimony?
 

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her milkshake brings all the boys to the yard
hahahhaha

damn nas you failed hard brah. wtf...
 

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she was obviously a ho.

nas is an idiot. how any entertainer can get married without a prenup is lost on me.
 

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He's a wealthy, resourceful guy; he should've found a way for her to disappear, then pay a nanny $400 a week.
 
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