"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Loan/Mortgage Officer/Lender...Experience, tips?

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I'm thinking of getting a loan officer / mortgage lender license. Or a real estate license or broker license. I know there are a few of you guys here with experience, so I was hoping to hear from you. Which one do you recommend, what are your experiences, learning curves, etc? How hard do you work, stress level?

Just wondering before I dive in. I'm willing to give it 100% effort. I'm the kind of person who can focus and achieve if I really set my mind to it. So what I'm really wondering is what are the possibilities with going this route, and how has it helped you to be licensed?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Can you telemarket and make cold calls? Most people can't, but the ones who can handle the rejection make a lot of money.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Can you telemarket and make cold calls? Most people can't, but the ones who can handle the rejection make a lot of money.
Yes. I don't have a problem with making cold calls, as I've done it before for another thing. I used to be bad at phone calls but I've improved quite a bit since my current job has required a lot more of it.

I was wondering, is there a difference between the license for being a loan officer for auto loans and a loan officer for mortgage loans, or are they the same license?
 

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I think the licensing is different in every state. I solicited home loans in Florida, and a license was not required.
 

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It's almost impossible to become a mortgage broker in my state. You practically have to be one already, and have an immense amount of assets.

The best ways for a newbie real estate agent or loan officer to get business are either going where leads are provided (like the places that advertise on billboards with a web site or toll-free number) or doing lots of internet pay-per-click advertising. You can also get business by running "I buy houses" ads in the largest newspaper in your area.

If you do telemarketing, be sure you have the "do not call list" web site up, and run every number through before you call it. I don't recommend telemarketing: getting people to call you establishes a much better frame for your interaction.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bonhomme said:
It's almost impossible to become a mortgage broker in my state. You practically have to be one already, and have an immense amount of assets.

The best ways for a newbie real estate agent or loan officer to get business are either going where leads are provided (like the places that advertise on billboards with a web site or toll-free number) or doing lots of internet pay-per-click advertising. You can also get business by running "I buy houses" ads in the largest newspaper in your area.

If you do telemarketing, be sure you have the "do not call list" web site up, and run every number through before you call it. I don't recommend telemarketing: getting people to call you establishes a much better frame for your interaction.
In my state (California), you need to have $25,000 worth of assets, which I have. The way you describe it though, it seems that you are more talking about the current slow real estate market. I get what you mean.

Overall, I'm looking for jobs that require a certification/license that don't have a glass ceiling on salary or money earned. The idea of becoming a loan officer is interesting because I have to work hard to find leads, sure, but it pays off. I've also thought about becoming a Notary Agent, which will cost roughly $350 for the course/testing, but it's well worth it. I know in my town at least, that notaries are few and far between.

I'm just looking for ways to slowly up my income. I'm still in college, do some online business, but it's not really a business. I want to make some big bucks and get into big financial deals. The only way is to get certified in various things. I will eventually become a CPA after I finish school, so I'm looking for things that will complement that. I think becoming a mortgage/loan officer is certainly helpful and anything else I can think of.

I don't really want to make that much, maybe around $7-$10K per month while I'm still in school. I'm sure there are still people buying and selling houses regardless of the slow market. I just want a piece of that pie, no matter how small it is. Median prices for houses in my town are $650K, so even if I help finance one person a month I think I'll do fine.

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I think the licensing is different in every state. I solicited home loans in Florida, and a license was not required.
So, you were a negotiator? In California, there's two types of licenses. One of them is the CFL and the other is the DRE (I think), and the CFL is more like a negotiator, but you can only deal with banks that have a CFL license, which means only lenders in CA. With a DRE, you can deal with lenders from everywhere, but the license costs twice as much, and requires more courses, tests. By the way, if you didn't have a license, how did you learn about everything and how did you get your contacts, etc?

Also, how much cold calling are you guys talking, and where do you know who to call, etc? Did you guys work for brokers or just independently. I assume working for a broker would give you a lot of resources and lists to work with but then you sacrafice some commissions.
 
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