"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Long time reader, never needed advice till now.

I'm 34 and have a female friend who is 21. I met her when she was 19, I thought she was older, and I LJBF'd her when I found out about her age and a drug problem she had at the time. She has in the last three years developed into a very good friend. She's seen how I go through women, many of her friends are envious of her relationship with me.

Recently, she kicked her habit and dumped her boyfriend. She's been spending a lot of time at my house, drinking, cleaning and offering to buy me dinner and such. She's very good looking at least an 8 maybe a 9.

I have always told her, she's not my type; i.e, too young, I don't approve of her habits, etc. She always agrees.

A few days ago, she brought over a video of her having Sex with her ex-boyfriend. She asked what I thought of it and I just gave her a few comments. BTW, she's also bi-sexual and we've had a few competitions chasing after girls.

Here's my question:
Why would she want to show this to me?
Should I have watched?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dark Nimbus

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Why didn't you ask her WHY she was showing you this? Obviously it's pretty intimate and if you *are* just friends, I don't think it's very appropriate of her to be showing it. Maybe she wanted to see if you get jealous or to get you thinking of her in a more sexual way.

Who the hell just pops in a sex tape of themselves and asks for critiques? and what comments did you give her exactly? You've got me curious.
 

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I see what Nimbus is getting at, here, and I agree. Post the details so we can jerk-off something awful.
 

jfever

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When I asked her why, she just said she wasn't ashamed of the video. "It's not a big deal".

The only comments I made were ones about her skinny a$$. And a few remarks about it being kind of boring and lame. And something to the effect of "is that all?"
 

thissucks003

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She's totally into you. You LJBF her and she sees all of the different girls you go through and you haven't made a move. She questioning her sexuality because she is used to getting guys turned on and making moves on her and you didn't. She didn't show you that movie of herself just to see what you think. She was looking for a reaction from you to validate her sexual self. Pepple don't do things just for the hell of it, she wanted to turn you on and have you make of move.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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NewMan

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The question you should be asking yourself is why do you care???

This chick has problems and issues.

She's showing you a tape of her fvcking another dude - do you want to be with a chick like that.

If you want to fvck her then go ahead - but you will loose the friendship for sure.
 

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Newman, Thanks for reminding me, I LJBF'd her. It's up to me to change my mind. And your right, the porn thing is probably symptomatic of the same things that caused her to do the drugs earlier.
 

DJ_Dork

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this is a freak chick, watch out man. don't listen to the other morons that say "hit it, hit it!"
 
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