"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LJBF: a perspective from a decent woman

gmm567

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Subject: *****es are disgusting and evil!!!!! Email:
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There are times when I feel ashamed to be part of the female gender! But after thinking it over, if we could kick all the disgusting *****es out of the gender, things would be so much better for our reputation. I consider myself lucky to be in a long lasting relationship with one of the nicest men that I have ever known. We have a mutual male friend who is without a doubt one of the nicest guys, if not the nicest we have ever known! I have heard many other women say how fed up they are with all the jerks they run into and would love to meet a caring and understanding man who is honest and willing to open up to them. Well, this friend of our is one of those type men and he has been used twice by what at first seemed to be nice women who really appreciated him as a friend, but did not want him as anything more. Unfortunately, they where not able to be up front with him and both told him that they were not interested in being in a relationship at this point in their lives when, in fact, they both were seeing other men at the time that they told him so and eventually started relationships with the other guy. So on one hand we have women wanting a nice guy and then when they meet one they have no clue on how to deal with him or reciprocate the way he treats them, so they lie to him about not wanting a relationship, when the nasty *****es are in fact in one, so this nice guy gets burned for trusting the lying *****es! It seems to me that these so called women wanted one guy to go out with and have fun with and only present there fun side to there boyfriends, but then wanted my friend to confide in and tell there problems to. You may not see that as using the guy, but to me he was being used! And I think that they were also using him as a backup plan just in case things didn't work out with there other boyfriends. Fortunately, however, my friend did eventually find out that these *****es were in relationships when he called one out on it from signs he was getting from one of them and he found out about the other one's boyfriend because the stupid ***** let it slip out when she was talking to him. Yes, he was hurt on both occasions, but he had enough sense to tell both of them to get lost and if they wanted to use someone as a sounding board, they should be able to do that with there real boyfriends, if they were in fact someone who cared for them. He is a sensitive and emotional person ( and I see that as a positive trait in a man)and these two experiences with these two faced *****es have made him very cautious about the way he will approach women from now on. He is very untrusting at the moment, but as soon as he gets over that, he will start looking again and have these experiences to learn from. When all is said and done, those two *******s did him a favor by showing him how *****es operate and use guys for their own selfish purposes, no matter how sweet they may seem to be. Screw all the *****es who do out gender no favors!!!!!!!!!!

This is from IHATEWOMEN.com
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cheat_LBJ

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There is no such thing as a "nice guy."

"Nice Guy" is a self-label used by people like me to describe myself and identify the quality which precludes me from getting women. Women don't want me because I am a "Nice Guy" and they only dig jerk offs.

However, if you look, the vast majority of "Nice Guys" also share other traits: fear of failure/rejection, lack of confidence, belief that they are unworthy of female attention, belief that attractive women are out of their league, and a predisposition to assume failure before even trying.

It isn't the fact that they are "Nice Guys" that is causing them to fail with women; women love guys who treat them well. The reason they are failing with women is because most of them don't try. The ones that do try lack confidence and fumble over their words and never make it out of the gate when talking (which re-inforces their own beliefs in the futility of trying). The ones that actually end up on dates worry too much about pleasing their dates and fail to be themselves. Girls want nice guys, they don't want manservants and butlers. A butler is an uninteresting person because his entire life is revolved around doing the bidding of someone else, where is the "fun" of hanging around someone like that?

So, as someone who formerly described himself as a "Nice guy," I'm sending this out as a notice to stop decrying the plight of the "Nice Guy." Instead, call a spade a spade: women don't want insecure, unconfident, needy men who also happen to be nice people. They want confident, secure, and fun guys who also happen to be nice men.

The first step to changing things is admitting the problem.

-LB
 

quest

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the girl who wrote that is a fat chick. jealous that this needy whiney guy likes these 2 "b*tches" because of the way they look..

same story told a million different times, in a million different ways.

every one who has been here for over a month knows this story.. and i think even people who haven't been here, have seen this story but may not have cottoned on to the fact that it happens every single f*cking time.

we share a major advantage here, we can see the truth, and a whole lot more by coming to this site. we know that women will keep emotional tampons, and keep fun guys around.

deal with it :)

and keep hitting the b*tches..
 

squirrels

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*yawn*

Point? :rolleyes:

Women aren't b!tches. They just don't really know what they want in a man. The only reason they date a guy who's "just nice" is because society tells them that's what girls SHOULD do...then they get bored and chase after studs for adventure and society reprimands them for being "b!tches".

The truth is that the guys calling girls "b!tches" for not sticking with "nice guys" believe that being "nice" alone makes them interesting to women. ANYONE can be nice...it's a good foundation for one's personality, but it is NOT enough to attract women alone.

The longer you live under the fallicy that "nice is enough", the longer you will continue to suffer rejection and dejection with women. Women APPRECIATE guys who are nice, but alone, it's not enough to make them LOVE you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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sapphire

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Women need drama in their lives. They need conflict, emotional rollercosters, etc. once and a while;things that the nice/predictable guy does not provide.

I think one can provide the balance. Be nice but not predictable and boring and certainly not submissive and supplicating.
 

DrSoSuave

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sapphire got it. but then again sapphire is a she. the rest of the guys out there don't get it yet.
 
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