"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Loaned Money

Mitza

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I have loaned money to some of my friends, and some of them don't have from where to game me back that money soon.What do you advise me to to ? I need the money.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bible_Belt

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Yes indeed. Loaning money ruins friendships.

Although I'm not sure exactly how the legal system works in Russia, in the US people who loan money get a signed promissory note (IOU) and enough collateral to cover the loan in case they don't pay.
 

diablo

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The best option you have is to ask for the money back. If they don't reimburse you, it might be prudent to 'procure' items that they own of a similar value to what they owe you until such a time that they do decide to remit payment. If they choose not to, resell these items. Be aware that when you try to collect money from a 'friend' that you may in fact lose their 'friendship' (if they ever were really a friend in the first place).
 
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