LJB turned PLATE???

[slickaz]

Ok
so last night i finished drumming at Church and was about to go home, when a brazilian friend of mine called me and said:

"could i please ask u a big favor?"
me" Yes?"
Her: "can i ask you to be my date for my friends bday party?"
Me: "its really short notice, its 7pm now, you're saying party starts at 9?"
Her: Please? ur the only person i want to go with coz theres going to be samba dancing..plus ill take you out on a date, i booked 2 batman tickets on the IMAX screen, and dinner for 2 at <very flashy place> on wednesday <she knows im free on wednesday pms>
Me: WOW! surprised..umm ok ill come pick you up.

So we meet up, go to the party.
She was looking GORGEOUS! tanned black haired girl, samba dancer.

So anyway we start dancing, getting close. etc.
it was a bit awkward for me coz i always seen her as a friend.

then she pulls me aside, i sit on a bench, there is space right next to me to sit but she sits on my thigh. and arms around me, b00bs to my face.
next thing you know she kisses me..very good kiss..

she: <smiles> ive always wanted to taste ur lips.
me: Well now you have..
she: defintely like them..<very long kiss again>

she: Can i buy you a drink?
me: im drivin u home, wouldnt want netn happenin to that fine body of urs.
she: <blushin> one shots not gonna kill you.
ok so we head to the bar.

While there we take the shot and some friends of hers surround us.. seeing as shes getting the attention and i HATE! clinging on to people, i like to do my own thing.

PLUS you guys always recommend leaving her aside for a while so she knows im not running behind her.. i walked away and was checking out a poster of the rat pack with a list of top hits by each of them <it was a jazz club, lota old school posters>
ANOTHER brazilian girl that i dont know comes up to me and grabs my hand
She: Hey, why you staring at the wall, come dance with me
Me: <O DAAAAAAM! SHE IS SOOO FINE>...haha ok show me what you got.
She: <obviously a dancer also> can you handle this?

so we dance, very nicely..
next thing you know my LJBF turned hook up barges in like BOOOM!!! BLABLABLABLABLA b!tch didnt you see him dancing with me Y E L L I N G.

then she turns on me. like
WFT were u doin with her?
you left me there by myself! WTF slick!..
me: Um LJBF! why are you yelling at me? i was dancing with her.
her: NO! i bet you were gonna take her number and take her to the back right?
me: why does that bother you? AFAIK ur not my girl, i left you to handle your business with your friends and im dancing with this woman here..oh and dont you ever! talk to me like that..

i turn around tell the other girl to put her number in my phone, which she did, infront of my LJBF..and i walked out of the bar..head home.

all the way in she was texting me like
where are you?
come back!
im sorry!
are you on ur way back?
im waiting outside!
plus 20 other texts..

i did not reply.

WTF! i mean!...

 

[Alphamale1821]

is that the end should have at least taken one of the girls back home with you spcially the lbf she was jealous and wanted ur kock

 

[slickaz]

na fvk dat man.
she needs to realise just coz shes a got 34-22-38 body stats and c cup boobs with a pretty face and hair like waves on a calm sea..i aint gonna take that bullS from her.

I cant see another set back bru, I am the prize..she better recognize, if she aint gonna win it, the other 34-22-38 DD cup will..

my goal right now is not about getting laid..its about self improvement, getting my business going and making least 10 million before im 30.

i want a house in Monace and a ferrari modena and a lambo LP.

but on my journey there i intend on getting laid alot. but girls that know what they fvkn with..

im not gonna be somebody b!tch getting yelled at infront of other ppl..

i just bounced the spot..but TRUST ME! i will stick that other chic..i already hit her up..

you shoulda seen her face when i turned around and told the other girl to put her number in..she didnt know if she was stunned/furious/turned on or break out crying.lol.
the other girl was grinning..but i didnt wanna show her i was weak to s3x either..

you dont really think i shoulda stayed around takin that do you? i dunno i mean..DJ or AFC i dont take being yelled at well

 

[slickaz]

ok so shes just text me back saying
"Why and how could you leave me there...we were having such a good night..i was going to invite you to my room"


WTF do i say to that now? i havent texted back..

ALSO PLEASE NOTE:
in between when we got there and this drama..she was getting hit on by this other guy and she was teaching how to dance..pretty close..i didnt think much of it coz its not my place to, i always saw her as a friend.

 

[immrtlwun]

Tell her she has to earn the right to invite you back to her place, and yelling at you in public is not a good way to earn that privilege.
Don't bring up the fact that she was dancing with other guys because that shows insecurity and immaturity on your part. If you bring it up she will think you were just playing childish games by dancing with other girls.

 

[slaog]

i always saw her as a friend.

I'm interested to know how you behave around her. Obviously you said you're concentrating on improving yourself and not chasing her or anybody but how do you behave around her?

 

[slickaz]

- I dont behave like im hittin on her..like the other guys.
- we kick it alot of the time at her house or mine, listening to music..
..
- come to think of it, most times we hang out in our bedrooms with music up or play board games or PS3.

- shes always either touchin me or leing on my legs.
- we always teasing each other, anything from how Macs are the shiz and pcs suck..etc etc..
- we go grab dinner.
- We go watch superhero movies.
- i dance with her, even though it may look sensual its only for fun and practice.
- shes always huggin me and kissin me on my cheeks or forehead.
not so much me on her, but i have pulled her close and given her my jacket when shes been cold walkin back from the clubs etc.
- communication is alot more funny, teasing.
- i compliment her on her looks but only occasionaly.
- i tell her which girls in the club id like to dance with.

Compare that to other girls im tapping:

I play it cool, hard to get.
i tease em, but not like i tease her.
i take em out for dinner dates, that end in makin out/s3x.
right from the start my mindset is not a friend mode but a rltnshp mode.
i dance with them but very sensually.
i communicate alot more playfully but flirty and i touch em in places i shouldnt be talkin about.
hold hands every now and then.
they introduce me as their man/bf/seeing him.


which is why this whole incident has thrown me of abit.

technically there is a story behind this.
i used to tap her best friend, they are like sisters. but her bestfriend has moved countries..so we've gotten alot closer...but when i was doing her friend i started to see her as a friend since i was tappin her 'sister'..

PS: also when i said im interested in improvements like financially, physically and im investing time and effort in starting up a lucrative biz idea. but it does not mean im not chasing after her or anyone else..but that takes up second priority.because i know if i get to where i plan to be in 5 years ill have girls lined up outside my house..

i got game, but i pick my courts...unlike other guys that play on every and any court they see, or others that dont even get picked to play.

 

[Alphamale1821]

hey slickaz i like your way of thinking bro i too plan to be rich by the age of 30. ALso i haven't really been focusing on the pusssy either just working on my self and trying to get to my core. Which means letting go of past mistakes, eating healthier and working out. I'll be going to a university in few weeks so i ain't really sweating that shiit. I give ya props for holding your ground, though you already know she wants your nuts now more then ever.

I would just say some **** back in text to her like " i didn't really appreciate your tone and lack of respect, you should make it up to me etc." Me personally i would call her so you can let her know that yea we may be friends but at the same time i don't allow disrespect from anyone. Make her feel guilty or sad and have her make it up to you. Though you said you ain't trying to tap it, if she throws the ass on you....lol regardless playa the ball is in your court.

 

[slaog]

- I dont behave like im hittin on her..like the other guys.
- we kick it alot of the time at her house or mine, listening to music..
..
- come to think of it, most times we hang out in our bedrooms with music up or play board games or PS3.

- shes always either touchin me or leing on my legs.
- we always teasing each other, anything from how Macs are the shiz and pcs suck..etc etc..
- we go grab dinner.
- We go watch superhero movies.
- i dance with her, even though it may look sensual its only for fun and practice.
- shes always huggin me and kissin me on my cheeks or forehead.
not so much me on her, but i have pulled her close and given her my jacket when shes been cold walkin back from the clubs etc.
- communication is alot more funny, teasing.
- i compliment her on her looks but only occasionaly.
- i tell her which girls in the club id like to dance with.

Compare that to other girls im tapping:

I play it cool, hard to get.
i tease em, but not like i tease her.
i take em out for dinner dates, that end in makin out/s3x.
right from the start my mindset is not a friend mode but a rltnshp mode.
i dance with them but very sensually.
i communicate alot more playfully but flirty and i touch em in places i shouldnt be talkin about.
hold hands every now and then.
they introduce me as their man/bf/seeing him.


which is why this whole incident has thrown me of abit.

There's your answer highlighted. She's a great looking girl and is used to guys putting her on a pedestal and DLV towards her and that unmasculine behaviour is not attractive.

So slickaz comes along and act normal and treat her just like a normal person and what is really happening on a subconscious level is you're telling her she's no big deal to you therefore you must be a high value man.

Also you're fun to be around.

I think - and correct me if I'm wrong - in 99% of these relationships when the girl sees the guy as a friend, it is only because he hasn't got qualities that are attractive to her and as we all know in these situations, deep down the girls usually know they are in control and can easily get the guy (AFC).

 

[slickaz]

Ok so continuing from that.
She hit me up yesterday.
Saying
" SLICK! Why did you leave me there like that?! i was tipsy, but now im fine..you didnt have to leave like that"
Me: "I think you kno exactly why i did.."
She: "Well that wasnt my intention, i think you know that, i was completely sober when we did what we did in the back..so you werent a drunken hook up"
Me: "thats not why i left.."
She: "Im sorry i yelled at you, i was drunk then..im also sorry i was dancing with that guy"
Me: "Again! its none of my business who you dance with..just as its no reason for you to go off at me for talkin to another girl..AFAIK we r not a 'we'"
She: "again im sorry, it was not my intention at the start of the night, i hope we can go catch that batman movie this week if ur free let me know."

i havent replied.

i dunno...if i do go out to the movie with her, i kno shes going to want to talk about sat nyt..i dont know if i want to talk about it also i dont know if i should go or not...also should i remain friends? put her up as a plate?