LJBF zone--is it different in high school?

[jrodbendi]

I'm struggling with this concept, after going out with several girls and not escalating. I get all upset about it afterwards, thinking I've lost my chance, but everything going forward from that point indicates otherwise.

Does anyone have experience with this concept and high school girls? How long without making a move until you're put in the "friends zone"? Or is there no "time scale"?

 

[zubs]

there is no time scale for this. girls dont think "ive known him for two months, were just friends". But they will become much less interested in you if you don't escalate.

but everything going forward from that point indicates otherwise.

what do you mean by this?

 

[jrodbendi]

thinking about it now, that was an exaggeration; but still, they seem to still show interest afterwards, initiating conversations

 

[zubs]

well then they probably arent into you, but they like you. you wont know if you are just unless you escalate, speaking from experience

 

[Jokerlsk]

listen, just make it clear to the girl that you want more than friend ship and don't hesitate to emphasize it. I know this from experience my first and only case of oneitis came from one of my really good friends, but that's all i was viewed as because I acted like i wanted to be her friend and never escalated from that