"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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think u can do that?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
phootnote said:like i said, she is also in my class. should i still go and sit next to her during class and chat normally, or should i go sit some where else in the class. there is always a seat next to her open, and i can't walk pass her w/o her seeing me. what should i do there?
go to class early-before she gets there pickout a seat. If she comes and sits next to you, it's a good way to guage wheter or not she is still interested.
Until then just play it cool, indifference is yr best friend.
This situation seems salvagable to me.
Everyone's got it spot on with their advice. Have you started negging and kino? Seriosly, if you have not, now's the time to shine. Bring out the DJ and start letting her SEE and FEEL what you want, and make her want you.
Some ideas: next time you guys are at the gym, chat it up only a little. Spend most of your time WORKING OUT cause that was your mission at the gym. Every so often, use eye contact to your advantage. You shouldn't be hanging around her at the gym, cause she wants to work out too. The best part of the gym is guys will always go up to HBs and try their game. You sit back, notice the guys doing this, use your eye contact with a smile. Lock it on for a bit, and let her break with while she's getting hit on. You can even add some C+F by playfully winking during the chump session. Return to your program, and she'll be thinking of you while other chumps are AFCing her.
In class, manonfire got it spot on. If she's there before you, randomly sit next to her and not. In fact, if you randomly sit next to another girl and game it up with her even better. Now you got the jealousy factor on your side.
From here on out, I'd definitely tone it down.
Tell her "your glasses are dirty."
Then take them from off of her head and clean them with yr shirt or a soft cloth if you have one. If she's cool she'll probably giggle a bit and be like "what are you doing". This also alows for soem very light kino ig you wanna gently caress the hair by her where her glasses rest.
Then put the glasses back on her head and say "there, now you can see me better."
I did this countless times over the summer, with girls who wear sunglasses. Works like a charm. But makes sure you have a good enough rapport w/ her so you can do this. Th
what about this? i was thinking i'd go with something along the lines of there's something on your face like where you point to an area on your face where that nasty stuff is on theirs and they try to clean it up and mess with her like that.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
don't do anything that seems like you thopught of it ahead of time.
Just do somthing relevent to the moment, time and place.